Starting a family

[blueeyedbride]

How long does everyone plan on waiting before having children?

[Jenn060306]

I think we are going to wait a year before we start to try to have childeren. If they happen before that cool. But i would like to get on my feet when it comes to work and such before then.

[Shawna Bride]

Ever since we got engaged, I kept saying that I wanted to get pregnant right away. My Husband (that still feels great to say!) said he wanted to wait and enjoy married life a little. I didn't understand what he was saying. I mean, we've been dating for over 6 years, living together for over 2 years and I've known him for over 20 years!!! How much more do we need to enjoy just him and me? But, on the honeymoon we actually got to spend some time talking and it was really nice. We talked about travelling, getting out of debt and spending qualiity time on an on-going basis. All of these things are made more difficult with children. It is a 20 plus year commitment to have children, and I want to be a Mommy so bad. But, I think we will wait a year to start trying. I'm not in a hurry anymore, although I really can't wait to have kids.

[WebLady]

Do fur kids count? We have one of those so far ;)

As for the other kind, I think we are going to wait about 60 yrs :bblol: *we aren't having children ;)

[WhiskeyGirl]

We knew early on that our fertility could be an issue and started trying eight or so months before the wedding, maybe more! Keeping track of all that time has been hard. Anyhow, we've now been trying for a year and about eight months! It is extremely heart breaking to be going through this. I had a friend who complained that it took her three WHOLE months to get pregnant and that was hell! Hello WITCH! Come, walk a mile in my shoes, we've been trying for quite a while longer then that!!! We've just started our journey in becoming parents with a fertiltiy clinc and we are hoping for the best, however if things don't work out we are certainly willing to pursue adoption to make our family complete!!

[Kacie_bride]

I want to be a mommy so badly. Justin wants to wait a lot longer than I do. What would be ideal for me is to wait a year after we get married and then start to try. He is not really into that. He wants kids, but not any time soon. However, hopefully I'll get a good job after December and our financial situation will improve. It's not that bad, but there would be no room for a baby to live like we want our future children to live. That way he may change his mind if we have more money. I would be all game for starting to try the night we are married, but that is not going to happen.

[Hayz]

Lets just say we would like a very special anniversay gift ;)

[CarlosHoney]

I think I'll wait another 60 years to have dc#2. ;)

[AllyM1]

We've talked about this before many times and I really can't say when exactly... We both agreed that we need to be financially, spiritually, mentally, physically, etc ready before we have kids. We have also talked about adopting a baby first. I would love to adopt, and have kids of my own... We'll see in a few years though!

[LaceyinPgh]

Sean and I aren't sure that we want kids. Sometimes the idea seems nice but other times we just like our lifestyle way too much to change it. Regardless to say, it won't be anytime too soon if we have a baby. The only issue is Sean's age. He will be 38 this year. But he has no trouble starting a family in his mid 40's so that buys us around 5 years. We like to go out, we like to travel, we like spending our money and time on each other. Right now, a baby wouldn't fit into that.

[tha_mrs]

Ofcourse we all know that Tommio and I have a so he is 3 and we want to wait a year after before we began expanding our family. So when Cedric is turning 6yrs we will start trying.We want 2 more children!

[MOB Karen]

Sean and I aren't sure that we want kids. Sometimes the idea seems nice but other times we just like our lifestyle way too much to change it. Regardless to say, it won't be anytime too soon if we have a baby. The only issue is Sean's age. He will be 38 this year. But he has no trouble starting a family in his mid 40's so that buys us around 5 years. We like to go out, we like to travel, we like spending our money and time on each other. Right now, a baby wouldn't fit into that.


I hope you do, I think you would be a great mother!!

[MOB Karen]

How long does everyone plan on waiting before having children?

How about you, Amy? How long are you and Bill going to wait?

[RebeccaW]

we didnt wait. we already have one :)

[Amber818]

Jason and I are planning on trying to start a family the night of the wedding :D I am ready to be a mom and start a family. Jason has a 9 year old son from his first marriage so we are already prepared for children!

[ikkin510]

Steve and I are planning on starting to try the summer after we get married. So a little less then a year. We have a good friend who plans on trying then too, so maybe our kids could grow up together. We would also like to adopt at least one child. I would love to have a HUGE family, Steve thinks more like 3 kids.

[LaceyinPgh]

I hope you do, I think you would be a great mother!!
That is very nice of you to say. You're either being nice or my mother or FMIL got in contact with you. THe fac tof the matter is though, babies are cute, but I deal with what they grow into every day. After dealing with someone else's teenagers all day, I'm not sure if I want to come home to deal with my own.

[MOB Karen]

That is very nice of you to say. You're either being nice or my mother or FMIL got in contact with you. THe fac tof the matter is though, babies are cute, but I deal with what they grow into every day. After dealing with someone else's teenagers all day, I'm not sure if I want to come home to deal with my own.


lol And they are a hell of a lot harder to deal with when they're your own. I had a very hard time with my son (still do), plus the fact that he didn't have a father that was around and all that entails. So I had to do it all myself which was extremely difficult. I just think that it's the way you deal with other people's teenagers is what makes you so special. If only my son would have had a teacher like you, it could have made all the difference in the world. I just want to say thank you for helping other people's children.

[andysgirl07]

We aren't sure yet if we want kids or not. We definitely want to enjoy married life for a while before we decide. So probably about 8 to 10 years if we do try.

[blueeyedbride]

WEll I"m ready to start a little befor the wedding , but he doesn't want to but I say I'm in controll of that part!!!!!!! I 'm honeslty ready now been ready but now is a little too soon

[MOB Karen]

Amber told me I could share this with you so here goes...

I was going to become a Grandmother for the second time on 9/7/06. But God realized that he needed that baby more than we did.http://www.clicksmilies.com/s0105/engel/angel-smiley-017.gif So we aren't going to plan for a baby, but we are going to plan for a wedding. The wedding does not replace the baby, but it does sort of fill the gaping hole that was left. I know that when the time is right, Amber will get pregnant again,http://www.clicksmilies.com/s0105/liebe/love-smiley-029.gifand she will make a wonderful Mother.

[Kacie_bride]

I think Amber would make a very good mother as well! She has a great one as an example!

[WhiskeyGirl]

Amber told me I could share this with you so here goes...

I was going to become a Grandmother for the second time on 9/7/06. But God realized that he needed that baby more than we did.http://www.clicksmilies.com/s0105/engel/angel-smiley-017.gif So we aren't going to plan for a baby, but we are going to plan for a wedding. The wedding does not replace the baby, but it does sort of fill the gaping hole that was left. I know that when the time is right, Amber will get pregnant again,http://www.clicksmilies.com/s0105/liebe/love-smiley-029.gifand she will make a wonderful Mother.

I'm very sorry that you both had to suffer through the terriable loss of miscarriage. I cannot even understand how you feel. Again I am very sorry. I also believe that Amber will make a wonderful mommy!!

[MOB Karen]

I think Amber would make a very good mother as well! She has a great one as an example!

Thank you, Kacie!

[MOB Karen]

I'm very sorry that you both had to suffer through the terriable loss of miscarriage. I cannot even understand how you feel. Again I am very sorry. I also believe that Amber will make a wonderful mommy!!

Thanks, Shawna!

[LizabethDavis]

MOB Karen, you are such a great mom!! That brought a little tear to my eye...

As for us, I all ready have two munchkins from PR's, but we want one more, although, I don't know how long we will wait. Not too much longer I hope!

[MOB Karen]

MOB Karen, you are such a great mom!! That brought a little tear to my eye...

As for us, I all ready have two munchkins from PR's, but we want one more, although, I don't know how long we will wait. Not too much longer I hope!

Thanks for saying so, Lizabeth!

[brewsells]

Well, I already have 2. As far as my son is concerned my FH is his dad. (He doens't know his real father).. I want to have one more.. FH says I have to wait 5 years. I will be 30!! I don't want to wait that long. Since I had my first at 15, I will essentially be raising kids most of my life. If it were up to me, I would say in about a year or so...

[countrygirl]

Well, Josh and I already have kids, he has three, I have one. SO I guess waiting to start a fam wouldn't apply to us, then, would it??:tongue:

[usahgrad]

Our original plan was to start on the honeymoon...we both want children very badly and we're worried about Jason's age and him outgrowing the kids, so to speak. However, when Jason lost his job, we lost our health insurance, and I will not have a child on the government dollar (no offense to those who have), so we're waiting at least until we have health insurance (which may be forever). My plan, if the economy cooperates, is to be buying a house by the end of this year or by our first anniversary next year and then start kids then...get a puppy too! But we'll see where the almighty dollar leads us and we may have to put it off even longer than that.

I do know one thing for certain, either we buy a house and move in months before I'm due (if not before conception) or we wait until after the birth to move because my brother and sister-in-law moved less than a month before the baby was born and that was so crazy-hectic for them that they forgot everyone for Christmas. No phone calls, no preasents, not even a card. So, I learned from his mistake and I will not be doing that...I also will not be buying a split level...I just don't get those. Anyways...sorry.

[sweet bride]

hi we are planning to have a baby after one year i'd love to have a boy

[cowboysbride]

Amber told me I could share this with you so here goes...

I was going to become a Grandmother for the second time on 9/7/06. But God realized that he needed that baby more than we did.http://www.clicksmilies.com/s0105/engel/angel-smiley-017.gif So we aren't going to plan for a baby, but we are going to plan for a wedding. The wedding does not replace the baby, but it does sort of fill the gaping hole that was left. I know that when the time is right, Amber will get pregnant again,http://www.clicksmilies.com/s0105/liebe/love-smiley-029.gifand she will make a wonderful Mother.

The way you all talk about things on here and the way you just explained her miscarriage above I honestly feel that Amber will be a great mother and Karen will be an awesome grandmother...best of luck to all of you, I will keep you in my prayers.

[cowboysbride]

Eric and I are planning on having babies soon...we need to get a few things straightened out (the purchase of our dream farm) but depending on how that goes we will have babies soon, hopefully. He wanted them so bad and so did I so we feel among everything else we were meant to be together...

[Amber818]

The way you all talk about things on here and the way you just explained her miscarriage above I honestly feel that Amber will be a great mother and Karen will be an awesome grandmother...best of luck to all of you, I will keep you in my prayers.

Thank you Ellen, that was very kind of you to say.

[cowboysbride]

Thank you Ellen, that was very kind of you to say.

You should know by now that I say what I mean and mean what I say...I meant every word. I would never wish the exprience that you all went through on anyone.

...and while I'm at it I just want to say (feeling a little warm and fuzzy today) that if I ever hurt your feelings or your moms I am truly sorry...I am woman, hear me roar and I get caught up in the moment.... blame it on my raging hormones or the cold hard fact that my mouth over rides my brain alot...so please forgive me if I offended you or her in anyway.

[Amber818]

You should know by now that I say what I mean and mean what I say...I meant every word. I would never wish the exprience that you all went through on anyone.

...and while I'm at it I just want to say (feeling a little warm and fuzzy today) that if I ever hurt your feelings or your moms I am truly sorry...I am woman, hear me roar and I get caught up in the moment.... blame it on my raging hormones or the cold hard fact that my mouth over rides my brain alot...so please forgive me if I offended you or her in anyway.

You know, Ellen, I really appreciate this and so does my mom. I know that my mom's feelings were really hurt and when she read this post I think she felt a lot better....something about "I'm sorry's", you know? There was offense taken but like so many other things in life with time it wanes...thank you again! There are no hard feelings : )

[cowboysbride]

You know, Ellen, I really appreciate this and so does my mom. I know that my mom's feelings were really hurt and when she read this post I think she felt a lot better....something about "I'm sorry's", you know? There was offense taken but like so many other things in life with time it wanes...thank you again! There are no hard feelings : )

It (the apology) needed to be said, I was in the wrong. I sincerely hope your mom feels the same way...


.....so how about that wedding??? From your list you look like your accomplishing things left and right! Best of luck can't wait to see the pics of the big day!

[Amber818]

.....so how about that wedding??? From your list you look like your accomplishing things left and right! Best of luck can't wait to see the pics of the big day!

Ellen, Ellen, Ellen....my wedding is going to be amazing...just amazing!!! It is all coming together so perfectly. I feel like we are ahead of them game...I hope! What about yours...it is right around the corner...your journal looks great...I love DIY stuff but I am not the least bit crafty...

[MOB Karen]

It (the apology) needed to be said, I was in the wrong. I sincerely hope your mom feels the same way...

I do feel the same way, Ellen! It was very considerate of you to apologize. It means a lot to me! Thank you very much!!! Also, if I ever said or did anything to hurt your feelings, I apologize as well. This subject is over as far as I'm concerned.


.....so how about that wedding??? From your list you look like your accomplishing things left and right! Best of luck can't wait to see the pics of the big day!


We are getting so excited, we can stand it!! Ok, I just thought of the subject for my next poll, how the hell did all of you married brides make it through the last 2 months of planning your wedding without dying of excitement. LOL!!

[brewsells]

Ellen, Ellen, Ellen....my wedding is going to be amazing...just amazing!!! It is all coming together so perfectly. I feel like we are ahead of them game...I hope! What about yours...it is right around the corner...your journal looks great...I love DIY stuff but I am not the least bit crafty...

It will be amazing! I love DIY things as well, and I am not very crafty, but I have learned. I have gotten alot of instuctions from the internet and saved so much $$$. Ellen is quite craft though. How come none of us live very close to each other? it would be alot easier. :D

[cowboysbride]

Ellen, Ellen, Ellen....my wedding is going to be amazing...just amazing!!! It is all coming together so perfectly. I feel like we are ahead of them game...I hope! What about yours...it is right around the corner...your journal looks great...I love DIY stuff but I am not the least bit crafty...

LOL I can tell by your journal that it will be, yep mine is great coming together finally... WHEW.

Thanks...I am a control freak and just HAD to do the majority of it myself STUPID STUPID STUPID...I'm sure it will mean alot sentimentally but right now it means and extra big bottle of ALEVE!

[MOB Karen]

It will be amazing! I love DIY things as well, and I am not very crafty, but I have learned. I have gotten alot of instuctions from the internet and saved so much $$$. Ellen is quite craft though. How come none of us live very close to each other? it would be alot easier. :D

Stacey's Mom is also quite talented in the DIY department. She makes lovely flower arrangements.

[brewsells]

We are getting so excited, we can stand it!! Ok, I just thought of the subject for my next poll, how the hell did all of you married brides make it through the last 2 months of planning your wedding without dying of excitement. LOL!!

That's what I want to know!

[Amber818]

Yeah...that is true...you should be proud of yourself. It all looks so good!

[Amber818]

I do feel the same way, Ellen! It was very considerate of you to apologize. It means a lot to me! Thank you very much!!! Also, if I ever said or did anything to hurt your feelings, I apologize as well. This subject is over as far as I'm concerned.



We are getting so excited, we can stand it!! Ok, I just thought of the subject for my next poll, how the hell did all of you married brides make it through the last 2 months of planning your wedding without dying of excitement. LOL!!

I agree.............!!!