It feels good

[Shawna Bride]

Although Ryan and I have been together for over 6 years, living together for over 2 years, something feels different now that we're married.
I have a husband and I am a wife. That sounds so nice to say. I feel like I came home from the honeymoon, and I have a purpose in life. My priorities have shifted, and I love that. I feel like I WANT to make an effort around the house. Also, I'm paying more attention to my finances. Now it's OUR money, not just mine. I am not the best saver, and I tend to spend a lot of money- but since we've been back I've been trying to pinch pennies.
The honeymoon also brought us closer together. With all the stress of the wedding, it was so nice to spend 7 days of un-interrupted togetherness. We had every meal together, without the tv. We did activities together and enjyed each other's company. We promised ourselves we would take more time to spend quality time together now that we're home.
We bought this cute little game that's called Romance 52- it's 104 scratch cards (52 for her, 52 for him). Every week we each scratch a card (like a lottery ticket) and it tells you one romantic thing to do that week. It's so fun, guessing what he's going to do and for me I enjoy planning mine. It's silly, but it's a great reminder not to take each other for granted. This week I have to write him a short love letter and hide it somewhere he won't find for a long time. I think I'll do under his seat in his truck. That way, next time he cleans out his car he'll find it.
Anyway, I just wanted to write some of the feelings I've been having now that I'm a married lady!

[WhiskeyGirl]

It really is amazing how things change once you are married! I had the same life altering thing happen to me! When we came home from our Honey moon I finally felt whole. It was a strange thing for me, but I love every minute of being Matt's wife! Congratulations on everything Shawna! Take care!! :)

[MOB Karen]

We are all so happy for you, Shawna! You deserve it!!

Ladies, I hope all of you will be as happy as Shawna. You really couldn't ask for more!

[ikkin510]

Shawna,
I'm so glad you are so happy and enjoying being married. It sounds like you had a wonderful honeymoon. That game yo do with the scratch cards is such a cute idea!

[Jenn060306]

I have a hard time imagining the changes in our relationship. Alot of people have told me that it does change. We've been together for 6 1/2 years and living together for over 2. I'm really interested to see what happends for us.
That game sounds really neat! Where did you find it? I think that would make a neat thing for us to try out.

[bnd94]

Me too Jenn. After 12 years and about 11 of them living together I can't imagine anything will be different. We feel married now and have for a long time now. It will be nice to make it official though.

That does sound like a great game Shawna. It is hard to believe how easy it is to take things and people for granted. I am so happy to hear you had a good time on your honeymoon. I can imagine it would be very relaxing to have nothing to do but enjoy yourself after all that time spent on planning your wedding.

[WebLady]

Yeah DH and I were together for 6 years before we were married and lived together for 5 of them. I didn't think it would really be much different, we had been living like we were married for a while. But now that it is official, it is emotionally different somehow, I just love being able to call him my husband and I love to hear him call me his wife. This year we had our 1st holidays as a married couple and I love the cards that say "To my Wife" :wub:

[Jenn060306]

This year we had our 1st holidays as a married couple and I love the cards that say "To my Wife" :wub:

Mark has been eyeing up the 'To my Wife' cards. I can't wait! For the past year he has been writing things like "next Valentines Day you will be my wife" and so on. He's cute. :bbmrgreen:

[WhiskeyGirl]

For christmas this past year EVERY tag said "to my wife!" lol I had to giggle! But it really felt nice to finally be his wife.

[vanessabg]

[quote=Shawna Bride]Although Ryan and I have been together for over 6 years, living together for over 2 years, something feels different now that we're married.
I have a husband and I am a wife. That sounds so nice to say. I feel like I came home from the honeymoon, and I have a purpose in life. My priorities have shifted, and I love that. I feel like I WANT to make an effort around the house. Also, I'm paying more attention to my finances. Now it's OUR money, not just mine. I am not the best saver, and I tend to spend a lot of money- but since we've been back I've been trying to pinch pennies.
The honeymoon also brought us closer together. With all the stress of the wedding, it was so nice to spend 7 days of un-interrupted togetherness. We had every meal together, without the tv. We did activities together and enjyed each other's company. We promised ourselves we would take more time to spend quality time together now that we're home.
We bought this cute little game that's called Romance 52- it's 104 scratch cards (52 for her, 52 for him). Every week we each scratch a card (like a lottery ticket) and it tells you one romantic thing to do that week. It's so fun, guessing what he's going to do and for me I enjoy planning mine. It's silly, but it's a great reminder not to take each other for granted. This week I have to write him a short love letter and hide it somewhere he won't find for a long time. I think I'll do under his seat in his truck. That way, next time he cleans out his car he'll find it.
Anyway, I just wanted to write some of the feelings I've been having now that I'm a married lady![/quote}
You deserved this you done wonderfully.

[hummingbird521]

It sounds like wedding life is suiting you very well. I like the idea of the married game as well. That would be lots of fun and probably very romantic to play. Wishing you the best in married life.

[BriansBride07]

Congrats Shawna on becoming whole in your relationship. I wish that for me and Brian as we have been together for 14 years and been living together for 13. We already have that more emotional bond together as we have 2 children together, I can't wait to call him my hubby and it will be official. Thanks for sharing a little tidbit of your life.

[shawnsgirl]

Shawna,
I already commented once on your post but I would just like to add for me I can't wait to call shawn my husband. I can't wait for him to call me his wife or to be introduced as husband and wife. One thing shawn and I do to keep the Romance alive and to keep in tune with eachother is for atleast 30-45 minutes before we go to bed we talk about our day, our dreams, or tell eachother the happy parts of our day. We stray from talking about the wedding, finances, kids, anything that could start a potential disagreement. We mostly just talk about nonsense stuff like if we one that big jackpot what kind of house would we buy. Anyhow, this talk always leads to some sort of laughter and we cuddle while we do this too. It's just one little way we find time for eachother and laugh together and be the friends we need to be. I think if we continue this it is one small way to help keep the sparks alive and a way to show eachother we care about one another!

[Kacie_bride]

Just so you know guys, this post is really old (from April) and I don't think she even comes here anymore. I think I saw her around one time recently, but that was a couple days ago and she asked one question and I haven't seen her since.

[shawnsgirl]

I didn't even notice that....I must be really blonde today!

[ChibiAiChan]

I know exactly what you mean! After we got married my husband kept saying: "We're family now" and I can't help but smile!

[kevinsbride2B]

Last night Kevin was in the kitchen putting in our new dishwasher being all handy and I just sat there and starred at him. He's my husband! It still gets me all tingly when I see him wearing his wedding band. We too have been living together for like 10 months and before that we may as well had for a few years. But there is something different now. It's like this understanding that is unspoken. It's really just undescribable!