Unsolicited Weight Comments???

[CallMeAl]

New to the site but just wondering - have any of you had people make nasty remarks about your weight since you have been engaged? I have had several people say some of the meanest things!

I got engaged in June and immediately set the date for late November - I just *had* to have a certain venue. When I told people the date, a lot of them immediately stared pointedly at my belly and said in horrified tones "So SOON?!?" I am so NOT pregnant, but I tried to let those comments slide since it is not the norm here in the deep South to not spend any less than your entire life planning your wedding.

THEN my stepmother says, "You know, if you plan on losing any before the wedding you are sure going to have to start NOW." Again, I was willing to let it go.

The girls at the bridal store were not much better. Bad enough that the sizing is enough to make you cry, and then they make little comments like "well, when we order it in YOUR size...it's just that you're so CURVY..." Again, I admit that I actually look like a grown woman and not a 12 year old boy, so even that didn't bother me THAT much.

THEN I was showing one of my co-workers a pic of me trying on the two-sizes-too-small for a "curvy" girl dress and what comment did I get??? "Do you really look kind of fat in that or is it just the computer screen? I just can't figure out why a woman would want to wear a big white dress that will just makes her look even bigger!" Now that one hurt my feelings pretty bad. That night I had the most terrible nightmares where I was trying on clothes and all of them were too small!

This morning my mom calls me at work and says, "You know, you should really think about laying off of those birth control pills. They are going to make you gain a ton of weight before the wedding." I have to admit that given all of the other comments I had endured that I totally snapped at her and told her that I was getting sick and tired of all the fatty comments.

I am totally upset. I thought brides were supposed to be beautiful but everyone is making me feel like a heifer! I am certainly not a size zero but I am sure not a small planet either - I'm 5'8" and usually wear like an 8 or a 10. Am I overreacting? Do you guys get this too? What am I supposed to say to these kinds of comments???

[neebelung]

First off, welcome. :)

Secondly, WOW. Holy ****, you've got some seriously insensitive people surrounding you. Based on what you've said, you're not at ALL big, and these people have their heads lodged firmly up their asses to be saying such rude remarks to you.

I've been lucky to not have anyone say such things to me (thank God, or they might have a black eye!)... I can only suspect some of these people are just miserable little people who can't stand to see someone else genuinely happy, and they want to find some way to bring you down and rain on your parade.

Don't let them get to you... Just hold your head high, smile and tell them you're quite happy with your curves, thank you, and you know they'll look amazing in your wedding gown. Don't let them know it bothers you, and maybe they'll stop.

Good luck!

[mitch]

I'm in the UK so a US size 8-10 converts to UK Size 10-12. Which is by no means Overweight!

I'm a UK 10-12 and you are Four Inches Taller than me. And i'm definately not Fat. If anything, people are telling me to put weight on!

Anyhow even if you was. It's the person inside who counts. I know that's an old cliche but it's true.

I know some real skinny people who are nasty and bitchy. And my best friend in the world is a UK Size 20 (US 18) and she is the nicest person i know. Thoughtful, kind and considerate.

If your Friends and Family are judging the book by the cover, then IMO they will never learn to read.

So don't worry about it. As i always say.

There's more Fat on a Chip (French Fry).

[WebLady]

First off, welcome. :)

Secondly, WOW. Holy ****, you've got some seriously insensitive people surrounding you. Based on what you've said, you're not at ALL big, and these people have their heads lodged firmly up their asses to be saying such rude remarks to you.

I've been lucky to not have anyone say such things to me (thank God, or they might have a black eye!)... I can only suspect some of these people are just miserable little people who can't stand to see someone else genuinely happy, and they want to find some way to bring you down and rain on your parade.

Don't let them get to you... Just hold your head high, smile and tell them you're quite happy with your curves, thank you, and you know they'll look amazing in your wedding gown. Don't let them know it bothers you, and maybe they'll stop.

Good luck!
Here, Here to everything she said!

Granted, lots of brides seem to talk about wanting to loose weight before the wedding and maybe that is where some of the comments are coming from ... but yeah, some of the comments you mention are pretty rude :snide:

All the best :)

[kgvettegirl]

Just remember that your future husband chose you at the weight/size you are. If he likes it tell them to take a long walk off a short pier. I'm a 16/18 I'm not fat but I'm not rail thin anymore either. I like my curves and so does my husband. That is all that matters.

[alli816]

Wow, people are so nasty nowadays......I'm so sorry even the girls at the bridal shop were so mean......please just keep your chin up and just ignore them all....as the ladies said they are jealous bc you're so happy in love.....:D....As for me I'm not a skinny girl...I'm a chunky girl and when I went to the Bridal store the woman who helped me to pick out dresses made me feel like a princess even thought I felt like a big cow....

[Scrwballsgrl]

Welcome to OW you will definatley find sympathetic ears here!

Now on to those mean, disrespectful, rude, so-n-so's!
I'm also a "deep south bride":winktongue: And believe it or not am the same size & height you just described yourself at....and I don't believe I am fat or overweight or pregnant,lol. Those people at the dress shop were unbelievably unprofessional and if you wanted to be as b*tchy as they were you could report them to the manager or district manager of the salon.

As to birth control pills I personally take them and I've heard remarked so do some other ladies on the forum here and to my knowledge no one noticed any considerable weight gain.
to the lady at work, is SHE married? what did she wear to her wedding? A flour sack? to each his own in choosing color, size & style but why would anyone make an assuming remark about someone else like that, especially a co-worker! I'm sorry so soon into your wedding planning people are already showing their true colors.....like kgvettegrl said "just remember your Fh chose you for who you are.....as you are..." (sorry I was adlibbing but you get the jest:grinhappy:)

Try to just let it roll off.....once after a burger run while I was happily indulging in a whopper jr. with Cheese! FSIL strolls through the kitchen and says " Careful, Emma, don't you know bread is the enemy." I just took a big ole bite and said "Yea, but its so GOOOODDDDD!" (forgive me for talking with my mouth full) bless her heart she hasn't eaten a meal of what I would consider normal portion sizes in the four years I've known her, but I refuse to be mean b/c I'm starving myself to death and going into food withdrawl! :hungry:

[RosieAngel]

OMFG, what is wrong with people? :irked: You are not fat. You sound like you're medium build.

I saw a thread over on indiebride where people in a bridal salon were asking a size 2/4 young lady who was recovering from an eating disorder how much weight she was planning on losing for her wedding. She left the place in tears. :sob:

I never had any trouble, though. When I went into a David's Bridal in my area, the ladies there were telling me what a nice body I have (and I ended up with a size 10 dress)!

So... yeah, people need to shut up. Don't let people tell you that you're anything less than stunning, and if vendors do, take your business elsewhere!

Oh, and, on a somewhat related note, I didn't gain an ounce on birth control. I think that's a common misconception, or only a problem if you're inactive.

[leafinautumn03]

You are definitely NOT overreacting! I am 5'5"-5'6"ish and when I went to try on dresses, I was either a 10 or a 12. I am not fat so you DEFINITELY cannot be. Keep your chin up girl.

[garnet]

Oh honey! I'd like to go beat the tar out of those sales girls and everyone else. Baby, wear your curves and be happy. If they can't celebrate with you and be happy, screw them. I'd make a rule: No more comments about my weight, my figure, etc. Not ever. I am a beautiful woman and I will be a beautiful bride.

And remeber your fiancee loves you just the way you are.

[10Nov2008]

Welcome to OW girlfriend!!!

You definately don't deserve to hear those kinds of insensitive and totally-off-base remarks!!!

Now, I AM fat and I still don't allow people to make comments like that. One woman asked if I was pregnant and I said "no, I'm just fat." THEN she got embarassed. I think people are just totally ignorant sometimes.

I will say though, my first experience at a bridal salon was when I took my Matron of Honor to look for dresses for the bridal party. This little tiny stick figure girl made some horrific comments about my MOH's size...and she's a lil smaller than I am.

I found the manager and requested another attendant. At first the manager balked at switching out the twiggy one but then I told her all the **** we'd heard and I told her I could take my business elsewhere.

The next gal that helped us was much nicer and so was another woman who helped me with bridal gowns. She was super sweet.

You're a customer and it doesn't matter if you're a size 0 or a size 30, you don't need to pay to be treated horrifically.

What it comes down to is the relationship you have with yourself. If you're happy then tell all the other people (especially your mom and step mom) to go fly a kite!

[08chrissy08]

For the love of Pete! At a size 8/10, I would not even remotely consider you overweight. But regardless of what your size is, those comments were completely out of place. I don't care big a girl is, being treated that way is WRONG. Period.

[gwenshack]

Wow. Please don't let these sort of things ruin this experience for you. Obviously your FH loves you just the way you are and I hope YOU love yourself the way you are. Don't let negativity get in the way of your happiness, which is the only thing you should be feeling right now.

If you are comfortable with your weight - be it size 4 or 24 - that's all that matters. If anybody else makes any comments please remind them that if you lose weight there won't be "more of you" to love.

Welcome to the board. :)

[snowflakebride]

I don't understand...8-10? Is Birmingham full of supermodels or something?

Don't even worry about it. As others have said, your fiancee is happy with you the way you are, and that's what's important. You are by no means overweight.

[gwenshack]

Oh, also, there's no evidence that birth control pills cause weight gain. It's a horrible myth created to deter women from taking the best thing ever invented.

[Qtpie]

I know what you mean. I found my dress and bought it on the first day but it is a 16W. I feel soooooo FAT when I found out what size it was. My mom, sister, and moms best friend told me to not feel bad because the wedding dresses run SMALL, and that I am not a little girl, I am a WOMEN. So please don't worry about it. I am sure you will look fabulous in your dress.

When FH and I first started dating I gained weight and I still remember to this day one of his coworkers walks up to me and rubs my belly and asked me "when is the baby due?" I cried all night long.

[mitch]

I don't understand...8-10? Is Birmingham full of supermodels or something?


Well i know the Birmingham in England certainly isn't. :winktongue:

[Nekochanpurr]

WOW, thats awful! I'd tell them where to go.. Then proceed to get kicked out of that store.. And i am fat. o.o; You however, are no where NEAR it!! This is why some people get eating disorders >.<. Don't take it to heart!

[Lucky1]

I think a lot of people have this image of a wafer thin bride in their minds when they think of a wedding (just think about it-who do you see modeling all the wedding dresses in the magazines). People seem to forget that getting married is about love and committment, not trying to fit into a size 2. I think you should stop holding your tounge and start telling people that their comments are innapropriate. Even if you were a size 20-it's none of their business!

[brendalin]

Welcome to Onewed!!! I am sorry that you experience as an engaged women has gotten you these comments! As long as you are happy with yourself it should be easier for you to listen to the ladies advice above and remember why you are doing this. To marry your husband and start your lives together. Obviously those other people are unhappy with their lives if they are so rude to say these comments. we would love to see pictures of you in your dress, because we would never say these things to you!

Good Luck with all of your planning!

[CallMeAl]

Ya'll are all so sweet...I do feel better about everything. I am so glad that you guys understand!

I don't think anyone except other brides-to-be realizes that it's sometimes not all fun and games. You know, everyone tells you "It's your day, do what you want!" but it often seems like they really mean, "It's your day, but you better do what I want!" It's also frustrating because when I complain to my finacee, who is a very confident, no-nonsense type guy, he just says, "Who cares? It's not their wedding. Don't worry about it!" Which proves that yes, I shouldn't worry about it...but sometimes in my fantasies I want him to be like "WHAT?!? Who said that to you? That's unacceptable and they will pay!" or something similar and Godfather-esque that will allow me to feel vindicated. Silly, I know!

Thanks for all of the comments re: the birth control pills. I didn't want to gain any weight before (who does?), but my mom's comments made me really paranoid. You guys make me feel so much better! I can tell from your pics that you are all such cute girls, and from your comments that you are "pretty on the inside" too!

I will see if I still have the offensive pic of me in my dress on my computer so that I can post it...BTW, it was actually a MALE co-worker who made this super-rude and unsolicited comment! But it's all the ladies in the office who still suspect I am preggers. One of my bridesmaids said she went through the exact same thing when she got married...is it an epidemic, or only in Alabama???

[kgvettegirl]

Ok I will fess up. I have PCOS (polycystic ovarian syndrome) and I look like I'm about 6 or 7 months pregnant. I'M NOT! Heck I'm 50 and have looked like this for about 5 years now. You would think that people would pick up on the fact. I've had people ask me when am I due. I've had people ask me where is the baby. I can't have kids people. I've been rude and said I'm sorry but I'm unable to have children. I've burst into tears, you name it I've reacted. Maybe you should just take it that they are projecting themselves onto you. Just ignore them they are a waste of space. Sorry this really gets me up on my soap box. Stepping down now.

[Danielle9608]

Wow I read your post and I was amazed that people that love and care about you could be so rude and mean. First off a size 8-10 is not big at all! And if you are happy with yourself that is all that matters. I can totally relate to you though. I have really bad skin, and people kept asking me if I was going to see a dermatologist before the wedding. My response was: its none of your business! Pay no attention to narrow minded people that only care about what is on the outside, you are better then them!

[CallMeAl]

kgvettegirl...I cannot believe the things people have said. Sometimes it seems like people are just obsessed with reproduction! Why do people feel like they have any right to discuss something so personal??? So rude and uncalled for.

danielle...again with the rude people! I don't have what anyone would consider "Hollywood skin" in the least and it has a tendency to make me feel pretty self-conscious sometimes. Do people even think before they open their mouths???

I tried to attach a pic and it keeps telling me my file is too big. I'll keep working on it though.

scrwballsgrl...sounds like we need to get together for one of those burger runs! Whopper Jr. with cheese and plenty of mayo is one of my faves!:grinhappy:

[Katiegirl]

I read this thread earlier this morning, and guess what happened at lunch? One of my annoying coworkers said, "Katie's trying to lose weight for the wedding." :bbrolleyes: I just got engaged a few weeks ago, and I've been losing weight since the beginning of June. I told her that, and she didnt' know what to say. Miserable woman.

[MrsDM]

Welcome hun! First off, no, you are by no means overweight.

Now for my encouraging story (lol!) I have always been petite. Currently, I am 4/5 and FINALLY gaining some curve and shape to my body. I finally have boobs and a butt and HIPS!! WHOO HOO!!! Now..I love to eat and if I hear one more person comment about how I won't fit into my dress if I keep eating like that, I am going to scream! When I was in high school I was a 0 or 00 depending on the brand people used to think I was anorexic and my friends would comment, "Have you ever seen her eat?! She can pound two Whoppers and a king size fry!! " I am so proud of my womanly body right now, even thought it may not be much, but definately a big improvement.

IMO - as long as you are happy with yourself, it doesn't matter what others say. It is kinda funny, I can't tell you when the last time I heard FH comment so much on my butt/boobs because I am a woman, not a little girl anymore!

[Scrwballsgrl]

haha, I know I've never been one of those girls who want to "stop eating" to lose weight. I enjoy cooking and eating and one of the best things in the world to me is to sit down with family and/or friends for a good meal.

Can't wait to see a picture of you in your dress, I bet you look beautiful.

[Jenna5366]

Wow!! What RUDE people!! There is no way in hell you are even slighty fat. Tell them to shut the eff up and go about your business. :D

[MrsDM]

haha, I know I've never been one of those girls who want to "stop eating" to lose weight. I enjoy cooking and eating and one of the best things in the world to me is to sit down with family and/or friends for a good meal.


I totally agree! I love having people over for dinner or meeting up with them over a meal.

[jasonscountrygirl]

WELCOME!!!! lol And let me just say that I am a big girl. Sure I hear comments but you have to let them role off your back as hard as that is. See the thing I tell people is that I may be a fat girl but I'm the sexiest fat girl you will ever meet!!! To me size don't equal how much respect you should get. People are always going to be like that. You just have to have confidence and realize that your FH loves how you look and that you are beautiful no matter what sized you are. My fience loves my curves, but he loevs my confidence more.

[Jacobs_Girl]

to add to what others have said, wedding dresses usually run small anyways!

I wear a size 5 in pants and small or medium in shirts but when I went to try on dressed I was wearing 8, 10, 12 ALL fit me lol of course it depends on the designer as well. Davids bridal dresses run EXTRA small!

Good luck tho, if it were me I would have knocked out at least one person and pull someone else hair.

[mitch]

I have a friend who is Large and her reply to comments is this........


"I can go on a Diet, you on the other hand will always be inconsiderate, ugly and rude" :winktongue:

[mitch]

Good luck tho, if it were me I would have knocked out at least one person and pull someone else hair.


Ooh you thug :rofl:

Well i suppose it makes a change from me giving someone a Bat. :winktongue:

[Jacobs_Girl]

Ooh you thug :rofl:

Well i suppose it makes a change from me giving someone a Bat. :winktongue:

lol this is from growing up with 2 brothers and no sisters, plus I have a short temper. :grinhappy:

[kgvettegirl]

"I can go on a Diet, you on the other hand will always be inconsiderate, ugly and rude" :winktongue:
Oh I'm so going to use that the next time!

[joraye]

"I can go on a Diet, you on the other hand will always be inconsiderate, ugly and rude" :winktongue:

Agreed! I've always loved the "I can lose weight, I'm not so sure about your bad attitude."

As for a 8-10, I wish I was that "big". HA. I remember being a 8-10-12 in high school and feeling morbidly obese, and looking back now, longing to be that size again! I'm in Oklahoma, not exactly south or deep, but we're pretty diverse when it comes to body types.

I've fallen into that dreaded pit of "boyfriend comfort zone". I moved out of my loft with 2 of my super-skinny friends, who, in not such a smart move, we basically kept me running around, not eating, and popping diet pills. While it wasn't the healthy way, those girls kept me in check.

However, FH, who loves me just the way I am (and you better believe yours does too!) we've gotten into the habit of eating horribly again....him and his sister came up with a good plan, since we've got 12 months to go - 4 pounds a month. That definately isn't starving yourself, and if it all works out, 50 pounds lighter possibly.

I know it's hard, but I just try to not let those people get to me. I just have to go home, shower, put on a nice outfit and some fabulous makeup, and know I look a helluva lot better than some of the bags of bones out there that like to look down on me! Fat chicks rule! :cloppy:

[Scrwballsgrl]

this thread is making me think of a song my girlfriends and I used to say was "our song" whenever we heard it...b/c none of us were ever gonna be confused with the skinny girls....

Queens' "Fat Bottom Girls" lol

[kgvettegirl]

Fat bottomed girls was a good one. The one my sister and I claimed as ours was a silly one. I tried to find it but just got really gross stuff.

Remember or ever hear one from the 70's about cavemen and troglodites?

The Butt sisters, Bertha, Bashsheba and I forget the other one :D. Mom didn't think it was funny but we sure did.

[Scrwballsgrl]

Never heard that one, sounds like a hoot though...hmm 70's I'll have to ask FH about it:winktongue:

[joraye]

Never heard that one, sounds like a hoot though...hmm 70's I'll have to ask FH about it:winktongue:

Haha! That sounds like me....anything before 1983, I'm not exactly "familiar" with.

[butterfly3582]

Just to piggy back you are not fat. I am about 5'10 and I wear a size 8-10. So those people are crazy. Actually I say I wear anything from a 6-12 depending on who makes it:D.

Please dont let these insensitive people get you down. This is about you feeling beautiful. If you find a dress that makes you feel beautiful and it is a size 16 who cares. Yes Davids Bridal Dresses run WAY small and the sales people will tell you that.

Just enjoy being engaged and good luck with everything.

[alli816]

Just to piggy back you are not fat. I am about 5'10 and I wear a size 8-10. So those people are crazy. Actually I say I wear anything from a 6-12 depending on who makes it:D.

Please dont let these insensitive people get you down. This is about you feeling beautiful. If you find a dress that makes you feel beautiful and it is a size 16 who cares. Yes Davids Bridal Dresses run WAY small and the sales people will tell you that.

Just enjoy being engaged and good luck with everything.

I totally agree with you...dont worry what people say.....and your right about David's Bridal their dresses do run small, my sales woman let me know that when I was trying my dresses on......so that made me feel better bc at first when I was trying on the dresses I felt so big that I thought I wouldnt find a dress to fit me but then I put this one dress on that I would never see myself wearing and I got the "Wow" factor and just felt like Cinderella in it.....:D

[VenusElaine]

Do not pay attention to the number.

In recent years, designers have begun "vanity sizing". We are much more inclined to buy the same dress - or gown - if the "number" is smaller. Disgusting.

The smallest women's size when I "crossed over" was a 6. The measurements for that size are now a "Zero". Same size, different number. Total cr@p.

Marilyn Monroe, the ultimately womanly body, was a 14 (36-24-36) in her day.
Real women have curves, dammit!

Playboy once described the perfect figure as a ten inch difference from bust to waist to hips. I've got it, at 5'3", 180 pounds,48-34-44.

Unlike RTW, pattern sizes have been standardized for years. And they differ greatly from RTW. Bridal sizes also are based on a sizing scale (considered "European") that is, under our current expectations, freaking brides out.

Buy what you like, and looks good, and enjoy your day!

Enough PUI (posting under the influence, GO COORS LIGHT!).

VenusElaine

[eva43]

Forget what those insensitive people are saying to you. You have someone that loves you for who you are!! For all you know many of those people may just be jealous because you are about to get hitched and they have no one asking them for their hand. (thinking of the girls in the store) So you just be yourself and you will look beautiful when you walk the aisle:)

[BingBot]

I was just reading over this post and all of the replies. It is not right to make comments about other people's weight whether they are big or small. I seem to be in the minority here because I have always been very thin. I'm 5'6 and a size 2. I have never dieted or anything like that, this is just the way I am!

I have also had to deal with rude comments over the years from people. Things like "do you eat?", and "oh honey you are so thin!" (like I'm anorexic or something) Those comments are very upsetting to me, and usually the people who make them don't even know me. And I've gotten my share of rude glances from larger women and I can just imagine what they are thinking. Anyone who knows me knows that I eat normally and I'm just "lucky" to be thin. I don't feel lucky though. I wish I was able to gain weight before the wedding but that doesn't seem to be happening. Ladies, I want you to know that some of the comments made here when referring to thin girls are hurtful to me. I hate seeing the words "little girl" or "bag of bones" used to refer to a skinny person. You are doing what others have done to you with name calling and putting down! Everyone should be happy about who they are and what they look like. I agree it can be hard, I have often wished that I weighed at least ten pounds more. BUT I think we should all remember to be courteous to everyone when posting and do not put others down because of their weight.

Just wanted to give you all the minority point of view on this one.

[08chrissy08]

I was just reading over this post ......do not put others down because of their weight.

I just want to say thanks for this post. I'm also on the thin side and have gotten pretty used to recieving the dirty looks and the comments. People assume that because I'm thin that I never have any trouble finding clothes or that I don't get predjudice from others. I've been accused of flaunting myself and I've been told that I must think I'm better then other people because I'm thin. I don't flaunt myself. I'm actually a very modest person. You'll never see me in short shorts and cut off shirts. I prefer jeans an t-shirts most days. I don't think I'm better then anyone else. I'm just another person. I expect to recieve the same respect and treatment that I give to others.

Being thin is not always a blessing. The last time I tried to go clothes shopping, I ended up buying a sinlge shirt. Yep, just one shirt. I can't wear womens or misses sizes, I have to buy shirts in the juniors section. Do you know hard it is to find clothes appropriate for a 28 year old in the juniors section? Because of this I tend to wear just regular t's. They may be too big, but at least I don't feel completely rediculous in them.

For the most part, I don't have to watch what I eat much, but I'm careful not to go overboard. I just try to take care of myself and live my life to the best of my ability. Everyone has rights to respect and understanding.

[BingBot]

Chrissy thank you, you brought up some points that I forgot to make in my initial post. I too have trouble finding clothes that fit and also shop in the junior's section. Even a size small in women's is too big for me. (in fact I recently ordered a 'small' pajama set and it was way too big so I have to send it back!)

We thin ladies have it tough too!

[08chrissy08]

I just want to add that I wasn't trying to point fingers or say that the women here were being cruel. I know that everyone was just being supportive to someone that was dealing with something hurtful to her. What was said to her was very wrong.

I find it sad that society is so messed up by what is the "ideal" look, that you will find people that will condemn you no matter what you look like or what size you are.

[LadyDante]

Chrissy thank you, you brought up some points that I forgot to make in my initial post. I too have trouble finding clothes that fit and also shop in the junior's section. Even a size small in women's is too big for me. (in fact I recently ordered a 'small' pajama set and it was way too big so I have to send it back!)

We thin ladies have it tough too!

I'm tiny too and I have problems shopping. I normally end up buying things in kid's section. Right now I need an evening gown, and it is extremely difficult to find a gown in my size in woman's department, or to find one in kid's that doesn't make me look like a little girl. So we do have it tough as well, and it's not fair to get dirty glances for how our genes made us and over which we don't have much control over.

[ME&HIM]

Hey hun welcome to OW

Now im a big girl (size12-14 australian) im 5ft7" tall and about 80kgs
And anyone tells me im fat i tell them where to shove it.
seriously you are the bride and you will be the most beautiful person at your wedding weather you be a size0 or a sizer 200 who cares really?
Just past the comments off dont listen to them.
as for the bridal shop assistants saying that. i had one like it.
she asked what size i was and is said 14 and she full on snapped my head off..she goes
"no way are you a 14 your much bigger then that and you have no boobs"
then to add fule to the fire she told my sister her boobs are too big
i told her to shove her dress up her arse ad walked out.

seriously if they are like that then obviously they dont want your busniess.

[SarahPearl]

Oh my gosh, why is it that no matter what size bride you are, people ask whether you intend on losing weight?!

You are definately NOT overweight, especially for your height.

I wouldn't tolerate those kinds of comments from people.

I definately agree with what everyone is saying on this thread, your FH wants to marry you for the way you are.

Hope everything turns out okie dokie, and I'm sure it will. ^_^

[BlueFlower]

That is rude. I do not think that people have to lose weight for their wedding- I think if you are ahppy at how you look then what the hell does it matter. You should be the best you you can be on your wedding day.

There is no purpose to starving down to a size zero for one day of your life.

[lana~ri]

You are not fat in any way at all. I am 5' 5" and a size 8. I am the only female in my shop and I get comments about my weight everyday. It's always about me being on the thinner side. I have also been asked 'You aren't going to go on any crazy diet for the wedding are you? Because you definately don't need it.' My point in this is that men LIKE women with meat on their bones. At least they do here in Tennessee. You are beautiful no matter what!

I too went to David's Bridal. They were wonderful to me. My dress is an Oleg Cassini and it's and 8 which is my regular size. It just depends on the designer.

As for the BC, don't worry about it. I have not gained any weight at all on mine. But the Depo shot will make you gain. At least it has everyone I know that has been on it.