Bridesmaids hair?...

[GuardianAngel]

Some of my bridesmaids plan to wear nice crystal hair pieces.. I hate being a bossy bee but is that kinda too much? I mean like my sister is my maid of honor and she's just wearing her hair plain and simple curly. I myself am just doing a little tiara very simple.. I did tell them they can do their hair however they wanted but I didn't think they would be doing it with crystal and all..
Am I over reacting?... :bbconfused:

[KMS]

I would be a little put off by this as well, personally. Have any of your girls ever been in a wedding before? That's certainly not customary around here. :ooh:

[10Nov2008]

I don't think you're overreacting, especially if you're planning on wearing something very simple.

Perhaps you could give them rhinestone clips for their hair? It will add the little sparkle that they're wanting and it wouldn't compete with your hairpiece. If that's out of your budget to purchase them for all your ladies, you might find a set that you like and suggest they go with something similar (or maybe look on ebay).

Also, if you look in the bridal isle of your local craft store (or even Wal-mart if you have that), there are rhinestone accents that you can use in different ways. They come wired in different patterns and colors. I think they're supposed to be wrapped around flowers but I've seen girls use them in their hair as well.

I'm sure if you told them that you really want the tiara *bling* to be special for you (in that you're the only one wearing one!), your girls will understand, especially if you give them other *bling* options. They might just not realize that it means as much as it does to you (and MANY other brides!!)

Good luck!

[Goin2thechapel]

I don't think you're overreacting at all... It takes away from your hair. Maybe there is a gentle way of letting them know how you feel without making an issue about it....

[neebelung]

Am I over reacting?... :bbconfused:

Yes.

If they're just talking little hair combs or crystal barrettes in their hair, then yeah, you're overreacting. There's nothing wrong with your BM's wanting to look pretty in your wedding -- personally I think it's GREAT (as opposed to BM's not taking pride in their appearance).

If they're talking tiaras, though, then I'd ask them to scale it down and save those for their OWN big day.

[Aleta]

Most of my friends are married and having stood in so many weddings, looking back, I think it's perfectly OK for the bride to say how she'd like the hair of her bridesmaids to be worn.

One of my friends requested all bridesmaids hair be up. Another friend didn't care as long as we told her how we were going to style it.

So, sure, if you don't want your bridesmaids to have crystals, then say that you would like to have a certain look. Then explain that the crystals wouldn't go with the theme you wanted to present.

It's all in the delivery of your request. Think about your bridesmaids feelings. You can find a way to ask for what you want, again, it's all in the delivery.

[firespirit]

I agree with neebelung. You might be over reacting.

It really depends on what they are talking about. Small clips or combs, or even those crystal strands to add a little sparkle, are really no big deal, and they could even get matching ones, which would look cute.

If they are talking tiarras, well then no you aren't over reacting and should ask them to tone it down and suggest clips or combs if they want some sparkle.

[tawni8806]

Am I over reacting?... :bbconfused:
No.

I agree with you, it is your wedding, and although you love your bridesmaids, it is your wedding, and you want the attention towards you and not your girls. I asked my girls to have simple up-do's, because I am wearing my hair half up and half down, I asked for NOTHING to be in the hair.

Don't let them wear crystals on your wedding day. Just ask what they are doing for sure, and if they say crystal pieces, I would just say, I'd prefer it, if you did something simple, yet elegant. You are wearing a tiara, and you want a noticeable difference.

[Brian's Bride]

Yes, I think you're overreacting. Even if they have crystals in their hair, you'll be the one with the big white dress! There's no way they could upstage you, even if they did have sparklies in their hair!

[brendalin]

I can't really say one way or the other if you are over reacting..... I think that it depends on what these hair pieces look like. I think that it they are Tiaras that might look a little funny. If they are just sparkly hair clips then it shouldn't be that big of a deal. Post a picture for us if you can!