LIVE: engaged and underage

[RebelChick]

On MTV theres a show called engaged and underage. Following young couples (up to 21) along their engagement and to their weddings. Well one couple in getting married I THINK its live .. Or I missed it and its a repeat.. either way its on MTV now... where they are getting married On MTV's trl set. its actually pretty interesting.

[neebelung]

Oh I like that show. Sometimes the drama is even better than Bridezillas... :rofl: I really wish they'd go back and do an update show on some of those couples, because it's apparent that many of them have no CLUE what it takes to make a marriage work, so I'd like to see if they figured it out and managed to stay together.

[acidcookie]

Oh gosh, I always catch these cr@p MTV shoes at the gym while I'm on a treadmill in winter or something. I'm sorry, but you know half those couples aren't in any place to get married. They can do what they want, but I can tell it's just not going to go well.

One of my friends said that they DID do an update one time and about half of them were divorced.

[snowflakebride]

I got engaged when I was 19 (will be 21 at time of wedding). Someone I know told me I should try to get on that show, which kind of offended me, but I laughed it off. If anything, it looks like a version of "My Super Sweet Sixteen" for older girls.

[neebelung]

One of my friends said that they DID do an update one time and about half of them were divorced.

Oh I'll have to look for that!!

[acidcookie]

Oh I'll have to look for that!!

He could be lying though. ;) I haven't seen it.

[MrsDM]

Go here... http://remotecontrol.mtv.com/category/shows/engaged-and-underage/

They have most of the couple's updates.

[Nekochanpurr]

LOL!! It looks really amusing! :D

[gwenshack]

When I was that young I couldn't decide what I wanted for breakfast, nonethless the rest of my life!

I'm still in denial about being capable enough to get married now!

Isn't it funny, all these kids think they're so grown up...and I'm grown up and I'm still trying to pretend I'm a kid? :)

[RebelChick]

Its histerical. Alot of those couples are like straight out of HS no good jobs, no way of supporting themselves or each other.. I find it funny. I just wanted to bring the mronign show to your attention because it was Live in Times Square (i think)..

[RebelChick]

OH IT was a repeat.. The live show was on Sunday lol

[RosieAngel]

OMG, what a crazy show! It sounds like my hometown. :snide: Most of my friends were married by the time they were 19. They were treating me like I was some sort of old maid when I was 21!

I have a friend who was divorced by the time she was 22. I feel so sorry for her. :sob:

[acidcookie]

I have a friend who was divorced by the time she was 22. I feel so sorry for her. :sob:

Yeah my BFF got married days after she turned 18. I was her MOH. It was weird. She was divorced by 20 :ooh:

[LovingLife]

I am only 19 and I am getting married.

Although I have a son, a job, a house, and although I am not financially set I think I am pretty well off. I also think that I am more mature then people my age. And most of the people who know me, especially the ones I work with will agree.


I dont really believe in divorce, although there are exceptions such as abuse.

people dont think i should get married so young, but i guess people just dont understand unconditional love.

[RosieAngel]

I am only 19 and I am getting married.

people dont think i should get married so young, but i guess people just dont understand unconditional love.

To be honest, I think that, more than unconditional love, people just don't understand that everyone matures at a different rate. You are an exceptional 19-year-old, as a homeowner mother who knows what she wants, so I don't think you have anything to worry about.

When I was 19, I was getting MY FIRST REAL JOB :heart: :heart: :heart: and going halfsies with my parents on living expenses. So yeah, my 19 was so not ready to marry!

[LovingLife]

Yeah, I agree. There are people my age who, when I look at them wonder if they will ever grow up. And I am sure one day they will. I guess my time just came quicker than others.

Although I will admit this not where I planned to be at 19, but everything happens for a reason.

Like the name says I am "Loving Life"

[RebelChick]

Im 21 and getting married at 22. My fiance will be 23. We dont feel we are too young, we have a daugther together, a home, and we are well off enough for me to even STAY AT HOME with my daughter. His job is amazing. But life is hard, and we make it. Thats what a marraige is built off of. Love, Compassion, Hardships, and working together.

[LovingLife]

Agreed. :D

All that matters is that I know that I am ready. Sorry anyone who disagrees. lol.

[byrd813]

They actually did do an update of all the married couples on that show. They showed at least most of them. Who was still together, who got divorced or separated, who had babies, who's relationships got better or worse, who still hates MIL and who still doesn't. Its actually really interesting watching how much they have grown from their last appearance on the show.

[flyerso6]

no offence to anyone here because people mature differently. But teens and those right after being teens change so much. DH and I are so much different than we were when we first started dating, i just turned 19 and he just turned 20. Its not a bad thing we are just different and more mature. at 19, 20, or even 21 I couldn't have imagined being married.

A person I work with believes that when you are a teenager you loose your mind and become a totally different person and once you finally get over that (he says around 24,25) you suddenly start being more of the person you were before being a teen, like you start liking the same things you did were you were 10, 11. Being 24 i am starting to understand and believe what he says.

Ive seen the show a few times and go wow they are so immature how are they going to get married. several of them fought all the time, some didnt have real jobs etc.

[Mrs.Panda]

I read this whole thread and I agree with most of yall! I did get a little defensive, as I think LovingLife did simply because I'm 19. I think that the younger women that are mature enough to be married quickly try to differentiate themselves from the impossible girls their age that continue to act as though they'll never suffer the consequences of partying every night and sleeping with everything that walks!
I agree that most 17-21yr olds aren't mature enough to be married, but I also believe that some are. It is more of a maturity issue than an age issue like yall said. However, the people on that show are hilarious! They are obviously the 90% that should NOT be getting married, but then again that's why they are on the TV show... to entertain us! :p

[MrsDM]

I read this whole thread and I agree with most of yall! I did get a little defensive, as I think LovingLife did simply because I'm 19. I think that the younger women that are mature enough to be married quickly try to differentiate themselves from the impossible girls their age that continue to act as though they'll never suffer the consequences of partying every night and sleeping with everything that walks!
I agree that most 17-21yr olds aren't mature enough to be married, but I also believe that some are. It is more of a maturity issue than an age issue like yall said. However, the people on that show are hilarious! They are obviously the 90% that should NOT be getting married, but then again that's why they are on the TV show... to entertain us! :p

Well said. When FH and I get married, I will be 21 and he will be 22 and will be together for 6 years. He and I have been through a lot in our young lives maturing us much beyond our years.

[Mrs.Panda]

Thanks =)
I'm in the same situation. I'll be 21 (one month away from 22) and he will be 24.

[RebelChick]

Almost same here Ill be 22 , Fh will be 23. We will celebrate our 6 years of being together 3 days After the wedding! So right now we have been together for 5 years, and have a beautiful 16 month od daughter.. we rent but a townhome.. so its big enough to have a family in for now. He works for Audi and makes awesome money, enough for me to even be able to STAY home and watch my daughter so we dont have to pay a stranger to watch her while my pay checks dwindle to her. ya know? I agree my friends around my age are soo immature and totally not ready to get married.. My MOH is job hopping, and her b/f just dumped her because he loves drinking better than her , sad i know, but thats pretty much the typical life for young adults, but on the other hand theres a HUGE handful of women out there around my age (21) who can handle the real world. life is life, and its the person who makes the best of it, not the age.

[Jacklynn]

That show bothers me! (Not that I don't watch it sometimes) They never show mature young couples, I was only 19 when we got married and things are still wonderful... its like they pick immature couples to make it more dramatic, I guess it wouldn't be as interesting with mature responsible couples, there wouldn't be enough drama for them.

It just bugs me that they never show real couples like DH and I, who have full time jobs and don't still live with our parents ect.

[SarahPearl]

Maturity does have a lot do with it, but still..it's hard to think that some of my friends ranging between the age of 17 and 19 are ready to get married. Sometimes I feel like I'm even toooo young to get married. Im 21 and he's 24.

I know girls that are still in HS that plan on marrying the guy they've been dating for the past 2 years right out of HS and neither them or the guys have any clue what they're going to do with their lives..

Maybe I'm old fashioned, but my parents raised my brother and I believing that the man should be able to not only support himself, but able to FULLY support a wife (if he intends on getting married)..I know that sounds so cliche, "marrying for money" almost sort of methodology...:bbeek:

[NurseLau84]

I have changed so much as a person from age 19 to now (1 month away from being 24). Can't imagine being married at 19 years old.....and I can tell you right now, if I ever have a daughter, it will be over my dead body that she marries at 18 or 19!! :chimp:
Not trying to offend anyone, of course. It's just that those actually ready for marriage at that age are very far and few between. You grow and change and learn over the years and into adulthood......I thought I knew it ALL at 19, but I look back and realize I didn't know jack squat.

[MrsDM]

That show bothers me! (Not that I don't watch it sometimes) They never show mature young couples, I was only 19 when we got married and things are still wonderful... its like they pick immature couples to make it more dramatic, I guess it wouldn't be as interesting with mature responsible couples, there wouldn't be enough drama for them.

It just bugs me that they never show real couples like DH and I, who have full time jobs and don't still live with our parents ect.

I say "AMEN!" to that! I'll will just have turned 21 when we get married and have been with FH since I've been 15. I think most people just assume that because a majority of the young couples are irresponsible and immature, therefore all of them should be!

[Piedpiper522]

I think those who are too immature to be married, who divorce after a brief period of time etc in that age range are paid much more attention to then happy, solid young marriages. Where's the drama in a good marriage? While I agree that you change a lot from 20 to 30. You also change a lot from 30 to 40. The problem, whether you're 18 or 48 is that most people think love is just an emotion, and not also a decision of commitment to the other person. They do not understand what it means, because they're running on the emotional connection. Which sorry, will not get you far in life.

I think if you understand that, then it doesn't matter how old you are when you get married. I also think if you don't understand that, then you shouldn't get married til you do, regardless of your age. :ooh:

[vicky_vicky]

I havent seen this show, it doesnt air here, but I have to add that I have a friend who did this.
She got engaged when she was 16 got married at her 17 and divorced at 20. The saddest part is that she had a son. Her husband was 5 years older than her. After he caught her cheating he kicked her out of the house. They were living with the parents of the husband. The baby boy stayed at home with daddy and grantparents and two years later the daddy LEFT the house of his parents to go to Athens and get a job.

So the baby boy aged 4 at that time stayed and grew up with granparents.
That is so sad. I mean, maybe the grantparents gave all the affection and did their best (and they still do) to raise the boy, but how irresponsible can someone be??

I firstly blame my friend cause she left her child and secondly her husband for the same reason.

[MrsFuchs09]

I hate that show. Most of the kids are effin' retarded, spoiled, bitchy and too young mentally. Someone told me Rick & I should go on that show. I was insulted.