Brides are from Mars and FMIL's are from Venus

[tha_mrs]

At least mine is! She is terrible..Abby the Terrible! I don't know what to do. She is trying every method possible to keep this marriage from happening and I don't know why. But this weekend was the last straw for me. She wanted my FH to go to church with her to hear her grandchildren say eatster speeches, he said he couldn't go because our son had a speech and he had to go hear him.She says to him"well, he is not yours biologically" who in the HELL asked her for any imput. Now I have been nice about all comments until now. I need to know what is wrong with some of these mother-in-laws,do they not care about anyone's happiness? This really stresses me out cause I just want to curse her out, and just go on. Why do I have to have the mother in law that is the spawn of satan????

[CindySue]

My exs mom was like that. A Royal B*TCH!!!! Im glad I dont have that now!!!

[tha_mrs]

I asked him if he wanted to just elope when the time came, because can you imagine the things she is going to say as the wedding day gets closer? I know I can't do the outings with her...she would drive me nutts!

[KMac]

I am sorry to hear that you are going through this. Especially when you are not sure why this is happening. Have you talked to her about your feelings? Maybe you could invite her for coffee or tea (meeting somewhere neutral), and ask her what the problem is. In a nicer way!!....lol

This is just my suggesstion. Hope it works out for you.

KMac:cool:

[CindySue]

I am sorry to hear that you are going through this. Especially when you are not sure why this is happening. Have you talked to her about your feelings? Maybe you could invite her for coffee or tea (meeting somewhere neutral), and ask her what the problem is. In a nicer way!!....lol

This is just my suggesstion. Hope it works out for you.

KMac:cool:
I agree that you should talk to her. She may be having a hard time dealing with the fact that you are still legally married to someone else. Does she know that you ARE trying to get a divorce? She may think her son is just your "playmate" until you work things out with your husband. You know thats not true and we know thats not true, but does SHE know that? It might help clear the air if she understands whats going on.

[tha_mrs]

Well see she doesn't know anything about the divorce.She already thinks I am. She told him that he needs to date other people and be sure I am the right one.She said I am not his type, she asked him what happen with me. I am dark skinned and short and I have short hair. She told him it wouldn't be a good idea to marry me,but she has never told him why. I tried to talk to her once before, she told me that she thinks my FH is to big for me and that he may have problems pleasing me intimately(sp?).She said that sex is an important part of being married.So, when she found out we were having sex she was pissed!! I never told FH what she said, but I knew then I was in too deep.So now she tells him we are going to hell because we are having sex. She is mad because after having sex I did not leave him as she hoped I would.I think I am her worse nightmare. She does not believe I could actually love him!But I do and I wish I could just tell him what she said and then it may explain to him why I don't like her.

[WhiskeyGirl]

Isn't honesty and communication the biggest thing about Marriage??? Why are you keeping this from the man you are to marry??? He needs to know that his mother is being such a witch to you so that he may try and figure this mess out!! Talk to you FH because if you can't talk to him, then what are you going to do a year down the line when you are married!!!??? just my two cents for what its worth!

[tha_mrs]

I tried talking nice the first time and she ntreats me like ****,so I figure I need to be real with her.

[tha_mrs]

Isn't honesty and communication the biggest thing about Marriage??? Why are you keeping this from the man you are to marry??? He needs to know that his mother is being such a witch to you so that he may try and figure this mess out!! Talk to you FH because if you can't talk to him, then what are you going to do a year down the line when you are married!!!??? just my two cents for what its worth!

I don't want to hurt nim.He is a big guy and sometimes very sensitive about his weight.That would hurt him deeply,so I chose not to tell him.I know that I can talk to him about anything,he is my best friend,but what is more important? I guess I am trying to way my options.What would you do?

[CindySue]

Isn't honesty and communication the biggest thing about Marriage??? Why are you keeping this from the man you are to marry??? He needs to know that his mother is being such a witch to you so that he may try and figure this mess out!! Talk to you FH because if you can't talk to him, then what are you going to do a year down the line when you are married!!!??? just my two cents for what its worth!
I agree with Shawna. He should know what his mother has said and what shes doing. He would be able to talk to her and maybe get it stopped. Good Luck!

[tha_mrs]

I love him, but like another poster said one time before, I can't picture the rest of my life with her in it! She needs to know that I am in it for a life time, so she might as well tuck her tail between her legs cause this is going to be one helluva ride! The remark about my son was it for me!that was enough!!

[WhiskeyGirl]

I don't want to hurt nim.He is a big guy and sometimes very sensitive about his weight.That would hurt him deeply,so I chose not to tell him.I know that I can talk to him about anything,he is my best friend,but what is more important? I guess I am trying to way my options.What would you do?

I'm not talking about his weight! I am talking about his ignorant and rude mother!!! And like I said, if you can't communicate now...what are you going to do? I've been married almost a year and I know that communication is EVERYTHING! If I were to keep anything from my DH, we'd be like my SIL's brother and his wife! Divorced in the first year of marriage!! Maybe his mom is doing this to cause strife in your relationship because she knows you won't talk to your FH! In this case, you are letting her win!! SHe is getting exactly what she wants adn so she's keeping it up! Tell your FH so he can deal with this!!!!!!!!!!

[tha_mrs]

You''re right, you are absolutely right! We believe that and for the most part we practice it, I guess for the exception of this one thing. How do I say to him what his mother said to me. That is awful! But that does goes to show she will stop at nothing to keep us from marriage. That also would be a way for him to really see my side.And maybe he would be able to do something then....

[CindySue]

Just sit him down and tell him there is something you need to talk to him about. Tell him kept it to yourself because you werent wanting to burden him with it but its gotten out of control and now you need his help.

[tha_mrs]

okay, I think I will need a drink. (lol) I really just don't want to hurt him. Maybe he will laugh,he usually laughs whenever she makes comments about us.He says it keeps him from getting angry.In that case I can tell him!

[StaceyMc]

If my FH knew that my FMIL spoke to me the way you FH's mother is speaking to you, he would flip his lid.

You do need to sit down and talk to him and tell him what she said. She's totally out of line and has no business talking about your sex life. None of that is her business.

Talking about her comments isn't going to hurt him. He needs to know what's going on.

By the way...I wish my FMIL would move to Venus :~)

[WhiskeyGirl]

If my FH knew that my FMIL spoke to me the way you FH's mother is speaking to you, he would flip his lid.

You do need to sit down and talk to him and tell him what she said. She's totally out of line and has no business talking about your sex life. None of that is her business.

Talking about her comments isn't going to hurt him. He needs to know what's going on.

By the way...I wish my FMIL would move to Venus :~)

Stacey,

You hit the nail on the head with all of that! I agree she has no business in any of that!! :)

[StaceyMc]

Hey thanks! I just can't imagine my FH's response if he knew that his mother spoke about those kinds of things with me.

Here's something else to think about - you don't want to get in the middle of family stuff. My FH's older sister tried that with me "Shh...don't tell Joey, I'm getting a divorce." I told her that her brother and I don't operate that way - I refuse to get in the middle of that stuff with his family.

[WhiskeyGirl]

Hey thanks! I just can't imagine my FH's response if he knew that his mother spoke about those kinds of things with me.

Here's something else to think about - you don't want to get in the middle of family stuff. My FH's older sister tried that with me "Shh...don't tell Joey, I'm getting a divorce." I told her that her brother and I don't operate that way - I refuse to get in the middle of that stuff with his family.

Yeah I think my DH would be suprised if his mom said that kind of thing to me but its mostly because she doesn't speak a whole lotta english!! lol

Yes, I've had people do that to me to! I just don't keep ANYTHING from my DH because that is what ruins marriages! Thats how my parents do things and they've been married for 36 years, so it must work for them!!

[kheath10]

please talk to your finance because he should know about what is bothering you. You should neverrrr keep secrets from him he will and is your suport. If I keep all the stuff im feeling and going through from my man I would go insane i need him as a constant support for me. And sit him down a say this is bothering me and go from there.:bblol:

Good LUck

[tha_mrs]

Ok ladies, from talking to you all, I sat down and talked with my FH and told him how I felt and what she said and he was stunned.He was very silent for a minute and then he was angry.....he was very upset that she had said those things to me.And now he understands why I feel like I do. So I thank you ladies for your support and I wish you the best with your fmil. I think now that he knows how I feel, I can go on and not worry about her. I can shut her down if needed and I can walk away when needed. Sometimes ppl are so ****** that you just have to walk away and not even waste your breath, and some times you gotta give them a kick in the a$$ so they will know what not to say, or do.

[CindySue]

I can shut her down if needed and I can walk away when needed. Sometimes ppl are so ****** that you just have to walk away and not even waste your breath, and some times you gotta give them a kick in the a$$ so they will know what not to say, or do.
Sometimes people will treat you bad until you stand up for yourself. With my ex MiL, I just tried not to go around her. It wasnt worth it.

[StaceyMc]

I am so glad that you talked to your FH. I was wondering last night if you decided to discuss it with him.

I have a nightmarish FMIL...for right now - I'm just staying away.

[Teribridetobe]

Thats really S****Y! I think that i would arrange for a conversation between the both you and your future husband. Thats something that needs to be worked out quick. She will always be apart of your fh life. And you will always be apart of his. I'm reallys sorry to hear that you are dealing with this. What do you think her bad attitude stems from??

[tha_mrs]

I honestly thinks that she thought he would NEVER find anyone who would love him and stay around long enough to talk about marriage. She thinks that by insulting me that he will leave me and stay home.She told him that I was not pretty.I so have issues with that anyway, but he told her that I was the most beautiful woman in the world and she was mad.She had hoped I would eventually leave him,but I didn't.When my HF had to be hospitalized for diabetes she thought that was it, but I stayed there day and night and she didn't know how to take me. She hates me, and I can only generalize why.Because honestly I don't know.

[CindySue]

She hates me, and I can only generalize why.Because honestly I don't know.
My XMiL hated me too and I never understood why. It wasnt like I took her son away from her because she didnt have much to do with him anyway.

[MOB Karen]

I honestly don't know why some mothers make it so hard for the women who are with their sons. All these girls want to do is make their sons happy. They might be the mother of their future grandchildren for God's sake. They should embrace them for that alone! It is just so unfair and mean-spirited. I'm sorry for all you ladies who have to deal with that, on top of having to plan your weddings.

[tha_mrs]

@mob Karen-
I Don't Understand, She Said To Him That She Likes Me But Not For Him. I Am Not Good Enough.i Am Not Pretty Enough.i Dress A Certain Way And She Does Not Like It.i Have A Son And It's Not His Child.she Says That I Have A Good Geart But I Am Not The Right One For Him.what Kinda **** Is That To Say About The Woman Who Stands By Your Son In His Time Of Need.

[MOB Karen]

@mob Karen-
I Don't Understand, She Said To Him That She Likes Me But Not For Him. I Am Not Good Enough.i Am Not Pretty Enough.i Dress A Certain Way And She Does Not Like It.i Have A Son And It's Not His Child.she Says That I Have A Good Geart But I Am Not The Right One For Him.what Kinda **** Is That To Say About The Woman Who Stands By Your Son In His Time Of Need.

All I can say is hang in there, sweetie! She is wrong and, hopefully, she will see the light and realize that you are the best thing that ever happened to her son. If not, then the hell with her. Don't allow her to make you unhappy. Good luck!

[tha_mrs]

THANK YOU i HAVE BEEN CRYING MOST OF THE DAY.EVERY TIME I THINK ABOUT IT.I MAY NOT BE THE MOST BEAUTIFUL WOMAN, BUT I AM A TREASURE! AND NO NOT BECAUSE OF MY LOOKS, BEC AUSE OF WHO I AM AND WHAT I AM AND THAT WHAT MAKES ME GREAT.

[MOB Karen]

Ohhhhhhhh, don't cry. She is not worth it. You save your tears for someone who is worthy of them. You hold your head up high and know that she is the one who should feel bad. There is nothing you can do about changing her, but, from this moment on, you can change how you react to her. Don't give her any more power than she already has. I wish you nothing but the best of luck.

[tha_mrs]

Thank You.for Giving A Mom's Opinion.on Top Of All Of This My Mom Is Not Speaking To Me,so I Don't Have Anyone But The Ladies On Here.and My Fh,when Were Not Fussing About His Mom.

[MOB Karen]

Well, honey, you can consider me your interim Mom. :hug: I think you are a very pretty and bright young lady, and you have no reason to feel self-conscious about yourself at all. Your FMIL(from hell) has no right to judge you. If she doesn't want to know you better, it's her loss. You hang in there & keep us posted!

[WhiskeyGirl]

Karen

Its great to have you around and get the MOB views on things! Thank you for joining this site!! :)

Shawna

[MOB Karen]

Karen

Its great to have you around and get the MOB views on things! Thank you for joining this site!! :)

Shawna

Thanks, Shawna, I appreciate that!

[WhiskeyGirl]

You are very welcome Karen!! Or should I say mom...lol. Thanks Karen!! :bbmrgreen:

[tha_mrs]

Well, I Do Thank You Very Much Ms. Karen. It Feels Good To Know That There Is "a" Mom To Talk To, And It Doesn't Matter That You Are Not My Mom.it Doesn't To Me Anyway.my Problem Right Now Is Verybody Wants Me To Be Somebody Else,and I Just Want To Be Me.i Use To Have So Much Confidence Before My First Husband And My Son.my First Marriage Beat Me Up So Bad Mentally And Emotionally That I Am Having Such A Time With Exceptance. Back When, I Wouldn't Give A **** What Somebody Thought, I Was Still Me And If You Didn't Like It I Would Tell You Where To Go And How To Get There.(lol)but Now Times Have Changed So, I Just Want To Know How To Get Back To That Place.the Place Where I Was Comfortable With Just Being Me.

[WhiskeyGirl]

Well, I Do Thank You Very Much Ms. Karen. It Feels Good To Know That There Is "a" Mom To Talk To, And It Doesn't Matter That You Are Not My Mom.it Doesn't To Me Anyway.my Problem Right Now Is Verybody Wants Me To Be Somebody Else,and I Just Want To Be Me.i Use To Have So Much Confidence Before My First Husband And My Son.my First Marriage Beat Me Up So Bad Mentally And Emotionally That I Am Having Such A Time With Exceptance. Back When, I Wouldn't Give A **** What Somebody Thought, I Was Still Me And If You Didn't Like It I Would Tell You Where To Go And How To Get There.(lol)but Now Times Have Changed So, I Just Want To Know How To Get Back To That Place.the Place Where I Was Comfortable With Just Being Me.

The way you type makes me dizzy Girl!! can you loose all the capital letters on your every word and just put them where they belong?? Not trying to be mean but it really makes it hard to read your post!! Sorry Hun!! :)

[MOB Karen]

Well, I Do Thank You Very Much Ms. Karen. It Feels Good To Know That There Is "a" Mom To Talk To, And It Doesn't Matter That You Are Not My Mom.it Doesn't To Me Anyway.my Problem Right Now Is Verybody Wants Me To Be Somebody Else,and I Just Want To Be Me.i Use To Have So Much Confidence Before My First Husband And My Son.my First Marriage Beat Me Up So Bad Mentally And Emotionally That I Am Having Such A Time With Exceptance. Back When, I Wouldn't Give A **** What Somebody Thought, I Was Still Me And If You Didn't Like It I Would Tell You Where To Go And How To Get There.(lol)but Now Times Have Changed So, I Just Want To Know How To Get Back To That Place.the Place Where I Was Comfortable With Just Being Me.

Well, I am here for you anytime you need me. I'm hoping that we can get your confidence back. Amber should share some of hers with you because she has way more than she needs for one lifetime. ;) She also never had a sister, so you could be her make-believe sister too.

[tha_mrs]

http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/4/4_18_5.gif (http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb001_ZSYYYYYYYYUS)(lol)I am sorry Shawna.I am also working and the accounting software causes for caps.I will try to remember to take it off in the future.This forum tries to pic where lower case and caps go.There for producing my post,which makes you feel like you are on the ocean waves(lol).I noticed that one time before when I typed with the caps locked,I was still getting lower case







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[WhiskeyGirl]

http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/4/4_18_5.gif (http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb001_ZSYYYYYYYYUS)(lol)I am sorry Shawna.I am also working and the accounting software causes for caps.I will try to remember to take it off in the future.This forum tries to pic where lower case and caps go.There for producing my post,which makes you feel like you are on the ocean waves(lol).I noticed that one time before when I typed with the caps locked,I was still getting lower case

http://www.smileycentral.com/sig.jsp?pc=ZSzeb068&pp=ZSYYYYYYYYUS

no problem Hun!! I was just sitting here thinking I might be needing a barf bag soon! lol. Thanks for not being upset with me for saying that!! lol :)

[tha_mrs]

Well, I am here for you anytime you need me. I'm hoping that we can get your confidence back. Amber should share some of hers with you because she has way more than she needs for one lifetime. ;) She also never had a sister, so you could be her make-believe sister too.

That's so funny Ms. Karen, cause I have a sister, but she lives with my mom,so she's not talking to me either(lol)

[tha_mrs]

no problem Hun!! I was just sitting here thinking I might be needing a barf bag soon! lol. Thanks for not being upset with me for saying that!! lol :)

You can use the one I am putting over my head in the previous post!(lol)

[WhiskeyGirl]

You can use the one I am putting over my head in the previous post!(lol)

as long as you don't want to put it back over your head in the future! lol :bbmrgreen:

[tha_mrs]

http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/4/4_1_213.gif (http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb001_ZSYYYYYYYYUS) LOL! Oh okay you got jokes today!!!










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[WhiskeyGirl]

http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/4/4_1_213.gif (http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb001_ZSYYYYYYYYUS) LOL! Oh okay you got jokes today!!!
http://www.smileycentral.com/sig.jsp?pc=ZSzeb068&pp=ZSYYYYYYYYUS

Can't believe I am so witty for a tuesday...lol.

[tha_mrs]

Can't believe I am so witty for a tuesday...lol.

Well, it is surely needed!......So what are your normal days(lol)That way I know when to take an asprin!

[WhiskeyGirl]

Well, it is surely needed!......So what are your normal days(lol)That way I know when to take an asprin!

Actually this is me on most days! lol I've just got to be in the right situation to bust it out!

[tha_mrs]

Oh...well you have really had me weak for today.(see I remembered to turn off the caps)LOL.

[WhiskeyGirl]

Oh...well you have really had me weak for today.(see I remembered to turn off the caps)LOL.

thanks! Now I won't have to mess up your bag!! lol

[CindySue]

Yall are silly but it gives me a chance to use this smiley and I think hes hilarious!
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[WhiskeyGirl]

Yall are silly but it gives me a chance to use this smiley and I think hes hilarious!
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yup that was almost me all over the computer screen...lol. I hate how I get motion sickness!! I even got it when we went snorkeling on our honeymoon! Thankfully I took some meds and felt a tad bit better...however everyone around me was eating these yummy smelling burgers and I couldn't even stomach a cookie!! lol

[Jenn060306]

Yall are silly but it gives me a chance to use this smiley and I think hes hilarious!
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LOL That smiley is a riot. It took me a sec. to figure out what he was actually doing. I look forward to seeing all the smileys you've got Cindy.

[tha_mrs]

LOL! That smiley is nasty! I have terrible motion sickness too and I hhave a very weak stomach.When my son was in diapers I would have to feed him then change him then wait an hour so that I could eat.If I didn't use that order then I became that nasty smiley!(lol)

[WhiskeyGirl]

LOL! That smiley is nasty! I have terrible motion sickness too and I hhave a very weak stomach.When my son was in diapers I would have to feed him then change him then wait an hour so that I could eat.If I didn't use that order then I became that nasty smiley!(lol)

I somewhat wonder if i will be the same! I hope some day soon I will get to find out! lol. On a radio station I listen to they are doing a contest its called "paul brown's toughest contest". Anyhow if you succeed in doing what they want you to they put you in a draw for $35,000 dollars! Who can't use the money right? Well some of the things they have had people do is just gross! The very first guy was to eat 50 hard boiled eggs in one hour in the studio of the radio station. well the guy got to 20 or so and puked!! They played the audio of him getting sick and I had to turn it off because I was gaggin just listening to it! The things people will do for money! The second guy had to brand "Go Oilers" (NHL hockey team) onto his butt!! Man that would hurt!! But I think it hurts worse to be that stupid! LMAO!!!

[CindySue]

I somewhat wonder if i will be the same! I hope some day soon I will get to find out!
With MY kids, it didnt matter what they did on me (and trust me theyve DONE IT ALL, ALL over me!!!), I never got sick or queasy. Now someone elses kid could do something, and my stomach would turn!!!

[WhiskeyGirl]

With MY kids, it didnt matter what they did on me (and trust me theyve DONE IT ALL, ALL over me!!!), I never got sick or queasy. Now someone elses kid could do something, and my stomach would turn!!!

Ha ha! I hope some day soon I can find out! With Mother's day coming up, I am having a rough time! I'm sorry to all the mothers out there but I really dislike Mother's day. For people suffering from Infertility it is always a reminder of what you don't have!!

[CindySue]

For people suffering from Infertility it is always a reminder of what you don't have!!
Mine always focuses on the realtionship me and my mother dont have! (or I should say didnt have. Things have gotten a lot better!)

[WhiskeyGirl]

Mine always focuses on the realtionship me and my mother dont have! (or I should say didnt have. Things have gotten a lot better!)

I know I will call my mom and wish her a Happy Mother's day but I just hate how there is no "couples day" or something...lol. Its either Mother's day or Father's day...a double wammy!!! lol

[tha_mrs]

well soon Shawna you will celebrate mother's day, father's day, and all of the other days as well.this mother's day will be hard for me because I have been dismissed.So I'll get a card and put it in the mail maybe.Or I won't get her anything,my sister will by her something.Hell,she doen't talk to me.

[WhiskeyGirl]

well soon Shawna you will celebrate mother's day, father's day, and all of the other days as well.this mother's day will be hard for me because I have been dismissed.So I'll get a card and put it in the mail maybe.Or I won't get her anything,my sister will by her something.Hell,she doen't talk to me.

Maybe you should send her a card just to let her know that you are still there! You don't need it tobe sappy or even to say anything in it, but maybe just a card will remind her that you are still her flesh and blood!! Good luck Hun!!

[tha_mrs]

she would be insulted!every mother's day I bought roses and candy and ballons and dinner....a card? she would flip

[WhiskeyGirl]

she would be insulted!every mother's day I bought roses and candy and ballons and dinner....a card? she would flip

Well you do what you can right? Its not like she has been as sweet as honey to you!! Does she deserve any of those things you mentioned? HELL NO!!! :) So just send a card!

[tha_mrs]

my mom would rather not get anything,because she use to have us buy a card for my dad and it just said happy father's day and that's it.she knows what that means if she just gets a card.(lol)

[WhiskeyGirl]

my mom would rather not get anything,because she use to have us buy a card for my dad and it just said happy father's day and that's it.she knows what that means if she just gets a card.(lol)

Well I guess thats her loss and you shouldn't stress yourself out over a mother who is like that! Best of luck!

[CindySue]

my mom would rather not get anything,because she use to have us buy a card for my dad and it just said happy father's day and that's it.she knows what that means if she just gets a card.(lol)
Id write her a letter. If you can recall any good times from your childhood, state them. If shes done anything for you that you are grateful for, tell her. If nothing else, handwrite Happy Mothers Day on a piece of paper and send it. Just send something, anything!
The reason I said this is if your mom is anything like my mom (and it sounds like she might be), then it wont matter who is not talking to who, she will just remember the year you didnt acknowledge Mothers day and it will prolong the feud.
Good Luck!

[WhiskeyGirl]

Tha_mrs

I am confused. You posted that your mil is a horriable woman in this thread but then in the did you know thread you posted that she has passed away and did so a while ago! So which is it? I'm confused!!

[tha_mrs]

Tha_mrs

I am confused. You posted that your mil is a horriable woman in this thread but then in the did you know thread you posted that she has passed away and did so a while ago! So which is it? I'm confused!!

My FH's biological mother has passed on.......he was raised by his grandmother from birth.His father and his father's mother raised him because his mother lived a very fast life.His mother died and then a year after his father died,so his granny continued to raise him.He doesn't call her grandma he calls her mom and he is more than a grandchild to her, that's her son.So in that since she becomes my MIL. I think this is like the second time I have had to break it down for ya hun, is everything okay??? Cause I really don't have to lie to you guys on here.I can tell you things that I can't tell anyone else and part of the reason I can share is because unfortunately I will probably never get the chance to personally meet any of you ladies,so why would I lie???See I read a lot of posts before I joined so I do know that there are ppl who do join and lie,but I am not like that.Girl you are shinning the light on me like I am in the interrogation room! Good lookin out though, cause we may need that here from time to time.

[WhiskeyGirl]

My FH's biological mother has passed on.......he was raised by his grandmother from birth.His father and his father's mother raised him because his mother lived a very fast life.His mother died and then a year after his father died,so his granny continued to raise him.He doesn't call her grandma he calls her mom and he is more than a grandchild to her, that's her son.So in that since she becomes my MIL. I think this is like the second time I have had to break it down for ya hun, is everything okay??? Cause I really don't have to lie to you guys on here.I can tell you things that I can't tell anyone else and part of the reason I can share is because unfortunately I will probably never get the chance to personally meet any of you ladies,so why would I lie???See I read a lot of posts before I joined so I do know that there are ppl who do join and lie,but I am not like that.Girl you are shinning the light on me like I am in the interrogation room! Good lookin out though, cause we may need that here from time to time.

Im Sorry! This is actually the first time you've "broken it down" for any body! Sorry but its just your posts were conflicting and they made me go "hmmmm".

[tha_mrs]

I gotcha'. It's okay. I think at first I might have felt a little attacked.Then I had to go back and read them myself. I guess it may have looked a little confusing.Sorry.But I just couldn't see anybody lying and saying their FMIL was dead and she really was alive or why would someone lie about their child's name.I'd never lie about anything like that.But it could look confusing if you weren't looking at it like me or may because I never really got into the whole family thing with my FMIL so I am sorry.I'll try not to do that.

[MOB Karen]

Thanks for clearing that up, Wanda. We ask hard questions because no one wants to get played for a fool. I can see that you're not doing that. Sorry if you felt attacked.

[Waiting]

Well, all I have to say about FMILs is that it is better to have a great FH and bad FMIL than the other way around. My first marriage I had a wonderful MIL - this time around my FMIL is not so great (understatement!), but FH is so wonderful that I can deal with anyone he is related to...

[dakotabrly]

I am so glad to hear im not the only one dealing with a psychotic mother in law. Everytime she doesnt get her way she throws a fit and says that shes not going to the wedding. And I know that if she doesnt go then my FH's dad isnt going and that would break his heart because he really wants his dad there. Now I decided to have my wedding closer to my family since they offered to help pay, which both me and my FH agree is fair. So now the evil witch pretty much told his whole family that i'm taking him away from them. I want to just cuss her out but I know that wont help. I dont know what to do

[kevinsbride2B]

My FH parents are trying to hold off on our wedding. tHey originally tried by saying that they werem't going to be putting any money into it, so I said fine don'e. Now there complaining because it's getting "too big".
Your huny bunches needs to step up babe.