Really Stressed. 8 days to go!

[lesliek0211]

Well to summarize this whole planning process would take forever. Let's just say we've had our ups and downs through it all. I haven't been too bad really. I thought I would be a total bridezilla, but really I haven't. Until NOW!! I am graduating with my social work degree this week. Which means I have 55 pages to write before Tuesday. We are also fixing up the house we are moving into after the wedding and trying to get stuff moved in... Then of course on top of all that making final preparations for the wedding.....

so I am remaining pretty calm until my FH's parents come over last night to the house we are moving into. Let me just add that they haven't done anything to help with the house at all, and I've had nine people from my family working on it for weeks now. Well for some unknown reason they decide they are going to buy us a new toilet and install it.... so that's what they did. I was talking with his mom during this time and she asks what time everyone is getting together before the wedding to do pictures and such. I tell her between 2:00 and 2:30 (wedding at 5:30 at a different location than where we are getting ready). So she looks right at me and says Oh, well I won't be there then. I'm not coming that early!!!! WTF!!!!!! I was dumbfounded. I think I saw smoke coming out of my mom's ears she was so mad!! FH's nieces are in the wedding as Jr.Bridesmaids (a whole other issue in itself). His mom has them that day, which means they will not be there until she comes...I just don't care anymore. We aren't going to inconvenience everyone by retaking pictures because for whatever reason she doesn't want to show up when I ask her to!! So needless to say I've had a few bridezilla moments since last night...

On a happy note though my birdcage veil came in and I LOVE it. And my bachelorette party is tonight! so ready for a break away from everything!!
If you got this far thanks, sorry it was so long, needed to get it all out!

[Scrwballsgrl]

WOW! good of you to take the high road and just not worry about it. You are right about it not being polite to try and reschedule everyone else with pictures jsut b/c she doesn't "want to come that early".

On a different note! :grinhappy: Where did you order your birdcage veil from? do you have any pictures? I"m really interested in getting one myself but can't find anywhere local to buy it...and I'm just leary of some of the sites out there that offer them. Any help on this would be greatly appreciated.

[mitch]

Sorry You are having to go through this so near to Your Wedding Day.

Go out tonight and enjoy Yourself. Forget the House, Forget the Jr BM, Forget the Mums.

Kick off Your Shoes, Let Your hair down and have a Great time.

[MOMOFBRIDE]

Sounds like you are having groom's side and bride side present at same time for photos before service.

To cover your hiney on this one, I'd send out a note or telephone every individual in the wedding party as to the exact time photo session commences. You do not want to be blamed for people stating they had no idea they were to be present at a certain time. This includes telling the parents of the children in your bridal party. If Mom does not want to attend promptly and causes children to miss photos, the parents may step up and make sure the kids are present.

For Mom to say she won't be coming this early is just plain playing games. When you tell her formally the time to be present for photos and she pulls the same line, I'd tell her that your sorry that she will miss being in the wedding photos, but the photographer time is set and cannot be changed. End of story.

You can bet your boots she'll be there on time regardless of all her jawing about the time. If she doesn't show then I'd say she's making a statement to you and your husband about your marriage. Either that or she's letting you know she runs the show not you!

Smile!!!!

[lesliek0211]

Thanks for all the kind replies.
* My bridal veil came from brenda's bridal veils. I actually found a listing on ebay and then emailed her about it because I needed some things customized. I found a birdcage that I liked that was super expensive. I sent her a picture and she did a replica. I got it for half the price and it is beautiful. I don't have any pictures yet, but assuming your wedding isn't super close you will still have time. I ordered mine on Tuesday and it arrived on Thursday!!! For no extra charge I got a rush order! I would recommend this lady to anyone.

MOMOFBRIDE- Typically your tactic would work, but my FH's sister (jr.bm's mom) is a huge pain in my ***. I actually haven't seen her in several months. She has made hurtful comments about my 23 month old daughter and I that are unforgivable. At one point she said her girls were not going to be in the wedding and weren't even coming because I didn't like the dressed THEY picked out for themselves to wear!!! Uhhh newsflash it's not their choice!!! :irked: Anyways thanks for your reply. I will keep mentioning the time and if she fails to show that is her loss. I just feel bad for FH. but he's used to it after this long.

[snowflakebride]

First off, congratulations on your social work degree! I'll be with you there in May.

Second, I'm sorry that you have to deal with his family acting this way. I believe that every bride should be entitled to a "One free bridezilla moment" coupon, because of cases like this. Oh well, if they aren't in the pictures, they aren't in the pictures. However, I would remind your FMIL if she flips out because her little granddaughters aren't in the family photos.

[lesliek0211]

SCRWBALLSGRL- FYI I just posted my bridal shots in the dresses/other attire section so you can see my birdcage. PM me if you want the contact information as I believe she doesn't have a .com site.

[caligal85]

Is there anyway someone else can be responsible for the girls being there even if FMIL isn't? It's not the end of the world if they're not there but I'm sure they'd like to be included in the pictures and it's unfair to them since they can't get around on their own. Also, how'd the bachelorette party go?