Asking for Help

[Aleta]

Hello Brides,

I need your help. You might have read my last post. It's been a while. About my fiance being in a head on car accident. He's recovering and we're very hopeful with his progress.

What I was wanting your help with ~ I can't get back into the swing of things with the wedding planning. We are keeping the Jan 3rd date, much to the chagrin of some relatives, but this is something we both want and FH is adement (which I'm glad of)....

But... since the accident, it's as if the world stopped and I can't get that "wedding plan feeling" (you know what I'm talking about) back in gear and I need to.. it's not that far away.

Any inspirational thoughts you can throw my way??

Thank You!
Aleta

[Scrwballsgrl]

I couldn't imagine having this to deal with when you were going along all hunky-dorey planning a wedding before! It would be very hard to get that happy-go-lucky feeling back concerning wedding planning but..........

Just remember why you are planning at all b/c you want to marry the one you love! And this is what he wants as well...no postponement....no break!

He's ready for you to be his wife woman!:grinhappy:

Just do things as you would have before, on whatever time schedule you'd set for yourself....and after a while I'm sure you'll get the "excitment" back.

good luck let us know how its going.

[BarceloMayaPalaceBride]

First of all I am so happy your FI is recovering and doing well!! :) Accidents can happen in the blink of an eye, and can change your entire life in an instant. I can see why it's hard to get back in the "swing of things" with your wedding planning. Just take things one day at a time, and work on your wedding a little bit here and there. (I'm a January bride too, and I know the months are starting to fly by hehe) Don't be affraid to ask for help from your friends and family, so you don't get too over-whelmed. Everything will come together and will be perfect for your wedding! :D

[Aleta]

Thank you, Ladies. I appreciate your thoughts. I'm going to try to take small steps back into the wedding plans. Most of the wedding things are in boxes in my room and another room. When I walk past them, I don't even want to make the attempts again.. but I will...

The car accident and then Gustav (we had to evacuate and Greg had a really hard time with the ride. I drove, but every little bump was painful for him and then he lost feeling in his left leg for 2 days after that ride, which we think was due to a pinched nerve from sitting in the car for so long...) But we're home now and Ike isn't coming here... I'm trying to get life to feel "normal" again...

Other than knowing he wants the wedding to be the same day, he hasn't brought up plans again. It's kinda difficult to talk to him about it when he's on pain meds too...

Ok, NO more complaining - honest... It's rough, but it's doable. Thanks for listening...

[Aleta]

Where is my mind? Sorry, I realized this post should have gone in Bridal Chat or Frustrations....

[BarceloMayaPalaceBride]

You can always come here for a little extra inspiration!!! Maybe you could make a list (if you haven't already) with all the things you still need to do, and highlight them depending on importance. (yellow, most important, green next important, blue least important) And of course when I say "important" I'm referring to time. I know everything is important in your wedding, but certain things you may be stressing about now, should be put on the back burner for you to worry about them when you need to. :)

[RosieAngel]

You're getting married on my best friend and BM's birthday, yay!

Onto more serious things, I think you probably realized what was important - Not decorations! So it's hard to put your heart into them.

What were/are your ideas? Do you have a venue booked that needs a lot of decorating? You could just dismiss this part of planning as unimportant and forego it, which is what I am doing! I'm just grabbing pillar candles and $1 candle holders and dumping them in the middle of each table with some scattered rose petals. It's cheap and no work for me or my florist! :grinhappy:

If you still want to go with your original plans, focus on how happy your beautiful decorations will make FH and the guests!

[Aleta]

I think I have all the decorations together.... It's now the idea of finding a tent company. I have a potential company that I called before Gustav. I called them yesterday, but they are using their tents for serving the police officers, FEMA, national guard and first responders from Gustav.. so they can't get me a quote right now. Again, that limbo feeling, but again, totally understandable that they take care of those who are taking care of those in need.

Greg and I had divided things up by the months to figure out what was left to do. This month was to get the tent/chairs rental company quotes. I might try another company and see what we get for quotes in the meantime.

We're having the wedding and reception at our home and that puts a lot of stress on us to figure out how we're going to make things look nice. At this and time, I feel like, "Just accept it as it is and come on over." But I know me, at the last minute I'll freak out about it... which is why I'm more of a planner (just without a plan and motivation for the moment).

Thanks Ladies... this IS helping!

[mitch]

I went through a "Lull" for a while too. I think some Brides do. To pick Me up and kick Myself up the rear i went on eBay and looked at "Stuff".

Typed in Red Wedding, Black Wedding, Red Decorations, etc.
Or just the word Bridal to see what came up for some inspiration.

I would find all sorts of goodies then try and find the best deal.

Maybe i'm just daft and like the hunt. LOL.

But it soon got me back in gear and thinking of things for My Own Wedding. Then i would get all the stuff out i've already bought and think about how to put it all together.

You'll get back into the swing of things soon Hun. Even though Your FH is having a rough time. Bear in mind He has the Love of a Good Woman and together the Two of You can get stronger.
Good Luck to You both.

[Aleta]

I took you up on that idea, Mitch and it did help. I'm not going with a wedding veil, but I did want something in my hair. I found a pretty barrette that has some Swarv crystals on ebay.:D I think I'll look over the budget tonight and see where we are with things...

[mitch]

I took you up on that idea, Mitch and it did help. I'm not going with a wedding veil, but I did want something in my hair. I found a pretty barrette that has some Swarv crystals on ebay.:D I think I'll look over the budget tonight and see where we are with things...

See a bit of Retail Therapy without leaving the House can work wonders :winktongue:

[mobdilemma]

Do you have a close friend nearby who can help? Part of the fun of planning is bouncing ideas off another person. Since your FH isn't up to it right now, maybe a friend or family member could fill the role.

How big a wedding are you planning? If it's large, you might consider scaling back a bit to make the planning less stressful. An intimate wedding with 20 guests can be just as memorable as a 200 guest extravaganza.

[amisteratwisterandme]

Wow! I can understand why planning is so difficult for you. When you go through what you two have been through in the last few weeks, it is hard to put any value on anything other than life and love.

Maybe it's time to bring some joy into the equation though. Get off your bum, grab your list, and just start from the top. Get all the planning out of the way so that you can celebrate in the same way that you have worried and stressed about all of the negative ****.

I know you are beyond grateful that you were given a second chance. Now go out there and plan your dream wedding to the man of your soul, and party like there is no tomorrow, because we all know there is no guarantee there will be one. Love loud and live proud.

[WebLady]

Glad to hear your honey is recovering!

I think it is great that he still wants to get married and start your new lives together :grinhappy:

If you are worried about the plans and pulling it all together in time, maybe cut some things out and make it less work.

:goodluck: All the best :frogg:

[Nekochanpurr]

I'm glad hes starting to heal.. Thank goodness!

I agree with Brandi.. Are there anythings you can cut/wait a bit, so if they don't happen, it won't be horrible.. Anything to give you less stress!! Good luck finding a tent place..