jeannicole
04-26-2006, 10:57 AM
:censored: So ok.....I think my FH and I have found a solution to our problem. We are not going to have an Engagement party at all, we are not going to have the families meet at all, to be frank we have decided that when the time comes we will just find an officiant and get married on the beach with just our kids there! My family is acting COMPLETELY childish and I just can't handle it anymore! Ever since I was a little girl and my parents divorced! The whole story is that my dad won't stand up and defend his own children! He always says "you can't make me choose!" Our step-mom has made it VERY clear that we are NOTHING and always will be! My younger sister (Samantha) was the first to get married and she didn't get ANYTHING that she wanted for/at her wedding. She told Samantha that it had to be done at their house and that they had to have people make food to bring over, she didn't get an engagement party, and never had time to sit and work with my sister on the invitations or anything! So guess what, the WEEKEND before her wedding NOT ONE INVITATION WAS EVEN MADE LET ALONE SENT OUT! She told my sister to start calling people and hope for the best! She is always treating us like ****! But now that our step-sister is getting married (her mother....our step-mother) is giving her the wedding "she deserves"!
That's not all......my step-mom's brother had a little girl who is now 9 years old. Her mother is a drug addict and so is her dad. Her dad is currently serving time so mom had to get rid of the kid. She dropped this little girl, Mary, off at a family member's house and didn't come back. That was in February! My step-mom felt it necessary to adopt this little girl because she has noone left. This little girl was taught to lie, cheat & steal because that is how her and her mother "made it by". That is when my dad asked Samantha to move in and help them take care of her. They asked that she get her up in the morning and make sure that she gets on the bus and then get her off the bus in the afternoon. They let Mary smart mouth and throw fits and she has been caught RED HANDED twice stealing money from our step-brothers pants!
This is where the plot thickens! My sister had been at my home on Monday and had been watching my children so that I could go to a job interview. When she returned home later that night she discovered that EVERYTHING she owned was gone! Her television, her Alarm Clock, ALL of her clothes, ALL of her husbands clothes, and almost all of her daughters clothes! The playstaion and all the accessories were also missing. They are a young couple and already dont have much to begin with so imagine what it must feel like to know that the clothes on your back are all you have left! She attempted to speak with our father about this and he simply put her off! She then tried to speak with our step-mom about this and she stated that our step-brother was also missing stuff. We had learned that he was again missing money and also a bag of marijuana! This kid just turned 18 in October and has been thrown out of school for possession, arrested and thrown in jail for possession (about a month later) and has since been caught distributing EVERYWHERE! They are more concerned about finding his money and illegal drugs than they are with finding my sisters stuff! My sister has tried to speak with our father to let him know that she no longer feels safe in that house and wishes to move out and will not be helping take care of Mary anymore! My father responds with "You are not moving out! And you are going to help us with Mary!" Am I just losing it or does this all seem horribly wrong? We have offered to let her & husband & their daughter live with us until they get back on their feet again and try to help them recover or replace the stuff that went missing. I have also spoke with our father in regards to this mess, he has told me that I am just trying to stir that pot and get him fired up...I should stay out of it and her things will come back.
The way I see it.....our step-mom (Kelley) and her son (Joe our step-brother) had this planned out from the start! We have been accussed in the past for things that we weren't part of so it only seems logical to apply that to this situation! I think that this is their way of teaching my sister a lesson....she thinks that it has been my sister or her husband stealing the money all along, they are completely disregarding the fact that they have caught Mary in the act twice! What do you ladies think?!?! Am I just going crazy? What else can I / we do? Thanks in advance!:censored:
That's not all......my step-mom's brother had a little girl who is now 9 years old. Her mother is a drug addict and so is her dad. Her dad is currently serving time so mom had to get rid of the kid. She dropped this little girl, Mary, off at a family member's house and didn't come back. That was in February! My step-mom felt it necessary to adopt this little girl because she has noone left. This little girl was taught to lie, cheat & steal because that is how her and her mother "made it by". That is when my dad asked Samantha to move in and help them take care of her. They asked that she get her up in the morning and make sure that she gets on the bus and then get her off the bus in the afternoon. They let Mary smart mouth and throw fits and she has been caught RED HANDED twice stealing money from our step-brothers pants!
This is where the plot thickens! My sister had been at my home on Monday and had been watching my children so that I could go to a job interview. When she returned home later that night she discovered that EVERYTHING she owned was gone! Her television, her Alarm Clock, ALL of her clothes, ALL of her husbands clothes, and almost all of her daughters clothes! The playstaion and all the accessories were also missing. They are a young couple and already dont have much to begin with so imagine what it must feel like to know that the clothes on your back are all you have left! She attempted to speak with our father about this and he simply put her off! She then tried to speak with our step-mom about this and she stated that our step-brother was also missing stuff. We had learned that he was again missing money and also a bag of marijuana! This kid just turned 18 in October and has been thrown out of school for possession, arrested and thrown in jail for possession (about a month later) and has since been caught distributing EVERYWHERE! They are more concerned about finding his money and illegal drugs than they are with finding my sisters stuff! My sister has tried to speak with our father to let him know that she no longer feels safe in that house and wishes to move out and will not be helping take care of Mary anymore! My father responds with "You are not moving out! And you are going to help us with Mary!" Am I just losing it or does this all seem horribly wrong? We have offered to let her & husband & their daughter live with us until they get back on their feet again and try to help them recover or replace the stuff that went missing. I have also spoke with our father in regards to this mess, he has told me that I am just trying to stir that pot and get him fired up...I should stay out of it and her things will come back.
The way I see it.....our step-mom (Kelley) and her son (Joe our step-brother) had this planned out from the start! We have been accussed in the past for things that we weren't part of so it only seems logical to apply that to this situation! I think that this is their way of teaching my sister a lesson....she thinks that it has been my sister or her husband stealing the money all along, they are completely disregarding the fact that they have caught Mary in the act twice! What do you ladies think?!?! Am I just going crazy? What else can I / we do? Thanks in advance!:censored: