What do you do when....

[Dawn]

You have your heart set on a certain color, but your FH hates it? I really like burgundy, but Dave hates it.

You see I love this dress....

http://www.alfredangelo.com/images/products/0/2039e191-e45b-4b44-bba1-6a2ac07f9712.normal.jpg

I like everything about this dress, including the color. But he hates the color. What do I do? :helpsmilie:

[WhiskeyGirl]

http://www.alfredangelo.com/images/products/0/2039e191-e45b-4b44-bba1-6a2ac07f9712.normal.jpg

You mean this dress??

In all actuality it is your choice! Has he seen the dress? To me this looks like a very dark red but not a burgandy...I could be wrong. You have to do what's going to make you feel good, maybe compromise and not have the BMs dressed in burgundy?? I'm not really sure to be honest!

[Jenn060306]

Does he understand how much you love it? If he knows that and how happy it would make you to have it i think he'd be ok with it. Then if you make a comprimise and use different colours for everything eles.
Good Luck! I hope he can understand how much you love it.

[WebLady]

Tell him he doesn't have to wear it :bblol:

No, just talk to him and tell him how much you like the color and want that dress. Maybe have him pick the complementary color.

:goodluck:

[Kacie_bride]

Does he hate the color of the fact that you want color on your wedding gown? Justin doesn't like the idea of color on a gown. Just talk to him about it. I think the color is beautiful.

[CindySue]

I went through similar with Brian about our wedding colors. EVerything I picked out he hated. He ended up picking our colors by accident - its our birthstones. I have to agree with everyone else. Talk to him. Its the only way you are going to get anywhere.
Just a suggestion: Does the dress happen to come in other colors? If it does, have you seen them? There might be another color on the same dress you like just as much or more that HE likes too.
Good Luck!

[countrygirl]

I had my heart set on Purple, but found out last night that Josh had purple in his last wedding??

[CindySue]

I had my heart set on Purple, but found out last night that Josh had purple in his last wedding??
I was worried about that kind of thing too with Brian. Im am trying to make this one soo unlike his last.

[countrygirl]

Josh suggested a dark green, he likes that color too, and it may work w my dress. I am going to check that one out too!!

[CindySue]

Josh suggested a dark green, he likes that color too, and it may work w my dress. I am going to check that one out too!!
I wanted to go with different shades of green because thats my favorite color, but Brian said we would blend in with the grass. He wanted blue and silver for the Dallas Cowboys and I said H3LL NO!!! We had fun trying to work this one out. And like I said he picked the colors by accident.

[Dawn]

Well, I talked to Dave last night, and he said..."whatever you want". so... I guess I'm going with that color. YAY!

Dawn

[CindySue]

Well, I talked to Dave last night, and he said..."whatever you want". so... I guess I'm going with that color. YAY!

Dawn
That was Brian thing too, "whatever you want Baby, just tell me when to show up." Well I would make plans and he would have some sort of problem with something, but he would give me any input until AFTER I made a decision. I finally asked him if I ask his input and he doesnt give it, he cant get mad if he doesnt like the decision i make. He had to admit he couldnt. Hes also better about actually "thinking" about it before he tells me "whatever you want Baby"

[countrygirl]

That was Brian thing too, "whatever you want Baby, just tell me when to show up." Well I would make plans and he would have some sort of problem with something, but he would give me any input until AFTER I made a decision. I finally asked him if I ask his input and he doesnt give it, he cant get mad if he doesnt like the decision i make. He had to admit he couldnt. Hes also better about actually "thinking" about it before he tells me "whatever you want Baby"

Same here, Josh said to go w whatever i want, but that he really doesn't want purple this time. It's a bummer, cause it's his fav color, but such is life I guess. Now we will check out green.

Is it wierd for the guys to hear all black?? That is what we are thinking since it will be difficult to match thier shirts to my dress, and will look funny if they wear white, since my dress isn't white.

[Jenn060306]

I don't think wearing all black would be weird. It could be very sophisicated looking.

I sometimes wish Mark would say 'What ever you want' There are some things he is soooo opinionated on and stubborn too! It makes me a little crazy! Ok.... a little more then usual.

[countrygirl]

I don't think wearing all black would be weird. It could be very sophisicated looking.

I sometimes wish Mark would say 'What ever you want' There are some things he is soooo opinionated on and stubborn too! It makes me a little crazy! Ok.... a little more then usual.

The guys are going to be wearing boots, and cowboy hats too, so they will literally be in ALL black. I think it will look nice. I can't wait to see how it all turns out.

[shawnsgirl]

I have a great idea!! If you really love that color compromise with him. You can get this dress in any color alfred angelo offers. My best friend is wearing that same dress but with champagne as the color. It's amazing! Have the bridesmaids stick with wearing that color wich if I'm correct is claret. Perhaps that way you guys could compromise...I still like it in the red too for a less traditional look. But if he wants you in all white its a way to compromise with him!
Hope this helps
Jonelle

[Dawn]

Thanks guys for all your advice. He said though..."whatever I want". I think its just the color that hes not too hot on. I dunno, I guess as the time gets closer as to when i need to really make a decision, he will prolly get mmore outspoken. We'll see.

[Jenn060306]

The guys are going to be wearing boots, and cowboy hats too, so they will literally be in ALL black. I think it will look nice. I can't wait to see how it all turns out.

My dad was going to wear black cowboy boots to my wedding. I'm not sure if he is or not now.... he was debating it. I really want him to... it's just his thing. Ever since we moved to Calgary he's always worn them unless he was workin in the yard or it was just too hot.

[rainbowtreat]

Nicholas has no idea what my dress is like at all. He knows I wanted some color but he has no idea what colors are in my dress and just how much. I think you should go with the dress you want. Once he sees you in it he wont be thinking I dont like that color. I am sure of it. It is a beautiful dress. I think you should go for it.

[usahgrad]

Jason wasn't so hot on me wearing something other than a white dress, but when I told him how much I absolutely LOVED my dress and how gorgeous it looks on me, he seemed okay with it.

As far as the all black goes, it will look nice actually. My brother and sister-in-law's wedding was a black and white wedding. I hated the black dress we had to wear (she didn't really think about the figure of ANY of her bridesmaids...but oh well, it's her pictures she gets to look at, not mine), but the guys looked nice and the far away pictures (which most of them were because her photographer kind of stunk) look really nice! The only thing that didn't look good was the style of the dress.

Marriage takes compromise and I think in this situation, this is one of those things the GUY has to compromise on. It's YOUR dress, he's not wearing it. I would be careful of the "whatever you want" though. Like Cindy said, that can be quite the curse!

[StaceyMc]

I looked at that dress too, but ended up with another one with burgundy on it.

Joe doesn't even know that my dress has color on it. I'm not going to tell him, it's a surprise - to everyone, except for my family and a few friends. He has a say in other things, but not my dress.

Joe's another one that says "whatever you want." Just a few weeks ago, he said "Hey...when did we decide that burgundy was our color?" lol...I told him we decided the day after he asked me - I said burgundy and white with accents of green and brown - he said "OK". He doesn't remember - too bad :)

[WhiskeyGirl]

I looked at that dress too, but ended up with another one with burgundy on it.

Joe doesn't even know that my dress has color on it. I'm not going to tell him, it's a surprise - to everyone, except for my family and a few friends. He has a say in other things, but not my dress.

Joe's another one that says "whatever you want." Just a few weeks ago, he said "Hey...when did we decide that burgundy was our color?" lol...I told him we decided the day after he asked me - I said burgundy and white with accents of green and brown - he said "OK". He doesn't remember - too bad :)

What dress did you end up goign with?

[StaceyMc]

The very first one that I posted when I started my journal. It is white, stapless, with burgundy around the top and around the bottom with embroidered roses - they took the picture down, since it was a winter gown.

As soon as I get it....that should be soon...I'll have to post a pic.

[Kacie_bride]

That is just like a man to want to have his colors after a football team.

[Shawna Bride]

We had the same situation.
I think what we tend to forget is that it's HIS special day too.
I think you need to compromise on the color. Why make him look at a colour he hates the whole day? Do you have a second favorite color?

[CindySue]

We had the same situation.
I think what we tend to forget is that it's HIS special day too.
I think you need to compromise on the color. Why make him look at a colour he hates the whole day? Do you have a second favorite color?
Thats what we did. Every combo I came up with, he hated. He chose the colors and it worked for us.
And it is their wedding dad too. And believe it or not, they do have ideas and opinions about it, but they just cant give up that manly man image and say something. Even Brian, when he has an idea or opinion about our wedding, he tells me not to tell anybody!

[JessicaYvette]

wow thats a hard one ! he has to understand that its your day ... i mean I know its his day too but lets face it , if it was up to the men we would just sign the papers and be done and maybe take a trip (honeymoon). But On the other hand ... u might have to Compromise , that is apart of marriage , u know ? In reality its both of yalls day , so you should do what it takes to make him happy , just as he should for you.

[SerendipityCrafts]

Call it wine instead of burgundy .... maybe it will confuse him? Barring that, tell him you would rather get married in a sweat suit if you can't wear the dress of your deams. :D

Seriously ... that dress is beautiful and I am sure he will think you are the most beautiful bride no matter what you wear. Have you tried it on yet? Does it make you feel beautiful?

or ..... what if you compromise? Perhaps you wear the dress but do not decorate with the same colour? Accents in an ice blue or silver would look lovely.

Side note: a friend of mine runs a wedding shop in Montreal and she buys dresses from all over the globe. She was telling me that it's only North American brides who seem to stick to wearing either white or ivory. According to her, everyone in Europe is wearing whatever colour they want. She was showing me some absolutely beautiful red, emerald and yes, even lime green dresses.