Hi I'm new! but stressed out!

[Samhain Bride]

So, I'm getting married on October 31 this year. I have four sets of families to try and please. My mother and step dad hate my father and my step mother. So, it's been crazy trying to get everyone to get along. My FH and I paying for most of the wedding. My father and step mother have agreed to pay 1/3 of everything. My FH and I have a budget of 3,000 and that's it. Maybe less :/ I'm so sick of hearing about etiquette this and etiquette that from my dad's side. We are planning a Masquerade Ball...on a small budget. Also, we are having a Pagan handfasting. So, my FH side is very religious and so have said they are not coming because we are not getting married in a church. My step mother is upset because my Mother and step dad have agreed to pay for the food. It's been done by a local buffet corp. And it's going to cost them $200.00. We are having fried chicken, mash pot., green beans,etc. So, my step mother is throwing a fit because people will be in semi-formal attire and they have to it food with their hands. But, my step mother went out and bought clear plastic silver wear...sorry for my rant I've just had it...

So, I put together some cute eco bags for my bridesmaids. Like a eco tote, buttons, note pads, necklace,etc and some of my handmade body bags. But, she stated to me that wasn't enough and it looked cheap. But, when I have to buy 14 gifts for the bridal party plus parents, that's all I can do!


I'm trying to have a green wedding and everyone keeps trying to change it and it's hard to say stuff when you are getting a little help from someone.

:(

[mitch]

First of all Welcome to OW.

I can understand Your frustration. But unfortunately You can not please everyone all of the time. Something has to give.
It is YOUR Wedding and it should be done the way YOU want it.

With a Bridal Party of Fourteen Gifts on a Budget must be hard. But reading what You have done seems OK to Me. A Budget is there for a reason. And to do a Wedding "Green" must be very hard. But it appears as if You have it sorted out. It's just a shame Your Family doesn't see it the same way.

I wish You Luck. Come back and let us all know how the Wedding Planning is going. There's a few Ladies on here good with Budgets etc. And no doubt a few "Green" Weddings too.

[scarymary48]

Sounds like your step mother needs a gentle reminder about whose wedding this is. Weddings are supposed to reflect the couple- not the parents. Maybe if you sit everyone down (not altogether if they hate each other, obviously!) and explain how you are feeling?

Drama aside, your wedding sounds amazing, and I can't wait to hear more about it! I'm having a green wedding too, so I'm looking forward to hearing your ideas. Your bridesmaid tote bags sound really cute too, I might steal that idea.

[Samhain Bride]

Sounds like your step mother needs a gentle reminder about whose wedding this is. Weddings are supposed to reflect the couple- not the parents. Maybe if you sit everyone down (not altogether if they hate each other, obviously!) and explain how you are feeling?

Drama aside, your wedding sounds amazing, and I can't wait to hear more about it! I'm having a green wedding too, so I'm looking forward to hearing your ideas. Your bridesmaid tote bags sound really cute too, I might steal that idea.


thanks I found some cute eco totes at Target for a $1 and other eco friendly items :) I wish I could sit everyone down put they are all over the USA. They can't even be in the same room with one another. It's so hard to get people to understand that you want an eco wedding. My step mother just keeps adding paper this, plastic that! I asked her what's wrong with homemade things? She said they look cheap and tacky. :/