I Want To Elope!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[DanaBride]

I have alwalys wanted a huge wedding and in some ways I still do, but after this weekend I just want to get married and just be done with the whole thing.
My fiance and I have been dating for 4 1/2 years and have waited to get married so that we would be financially stable and so maybe the first years of our marriage wouldn't have to be strained by finances. So we will be getting married on 6/24/06 and we have been planning this since October 29,2004 when we got engaged.
Well so last night my sister (who has been dating some one for 5 weeks, and who has a divorce pending due to adultry committed by her husband) asked me if I would be upset if she got married before I did. She completely floored me, and pissed me off at the same time. So I thought for a second and said,"I hope I'm not being a :censored: by saying that but yeah I would be mad. I would like the chance to have my first wedding before you have second, and especially since my wedding is only 11 weeks away." Am I wrong for feeling this way, because I feel like I am being a complete witch but she is wanting to get married 2 weeks prior to me, which by the way is the day she is suppose to be throwing my lingerie shower.
And that isn't all. My aunt is making the flowers for my wedding, and she will not quite calling me and harrassing me about the :censored: things, I really don't give a darn if I have flowers or not.I go away to college 2 hours away and until May 3 I will only see my fiance two more days before I come home for the summer, and right now I am little bit too stressed out about my nursing finals to give a :censored: about the flowers. She left a message on my cell phone that said this is your aunt kay and you need to give me a call it's an emergency, however, I had just got off the phone with my mother who told me she was done with the flowers and she wanted me to pick them up ASAP. I am home now, and I am studying for a med/surg test I have on Monday, and personally I feel that is more important than going to get the :censored: flowers.
Any body else ever wanted to just give up and elope????????? If so, does the feeling go away, because I've wanted to do this since the beginning of March????

[usahgrad]

Umm...does that feeling go away? No, not really. The only thing that's keeping us from eloping is the fact that we've sent out the invitations already. I would give my left leg to go off and elope. I told Jason today we could do it and then just not tell anyone. He said, "No, they'll notice." Good thing he's got a calm head on his shoulders...of course, he hasn't had to do much (maybe that's why the groom isn't expected to do much; so that they can keep the bride sane).

Anyways, what your sister asked was mean. I would be right where you are in that situation, so if your a b*tch, then so am I (and, not to be presumptuous, but probably at least a few other girls on here too). Good luck and just remember, it all will be over in eleven weeks and you'll be able to build a good and happy life with your husband. That's the most important part.

[LaceyinPgh]

I would be upset if my sister pulled that too. But, if she still has a divorce pending, she shouldn't be counting her chickens just yet. I don't know when she filed but htey usually take MONTHS to get through the court system and filed. I wouldn't start to worry yet.

Sean and I had a break down night the other night and decided that we were going to Vegas and just elope. We weren't even going to tell anyone. Then we realized that we stand to lose thousands in deposits. That plan got cancelled.

The feeling gets worse as you get closer. But it is going to be over soon. Then you can reflect on your fabulous wedding that you got to enjoy.

[WhiskeyGirl]

I don't think the feeling ever really goes away but you have to remind yourself what is important, and that is that you are married to the man of your dreams and the one you love!! My cousin got engaged after me and married before me, I wass P1ssed, but I got over it. However, if I had a sister and she said what yours said to you to me, I'd snap!!!! She's already been married once before and the divorce is still pending, like Lacey said, she shouldn't count her chickens before they are hatched! Tell her how much she will be letting you down!!! Be honest and yes I think its ok to be a b*tch in this situation!! As far as the flowers, just call her and tell her thanks and you'll pick them up at your earliest convience. Believe me there are probably going to be quite a few more things that pop up and make you want to elope, but for me the idea of losing LOTS of money on the deposits is what kept me going and the biggest FACT, knowing that I was going to marry the love of my life! To me it didn't matter if the world came crumbling down because at the end of the day, we were husband and wife!! Best of luck! Welcome to the board and just know that we are or have experienced what you might be going through at any time, so free feel to vent and share your planning, questions, etc. with us! We love and live to help!!!

[rainbowtreat]

I , along with the other gilrs, am not sure it will go away. There are times I wish it was over with already. This is my second wedding and I dont remember the first being so stressfull. Maybe tha tis it. If it is this much work just to have the wedding then maybe it is a sign or something. Maybe I am more stressed becasue I can't wait to see Nicholas' face when I walk up to him all decked out in that dress. And I get to spend the day with the best friends a girl could ever ask for. I mean these girls are coming from all over to spend this one special day with me. As Nicholas' mom has said we could have gotten amrried and then had a big party after but I could not have gotten to see his face at that one moment. It will all be worth it. I just knwo it will. Stick it out and stick with us. These girls are amazing at listening and helping.

[Jenn060306]

For me that feeling comes and goes. I have my days where i am super exsited about the wedding. But then i have my days where i just wish it was all over with. I can't sleep much anymore, i'm much more stressed and emotional. I completely understand the feeling of not giving a :censored: about things like flowers.
I am a student as well. I have 3 more weeks until i am done classes for good. It's extremely difficult to balance both. Given the chance i would have waited until the end of the summer to get married.
You'll eventually figure out how to cope with it all. Hopefully you have some great supports with your BM's and fiance that can be there to listen and help you through the 'i give up' days.
Good Luck! I hope your sister can realize that she can wait a little longer to get married so you're wedding can come first. You've been planning this for a long time. It's a very big deal. I hope she can realize that!

[Hayz]

Through my planning of our wedding I wanted to forget the whole thing and just go and get eloped. It was too late by that stage as everything was booked and deposits had been made. It would have seriously hurt the families too.

But on the day it was so worth it. You don't have too much longer to go, so just hang in there. It'll be worth it - just you wait and see.

[CindySue]

It a joke between Brian and I about how I tried talking him into eloping and he wouldnt go for it, but now that everything is planned and invitaions have been sent, he wants to run off somewhere! Ive got 5 weeks....give or take a few days and I just so ready for it to be over with.

[ikkin510]

I am not getting married until October, and I already have those feeling every time I try to work on the wedding. It is just so stressful! I would much rather just run off and do it all stress-free!
As for your flowers, if your aunt wants them to be picked up so bad, maybe see if your mom or someone else could stop by and get them for you. Then you won't have to worry about the constant calls.