Should we pay for guests flights?

[mydreamwedding]

Hi,

I am getting married in the Cayman Islands next July. So far it has worked out cheaper than getting married in the states. We are using Celebrations Ltd. to co-ordinate the entire wedding and so far everything is going great. However, myself and my Fiance are unsure if we should pay for the flights for our guests? Some people have already assumed that we are. What is the done thing? I don't have a massive budget.
Thanks,
Lisa

[WebLady]

I don't think it is required to pay for your guests to come to your DW; that is why it is common to give OOT guests little gift baskets, to thank them for coming. It is common to try to get hotel discounts for your OOT guests, but that is about it.

I have heard some couples may pay for their parents to come.

Good luck!

[neebelung]

I don't think it is required to pay for your guests to come to your DW; that is why it is common to give OOT guests little gift baskets, to thank them for coming. It is common to try to get hotel discounts for your OOT guests, but that is about it.

I have heard some couples may pay for their parents to come.

Good luck!
I agree; it's presumptuous for guests to assume you'll pay for them... an invitation to a wedding never presumes to pay for travel expenses, whether it's across the state or over the seas.

[bichonlvr]

I did not and would not...they are going on vacation too!!!!

[mitch]

We've got a couple of Guests flying in the day before and they are paying for their own Flights AND Hotel. Although i did manage to get Discount on the Hotel because i work there. :winktongue:

Normally when they visit i pick them up from the Airport. Lucky for us it is One Junction away on the Motorway and about a Ten Minute Drive. But for the Wedding they are getting Taxis here. They all said i'll have enough to do on the day. And that the last thing i need to worry about is getting to the Airport for Arrival times. Which i thought was rather sweet of them to consider.

So My reply is No. They should foot the bill. You have enough expense to worry about.

[brendalin]

That is crazy to me that people would assume you would foot thie bill for them to go to your wedding. It will be a vacation for them as well. I am voting a big NO on that one!

[mrsg2b]

My Dream Wedding,
I definitely don't think you're obligated to pay for everyone's flights out there... I recently read in a bridal magazine etiquette article that you should, however, pay for your bridesmaid's hotel accommodations for however long you require them to be out there... Any additional days they choose to stay are on them!
I'm just starting to look into planning a destination wedding for next fall/winter because of the size of my family at home & noticed you said it has turned out to be cheaper with the planner you're using... I was also looking into the Cayman Islands and I know this is a really crass question but I'm not enabled to private message so I was wondering about the specifics of cost regarding your ceremony & reception, guest room rate deals, etc. IF you don't mind sharing??? I've been searching the internet & coming up with nothing so I'm hoping to get some info from all you "experienced" brides (PLEASE don't be offended!!!). If you could private message me I would forever be in your debt lol!

[BarceloMayaPalaceBride]

We're not flying our guests to Mexico. I think it's silly that anyone would "assume" you are paying. If you can afford it, it's a very very nice gesture but you are definetely not obligated to do so. :)

[RosieAngel]

I didn't pay for any guests' travel expenses to my DW, though I did help those interested in finding good deals!

I liked to think that the cost of guests attending would help weed out those more interesting in free food and booze than the actual wedding. It really worked well! The group who did spend the money to come was a joyful, intimate one!

[heather007]

Hi,

I am getting married in the Cayman Islands next July. So far it has worked out cheaper than getting married in the states. We are using Celebrations Ltd. to co-ordinate the entire wedding and so far everything is going great. However, myself and my Fiance are unsure if we should pay for the flights for our guests? Some people have already assumed that we are. What is the done thing? I don't have a massive budget.
Thanks,
Lisa

Hi,

We are not paying for our guests to come to our wedding. We are, of course, covering the normals- supper, etc.- but nothing else.

My sister assumed that we would pay for her and her husbands flight, I told them flat out that we wouldn't do that. I don't have it in our budget to do that!!!!

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[Soon2beWed09]

I'm not paying for my guest either

[SunnyAB]

If you decide to pay for your guests, let me know and I will tell you where to send my invitation! :wink:

I can't believe someone would just assume you would foot the bill for all airfare!

[jlwbwt]

They should pay their own way. Very presumptious to think that you would pay! Have a beautiful day!!