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LaceyinPgh
04-06-2006, 09:25 AM
I am so done right now with life in general. I can't remember a time in my life where I have hated the fact that I have to get out of bed and deal with the world more than these last couple of weeks. I am so sick of no one listening to me, no one helping me, and no one understanding that I am allowed to be pissed of/upset/sad/happy/tired/ect. too.

There is something major going down where Sean works that could turn out to be really bad. But, Sean is the only one allowed to be upset about it. It is my life and my future too, but only he is allowed to be stressed and upset about it. If I get upset about it than I am making it worse for him. But mind you, I am not allowed to talk about it with ANYONE. He however can talk about it with his partners. Of course when I talk about it with him, he wants to be left alone or why don't I understand that he doesn't know yet? Well excuse me for ****ing caring or being worried about things! Oh, and he is tired. So I can't do anything because he is tired. He worked today and he is tired. Well I worked today too and I am tired but life goes the on. I understand that he is stressed but how about a little acknowledgement that I am too.

No one listens to me about this wedding; but, if I don't listen to them I get the guilt trip from hell. Of course, no one but Sean and I are paying for anything. Yet, I am supposed to care that my mother is upset that I won't rent a horse and carraige to get our pictures taken next too? Or, she is upset that I am not excited about her shoes and purse. She will flat out tell you that she HATES my shoes but Iam supposed to care taht she bought hers and make a deal like the Second Coming out of that? What the ****! She complains to me 24/7 about being broke but she can think up some **** ridiculous ways to spend my money.

My mother in law is going psycho. For someone as concerned as she is about etiquette and socail apperances she needs some manners. She wanted a guest list for the rehersal dinner, so I sent her the names and contact info for all of our bridal party memebers. Well then she was upset that we weren't including the out of town guests. Guess what, that would be 80 additional people. Look at this equation 80 out of town guests+32 bridal party members and their spouses= 112 people at the rehersal dinner. I might as well save myself about $25,000 and just get married at the rehersal. Hell, I would get an extra day on the honeymoon out of that plan! Her response, "well we don't have to invite all of them just he ones we want there." Ummm.....NO! You invite one of the 80 and I will make **** sure all 80 of the 80 find out about it. This isn't high school and that stuff in real life isn't acceptable. So, I asked Sean to call and talk to her about it. Neither of us want anyone outside out bridal party there. Well, I get yelled at for this because he is busy and has a lot on his mind. Whoopy ****in' do! She is his mother, I handle mine and unless he wants his to get the same treatment he better make that **** call. Oh, and while typing this he called again. So we fought over it again. I told him to do whatever the **** he wanted. I was tired of dealing with it.

I planned my own shower because no one else was willing to do it. I ended up paying for a lot of it too. I can't wait for my mother and bridesmiads to get the glory on that day about all of "their" hard work. I don't even want to ***** about this anymore because I am so **** sick of it.

Oh, and by the way, it's my birthday. Frankly, it was Ruffles's birthday 2 days ago and everyone made a bigger deal than they have about mine. My dad called me at 6 this morning to tell me happy birthday, which I apprecaite. Then he finds out that I took a personal day from work and i get bitched at for it because I am lazy like my mother. Sean was supposed to take me to lunch and then we were going to the bank to change around a few things. But when I asked him about it, he had no clue what I was talking about this morning. Then I reexpalined it to him. Well he didn't sleep well and is stressed out (If I hear him say that one more time this week I swear I'll kill him!) but if I want to then he guesses he can take me. Wow, don't do me any God **** favors. Then I get yelled at for making him feel guilty when I said to never mind I didn't want to go.

So it is my birthday. I should have gotten up and went to work where I would have had a sembelence of peace until about 3 when I got hom. But no I stay at home to enjoy my day and this is the **** that I get for it. I am so sick of everyone right now.

CindySue
04-06-2006, 09:49 AM
Lacey, I am sooo sorry you are having to go through this, especially on your birthday. But on the other hand, Girl you are not alone on being sick and tired of everything and everyone. Im going through a lot of the same BS with Brian. Why does it seem like everyone around us has completely flipped their lids?

StaceyMc
04-06-2006, 09:56 AM
Lacey - First of all, HAPPY BIRTHDAY! I know how you feel, my birthday got swept under the rug on the actual date because we had the family dinner the week prior - it was a bummer at home, by myself, eating leftovers for dinner.

Girl, screw what your dad said - you're far from lazy. Sheesh....people and their unwanted opinions.

If I could get out of this stupid office, the Onewed Pittsburgh Girls could meet for lunch or a drink or multiple drinks....yeah, that sounds better.

Your mom and FMIL sound like a pair. They sound like my FMIL, so I have an idea of what you're dealing with. I think at this point, I'd refuse to give either of them any information. Tell them where to be and what time....that's all they need to know. To tell the truth - Joe came through the door the other night and said "My mother's not invited to the wedding." I think he's serious.

No one listens much to me about the wedding either, my engagement was kind of ignored, since he asked me Christmas morning and things get crazy at Christmas. It's upsetting.

And, why the hell are men such babies? I'm sorry to hear that there are possible problems at Sean's office...as you know, I'm dealing with something similar now. It's stressful, but there's no reason for him to take his junk out on you. You're right, it's your future too and you have every right to want to talk about it with him. I'm sorry that he's being such a :censored: .

Joe and I have had that very same conversation already. I get tired of being the one who,outwardly, is smiling and positive and inside, I'm freakin' out and worried about everything - I'm at that point right now.

That "I'm tired" b*llsh*t must be a man thing too. I get that from Joe once in a while too - he comes over after work, eats dinner and sits on the couch and stares at the TV. I come home from work, make dinner, do dishes, do laundry and pay bills, but he's tired. That's ****.

If you need something, let me know.

LaceyinPgh
04-06-2006, 10:18 AM
Thanks girls. Sometimes it is just nice to :censored: without getting interupted. I love that you all listen!

And Stacey, in between or weddings when you get in that nothing to do stage, we should get together.

WhiskeyGirl
04-06-2006, 11:03 AM
Sorry the cr@p is hitting the fan Lacey!! I hope it all works out for you!! I also hate that people turn into monsters right before a wedding! Here's hoping things get better for you VERY Soon!!

brewsells
04-06-2006, 11:42 AM
Happy Birthday, Lacey! I am really sorry you are going through all of this today. It's supposed to be a relaxing, do what you want day. Go take a hot bubble bath or something... I hope you have a better day

StaceyMc
04-06-2006, 11:44 AM
Yep...I agree Lacey - we'll have to get together.

As for the horses and carriage - where is your mother getting these ideas? With my luck, it would rain and we wouldn't use them anyways....lol.

LaceyinPgh
04-06-2006, 03:23 PM
Well ladies, consider this my official resignation letter to humanity. I just tried to print more of my program covers and the :censored: printer ate about 10 of them. I don't mean paper jam, I mean devoured them. Then Sean continued to :censored: because he has to now come home and move boxes of his **** to the curb so that the wedding and shower gifts will have a storage space until after the wedding. So that is it, I quit. I am moving to Fiji, lying on the beach all day in the sun and drinking mai tais. I may or may not get a job tending bar at some hole in the wall establishment to make rent. I might just settle for camping under a palm tree.

CindySue
04-06-2006, 03:29 PM
So that is it, I quit. I am moving to Fiji, lying on the beach all day in the sun and drinking mai tais. I may or may not get a job tending bar at some hole in the wall establishment to make rent. I might just settle for camping under a palm tree.
Need and/or want company?

WhiskeyGirl
04-06-2006, 03:29 PM
Great! Can I join you? I could use a break from people not listening to me either!! Last night on the phone I asked my mom a question and she started telling me about the tube they put down my dad's throat for his operation! I said "MOM! Thats not what I asked!! No wonder Christmas was so screwed up! You don't LISTEN to me!!!" I just want to cry and then when I tell her something about whats going on in my life its like she doesnt care! I called her after our big fertility clinic appointment and do you know, she changed the subject!!!??? I have no one to support me, not even my mother!! This is not her!! Five years ago she was my rock and now she's like a bowl full of jello!! Anyhow, Lacey, let me know when your going because sleeping under a palm tree and being drunk all day sounds extremely nice right about now!

rainbowtreat
04-06-2006, 05:42 PM
Ok first HAPPY BIRTHDAY !!!!! Sorry it wasn't the best one for ya. I realy htink we need to do that thing of renting a bus and driving around and picking up every one. It's more my kids driving me insane these days. My daughter has an attitude that I just wish she was old enough to move out soe days, and as soon as I pick her up her and her brother start in on each other. Dont get me worn I love my kids but I mean some on give it a rest already. I soooo can not wait to get into my new place. BUt then that is another headache in itself. One month to get every thign in order and get wedding **** done before family and friends start to arrive a week early.

Hang on there gilr, we need to get together in the chat room , have a few drinks ( since we cant get out together for real ) and just talk abotu anythign but wedding and FH's.

CindySue
04-06-2006, 07:30 PM
Hang on there gilr, we need to get together in the chat room , have a few drinks ( since we cant get out together for real ) and just talk abotu anythign but wedding and FH's.
Sounds like a great plan! Ive already had 3 glasses of wine (and feeling pretty good right about now), Brian is not here, hes working on his rent house. (I told him before he left how I felt and told him to hush everytime he tried to interrupt.) I just might finish this bottle of wine before he gets home because we have ALOT to talk about when he gets home!