Pregnant?

[081608Bride]

Ok ladies I could use some advice and just some support. My FH and I are getting married in 10 days and couldn't be more excited. He doesn't want to have kids for like 2 years but I am totally ready to have them now. He asked me to get on birth control and I agreed that I would. I figured in about a year we would probably start trying to have kids.

So, I was waiting to make my appointment until after I had my period. (Didn't want to go to the DR while I was on it) Well, it is late. Last month it was two weeks late so I wasn't really worried about it. And the month before it was a couple of days late. We were using other precautions but I am thinking we weren't cautious enough. Right now I am two and half weeks late. I am going to take a test tonight or I have heard in the morning is better. I am just freaking out on how to tell him because he doesn't not want kids right away. He is the most loving man and I love him with all my heart and I know that he loves me but I am so freaked out. I mean I know that he doesn't want this right now but here it is! I have no doubt in my mind that he will be a great father and husband. I just can't tell you how great he is but I am afraid that this is just going to FREAK him way out.

How should I tell him? Should I tell him I could be and then take the test or take the test and then tell him? I just don't know what to do.

And then there are our families. I know that my mom and dad will be really happy to have a grandchild. I mean mom has been ready for a while! But she knows that my FH doesn't want a child for a while so I am not sure how she will react. And then there is his family. I guess the good thing we will have going is that we will be married way befoe the baby is born. OMG, I don't even know if I am. I am just freaking out.

I just need some support. I know I sound like a nut right now. I jut have so much wedding, work, family and now this on my plate. There is just so many things going on in my mind right now.

Thanks for listening.

[NowAShelton]

i was two weeks late before the wedding also. then it came two days before we got married :snide: i took a test the day before my period started.
but i think it was stress related. and it may be with you. also you said that you were two weeks late last month so that may just be what your body is doing right now. i would take the test in the morning (thats when your pee is the most saturated with hormones and that kind of stuff) and then if its positive you should talk to him, but if you think he will freak out, i would just keep it to yourself and not worry him if theres no need to worry! just like us brides get stressed, guys get stressed too albeit in different ways....so just take a deep breath....:D

eta- i think that from how you have described him, he would love you and the baby very much, even if he's not ready right now! besides, from what i have heard, you are rarely REALLY ready to have your first baby

[saltyveruca]

Yeah, before you start freaking out or getting too excited, take a test. Stress (like getting married in 10 days!) can make your period late.

[Britters_37]

I agree!! It's most likely stress. I would take the test before jumping to conclusions. If the test comes out negative and you still don't get your period, consider going to your Gyno appointment. Sometimes those test can be false positives, but if you go to the doctors then you will know for sure and will have one less thing to worry about. Try not to be embarrassed going to the doctors. They deal with this stuff all the time. I'm a maternity nurse and I work with my Gyno all the time. It was a little awkward at first, but now I'm fine with it. He is very professional and good at what he does. That's why I choose to go to him. As far as your future husband, I'm sure if you shared your concerns with him he would be supportive. Just explain to him that you really don't know if you are or not, but it could be possiblity and that your going to find out. If you are pregnant I'm sure your whole family will support you and the new baby!!! Everything happens for a reason!!! Good luck and let me know how it all turns out!!!

[Nekochanpurr]

Good luck, no matter which way it goes!

[081608Bride]

Thank you for all of the comments. I just really need to have some support. I have just been freaking out about a number of things and I just needed someone to listen. So, I went to the store and bought two ept test. My period is about two and half weeks late but again last month it was two weeks late. So, I took one of the test and it came up negative. I am going to take the other test in the morning because it says that is a better time to test. I have a feeling that I have myself so stressed out about the wedding, work, money and other things that I just got myself stressed out about this. I will test again in the morning and see what that says. Thanks again.

[Lang2b]

We need to make this a topic here....I just went through the same thing a week ago. Its crazy the stress u go through planning a wedding. I highly doubt ur prego if ur two weeks late and the test was negative....now days they are pretty good at telling 5 days beforeu get ur period
good luck

[081608Bride]

We need to make this a topic here....I just went through the same thing a week ago. Its crazy the stress u go through planning a wedding. I highly doubt ur prego if ur two weeks late and the test was negative....now days they are pretty good at telling 5 days beforeu get ur period
good luck


That is what I thought too but I figured I would test in the morning just because it says that is a better time. I feel like a weight has been lifted. I want kids so bad but I also want it when FH wants it. You know what I mean?

[gwenshack]

Just take a deep breath! You'll be fine either way - FH wants kids eventually and loves you always...so...if it is indeed true that you are pregnant he'll be supportive. You know this. You're just under a lot of stress right now and this is just another thing to worry about piled on your plate - but if you think about it, the man you describe would be very supportive and loving, right?
You're probably just very stressed. Take a test to put your mind at ease - you'll feel better knowing, no matter how it turns out! :)

[tawni8806]

Well I am really ticked off because my period came TWO weeks early. It is ALWAYS, ALWAYS on time.

I was supposed to have my period AFTER the wedding AND honeymoon, now I have two days to get rid of it. LMAO.

[081608Bride]

Well, my period finally started yesterday. Only three weeks late! But at least it started before next weekend! I did not want it on my wedding. Thanks for all the support.

[gwenshack]

ALRIGHT! :) So glad everything worked out!

Now it's time to get married without a care in the world, right?? :)

[Hope75]

Phew!

I am glad that your period started and now you can relax and get rid of it before your honeymoon!

I think that even though it would not have been planned, your FH would have been supportive and excited once the initial shock wore off.

Have a GREAT wedding!:D

[Nekochanpurr]

YAY!! I'm glad it worked out.. I was about to give you mine, i'm sick of it! LOL

[kunkawasaki]

Anyway, congratulation to you. Don't forget to share with us your wedding day picture and when you have baby, don't forget to share with us your cute baby picture. I believe many people want to see that kids. :)