Wanda & Antommio May 19, 2007

[tha_mrs]

Well I have been putting this off, so here goes.

My name is Wanda, I am 24 yrs old and I have a 3yr old son whose name is Cedric. My FH's name is Antommio and he is 25. He and I met each other in 1997 at West End High School. In the South, marching bands are the "in" thing, so as you can guess that's where we met. I was a flag girl and he played the tuba. I actually was messing around with a mutual friend who was the drum major at that time. The drum major and I decided to let things go their junior year,so I ended up alone. Well, it ws Tommio's senior year and both of his parents had passed on,co he didn't want to attend his prom or graduation. I was really liking him by then so I was like, "Every senior needs a prom, you only get one time. If you go,I will go with you and you won't have to find a date or anything" So he agree and we kept it a secret from the band and all our friends. When we showed up at the prom those ppl heads turned!!! We were it that night! And he made it the most memorable nights of my life! We even spent the next day together. We went to breakfast and then lunch and we went to the park and then dinner and it was great! I never wanted it to End. So I asked him to be my boyfriend, and he laughed!

[tha_mrs]

so when my senior prom came I went looking for him,he went to college to march for the "Golden Bears". I never could find him. I ended up having a horrid senior prom.Years passed and we really lost touched, I would try to find him everytime I came home from college, it was like he dropped of the planet! I married my first husband and had my son and left him all in one year! When after my son had turned 1yrs old I received a phone call.....
The caller said" you couldn't wait for me, you were suppose to be my wife...and that's suppose to be my son" And I am like who is this and he starts to talk about things that only Band members would know and I am stunned because I don't know who this is... and then he is like "you know me.We went to the prom together". And I was floored! I told him how for the last couple of years I had been trying to find him and I was so hysterical when we hung up the first time. My heart skipped so many beats... I eventually talked to him about the hard time I had with my ex and that I know it would be hard to date me, but if he was willing to give me a chance, it may work. And you know what..... I got a boyfriend:bblol:

[tha_mrs]

Well there has not been a formal proposal, you know with the ring and all the dramatizations, but stay tunned knowing him that is sure to come. After being a devoted couple for a year, one day while laying in bed watching our son...he said will you be my wife and I said I can't because I am still married. He said I know that....but what if you weren't will you marry me and I said yes, in a heart beat. So that's how we became engaged. I know that Tommio wants it all done the "correct" way. But I am pending the divorce and honestly that's what he is waiting on. But for now it is informal and he said "just have everything together and then the only thing we will have to get is the ring. Antommio is my other half. Everything I am not, he is. I can't imaine my life without him! God led me through the rain(my ex) and showed me a rainbow (my son) which led me to my pot of gold(my FH). He is the father I thought my son would never have. I can love him like I am suppose to now. I love him with everything i have and with every thing I am. My son gave my life new meaning and Antommio gave me a caption! I am forever grateful for the both of them. They were both my blesssings in disguise.:D

[tha_mrs]

As you all can see from posts my wedding plans are getting under way....I know everyone will be a great asset to my life as well as my wedding plans and I am grateful to have also found you all.

[rainbowtreat]

Your story sounds so sweet. I am so happy for you. Keep us posted on all your plans .

[tha_mrs]

thanks a bunch! wow, I see you don't have long at all. I can't wait till I get to your point.

[RebeccaW]

Cant wait to hear about ur all of your ideas for ur wedding!!

[tha_mrs]

I want to say that I love him and he is a wonderful man. I don't have anything bad to say about him. I feel that life has just given us a fair warning that we need to go our own way and we need to do that now, before one of us gets hurt. My life with Tommio in it has been wonderful. We have shared something together that is so beautiful that I will never forget. All in all I do believe he is my husband.I do believe we will be married, someday. As of right now we have to part ways. So goodbye my love and thanks for the wonderful experience.

[countrygirl]

I want to say that I love him and he is a wonderful man. I don't have anything bad to say about him. I feel that life has just given us a fair warning that we need to go our own way and we need to do that now, before one of us gets hurt. My life with Tommio in it has been wonderful. We have shared something together that is so beautiful that I will never forget. All in all I do believe he is my husband.I do believe we will be married, someday. As of right now we have to part ways. So goodbye my love and thanks for the wonderful experience.

As I told a friend w recently split from his bride to be, you never know. That has become my motto.

[MOB Karen]

I want to say that I love him and he is a wonderful man. I don't have anything bad to say about him. I feel that life has just given us a fair warning that we need to go our own way and we need to do that now, before one of us gets hurt. My life with Tommio in it has been wonderful. We have shared something together that is so beautiful that I will never forget. All in all I do believe he is my husband.I do believe we will be married, someday. As of right now we have to part ways. So goodbye my love and thanks for the wonderful experience.

I'm so sorry, Wanda. Just remember that these things happen for a reason. You just keep taking care of your little boy and everything will work out for the best. God bless you, sweetie!!

[Kacie_bride]

I wish you the best of luck! Keep checking in on us!

[tha_mrs]

Well it has truley been worth waiting for. Antommio and I got down to the bottom of our problems. It was the fact of my "still being married". Well now that problems solved and we seem to have gone into high gear! I have finally been able to afford the divorce and that's taken care of and we have picked up and now we are stronger than before. I really feel like the weight is off of us. So Tommio, Cedric, and I are doing really well. He is talking about getting married and moving. He went to do an appoint and found a house. So after we are married we have decided to put the house I have in both our names and put it on section 8. We are trying to move after we're married.
So I guess what I am trying to say is that I am back to planning. I have a coordinator and all. so I am really putting it in her hands. He is asking me questions every now and then and somethings I don't have answers for. But he knows with enough time I will. Well I will be on from time to time checking on you ladies and maybe using your idea(LOL). You have been truley great inspirations and I do hope the best on all your days.

[tha_mrs]

so right now a lot has changed. The colors have changed and the wedding date as well. The colors will be cranberry red and burnt orange wilth accents of gold. The month will be Sept. the year depends on the proposal. My FH hates to be hot so that's why I said Sept. The only flower used will be roses.
Also the place has changed. the wedding will be at his church, but my pastor will be the officiant. Because I have a good coordinator, the only thing I have to worry about is ideas for favors,the cakes, our song selections, reception venue, menue, and other small things. I will be getting everything from a boutique, so the girls get to pick their own dresses.

[countrygirl]

Well congrats to you Wanda. You have traveled down a bumpy road to get here, and I am proud of you for sticking it out girl. Good for you. I can't wait to hear how all of the planning goes. Your colors sound geat!!

[tha_mrs]

thanks. I sure have had a bumpy road(LOL). But through prayer anything is possible. It is like with the divorce being siigned and all, our relationship has taken sigh of relief. It's hard to propose to someone who is already married. That I had to understand. And it is equally hard to try and give yourself fully to someone when you still have your past literally hanging over your head. Knowing that your relationship can't move to the next step because it is leagally occupied(sp?) It causes a strain, and for us it was harder because the ex kept showing up and trying to cause problems...it had gotten rough for a while. But all of that is over and now Tommio, Cedric and I get to be exactly what we are , a family. Now although he and I took a step back from one another....he never took a step back from our son. and that showed true me he really loves our boy.Their relationship as father and son still amazes me. Now he and I are seeing much more clearly now. Love was never lost, our vision was just a little blurry

[countrygirl]

thanks. I sure have had a bumpy road(LOL). But through prayer anything is possible. It is like with the divorce being siigned and all, our relationship has taken sigh of relief. It's hard to propose to someone who is already married. That I had to understand. And it is equally hard to try and give yourself fully to someone when you still have your past literally hanging over your head. Knowing that your relationship can't move to the next step because it is leagally occupied(sp?) It causes a strain, and for us it was harder because the ex kept showing up and trying to cause problems...it had gotten rough for a while. But all of that is over and now Tommio, Cedric and I get to be exactly what we are , a family. Now although he and I took a step back from one another....he never took a step back from our son. and that showed true me he really loves our boy.Their relationship as father and son still amazes me. Now he and I are seeing much more clearly now. Love was never lost, our vision was just a little blurry

Well Wanda, again, congrats. And as you said w a little prayer, anything is possible.

By the way, your little msg of "Miriacles and Blessings" certainly describes your life now, doesn't it???:)

[tha_mrs]

(LOL) yes it truley does! I get a little taste of both. My life is truly a testimony in just the things I have been through in the last year. God has provided me with miracles as proof that he is still with me and blessings to let me know he will be here always. Having faith in our home and God as the foundation of our relationship is very important to us both. Because we can remain strong in faith, we expect to be strong in our unity. A pastor once said, as long as everything in your marriage is going good, you say it's perfect, and it's the best, and you are made for one another, and married life is wonderful. But he said the truth come when you can work through your differences and come through your storms together and cross your mountains hand in hand, that's when you can honestly said it's perfect, it's the best, you are made for one another, and married life is wonderful. See because being married is not just the good, but it's also working through the bad. It is a full time job where you have to learn and grow and cultivate. I was told by a couple who had been married 50 years, that they were still learning about being married.

[tha_mrs]

Their point was that you are continuing to grow through out your life together and it doesn't matter how long it's been, you never know it all, and you never have the optin to stop working toward something greater. I said all that to say this, In every thing you go through in your relationship remember that the important part of the trial is what you have learned after working through it together.

[tha_mrs]

I will create another journal with the correct wedding day, so see new journal ladies.

[BriansBride07]

Can't wait to see all your plans and ideas. I am so happy that finally everything is falling into place. Best of luck to you and congrats.

[WhiskeyGirl]

I will create another journal with the correct wedding day, so see new journal ladies.

You don't have to create another journal. You can ask one of the mods to change the date on this one if you'd like! :D