Children before marriage

[savvy]

Does/Did anyone have children before they were married? How did you use them in the wedding. I have a 4 year old son that is not the bio son of my Fiance (son's bio father was killed by a drunk driver a few years ago)
I was thinking of having my son walk me partway down the aisle. Like if were to stand up by Fiance and then meet me half way down the aisle and then walk me the rest of the way down. My dad will be walking me all the way down the aisle so does that seem silly to have my son do that?
How did you involve your/ fiance's children in your wedding? Or how do you plan on involving your/fiance's children in your wedding?
Thanks so much!
~savvy :D

[robindepaula]

I think it would be very special to have your son & father walk you down the isle. Or you could have him as the ring bearer.

Robin

[neeni13]

I agree to have him walk w/you. Just remember that children do the strangest things when they see a lot of people. Oh and you might want to see if the officiant will put in a commitment piece for your child since you all will be one family unit.

[As You Wish]

My step son was our "ring dude" He had a tux just like dads, and when dad broke his leg and ended up wearing tivas over the cast; my son wore tivas as well. It was so cute! He is a bit shy and didn't want to say anything. But he felt a part of it which helped him to accept me.

[robindepaula]

My step son was our "ring dude" He had a tux just like dads, and when dad broke his leg and ended up wearing tivas over the cast; my son wore tivas as well. It was so cute! He is a bit shy and didn't want to say anything. But he felt a part of it which helped him to accept me.

That is so cute . . . little boys love to imitate their daddy! I know mine does ~ my son runs around with one of my husbands old badges & acts like he is a cop . . . once he even answered the door when the pizza delivery guy came to deliver, and he pulled the badge & his play gun & yelled at the guy, "Get on the ground! Get on the ground right now!!" I wanted to just die of embarrasment!

Robin

[rainbowtreat]

I have a son who will be almost 5 and a daughter who will be almost 7 by the time we get married next year. They are going to be the jr. bride and groom. I am letting Nicholas choose the tux fro my son. My son loves him to death and he will love dressing like him. My daughter is very shy but I know hom much of a girl she is. She wont be able to wait to wear her dress that is kinda like mummas. He has no children but he does have a very young cousin. He will be just over 2 yrs old when we get married. He is Nicholas' only cousin on his moms side so we are going to have him as one of our ring bearers. Yes i said one. My nephew is about the same age , he is going to be one too. And my niece and one of my girlfriends daughters will be the flower girls. It will be so cute I cant wait.

[ndsimm]

When I got remarried, my daughter was 12 and she was a Jr Bridesmaid in the wedding and after the unity candle, we presented her with a special gift as part of the ceremony

[fotogrllt]

Hello there. I am a wedding photographer, and from my experience, four year olds usually become scared, start crying and do not want to come down the aisle. Or there are the four year olds who love the limelight, then they want to move about to attract attention to themselves. I've missed a few choice photos because of kids in the way. My advice, let the kid sit with grandma.

[iluvweddings]

I am renewing my vows.
My daughter is the "princess" her dress is made exactly like mine, as well as her tiara and hair.
My two sons will have the same tux as their dad.
My daughter will walk right in front of me and I have three flower girls carrying my train.
My boys will walk up and get my daughter, then stand to the side for my husband to meet me halfway down the aisle.

[smweddings]

I was at a wedding recently where the bride was without her bouquet at the start of her walk down the aisle...her little 4 year old son walked from the alter to where she stood at the back of the church with her bouquet and handed it to her. Then the 3 of them (FOB, Bride and son) walked to the alter together. It was so cute! The bride held her bouquet in the hand that was wrapped around her father's arm and she held her sons hand with her free hand.

Priceless!!

[morgan]

That is a really cute idea. It really depends on what the child is like, it could go either way.

[SueMartin]

only you know he will behave.. and even then its a lottery... I would encourage him to be the ring bearer, as after walking up the aisle , he can sit with your family.. or.. you can have him stand by your fiance's side waiting for you..

my husband & I didnt have a BP as it was a very quiet wedding, ( 2nd for both of us) but we used my oldest son & hisoldest daughter *** our witnesses.

[RebeccaW]

We have a 3yr old daughter she is going to be the flower girl!!!!

[maz]

My son will only just be one so if he is walking then my chief bridesmaid ( my sister) is going to hold his hand down the isle and if he isnt then she will carry him down. He will be wearing the same as his Dad including a cravat and waistcoat. However if he gets scared or upset then i would like him to stand with his dad the groom and the best man and then my 2 men can wait for me together.

[rainbowtreat]

I have 2 children from my first marriage. They have taken to my FH like he has always been here. The 3 are so close I love it. The try to puch me away and say that he is theirs. They are going to be the JR Bride and Groom and are going to be dressed JUST like us. My son who will be almost 5 will be wearing the cowboy hat and boots jsut like his future ste-dad. My daughter will be int he same colors as me what ever that will be.

[LizabethDavis]

My daughter is going to be our FG and my son will be our RB. But those are some cute ideas.

[rainbowtreat]

My daughter is going to be our FG and my son will be our RB. But those are some cute ideas.

Comments on this postrainbowtreat agrees: Just think, you will get to actualy see them :) !!!!

ooops of course you will see your OWN kids I was talking about my kids. You being at MY wedding. OK shutting up now my blonde is showing through. lol

[CindySue]

It was posted in another thread about using sand instead on the unity candle and talking about the kids being involved in this. I really like this idea and am going to do more research before I talk to Brian about it.
Our children are in the wedding party. In fact they are our only attendents.
My boys, 13 & 8 will be gromsmen
My daughter - 12, and his daughter - 15, will be bridesmaids.
My 5 year old son will be ring bearer.

[LizabethDavis]

My daughter is going to be our FG and my son will be our RB. But those are some cute ideas.

Comments on this postrainbowtreat agrees: Just think, you will get to actualy see them :) !!!!

ooops of course you will see your OWN kids I was talking about my kids. You being at MY wedding. OK shutting up now my blonde is showing through. lol

Hehehehe...I knew what you meant;) . I can't wait!!!

[CarlosHoney]

Elias will be (hold on, let me count...) 5 months and a week when we get hitched. He is our son, and I've seen ways to include step-children in the 'blending' of families, but what about a child who is biologically ours?

Not trying to be a hijacker, but just wondering. There isn't going to be an aisle, persay, keep that in mind. I want to include him, but I'm not sure that there is anything that we can do beyond having him mentioned during the ceremony.

I like the idea Cindy brought up, though. Savvy, if your little one can handle it, maybe have him pour in some sand, or help you to light your candle. If you don't think he'd take well to it, then it might be best just to have the officiant mention his presence.

[CindySue]

Elias will be (hold on, let me count...) 5 months and a week when we get hitched. He is our son, and I've seen ways to include step-children in the 'blending' of families, but what about a child who is biologically ours?

Not trying to be a hijacker, but just wondering. There isn't going to be an aisle, persay, keep that in mind. I want to include him, but I'm not sure that there is anything that we can do beyond having him mentioned during the ceremony.

I like the idea Cindy brought up, though. Savvy, if your little one can handle it, maybe have him pour in some sand, or help you to light your candle. If you don't think he'd take well to it, then it might be best just to have the officiant mention his presence.

Carrie, What about holding him during the ceremony? Or just during parts of it? You could have a special prayer said that included him and you and Carlo hold him during that.
I have never heard of the sand ceremony before but I loved it. I was trying to figure out how I was going to supervise 5 kids with candles. This seemed safer!!!

[CarlosHoney]

I might do that, you know, holding him. We're getting married where there isn't much room for a candle ceremony (though I wish there was!) or I would have the grandmas help him with lighting the unity candle.

Now, just to decide what outfit to put the baby in! Carlo isn't wearing a tux, though, so it would be silly to put Elias in one.

[martysgurl]

I think thats a great idea !
Both my kids 4 and 2 are a part of our wedding. My daughter is the flower girl and my son the ring bear. They will be both dressed to the T !

[countrygirl]

I agree w you girls!!! My fiance has three kids, and I have one. They are going to be the ring bearers/flower gilrs. That is the a great way to make the kids feel like they are a part of it.

[officiant-fica]

Our daughter was 2 1/2 when we were married. She was our "flower girl" She is now three and she play "wedding" Things like this make a lasting impressin on kids and I say include them where ever possible. There are unity ceremonies that can incorporate children. If you need or want ideas PM me and I can e mail you some.