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wedgirl
07-21-2008, 05:00 AM
I have worked in the wedding industry for almost 2 years, working 100+ weddings. I have had a variety of roles from coordinating receptions, serving, and setting up venues. I see so many ways couples could have saved money, but I understand their intention. A lot of brides have their hearts set on how their reception will be, so it's understandable.Here's just a few tips on saving money and inconvenience from my experience (banqueting venues):

*Venue*
- Consider what time of year you're planning for. During the "off season", being late fall and winter, you can get a discount at some places. The busiest time is usually April through September.

*Decorations*
-Really consider your arrangements/center pieces for the tables. I have seen many set-ups where fake flowers are surrounding candles, which of course, will melt the flowers. I think a lot of people have their mind made up on an idea and don't think about the longevity of it. (Ex:One wedding reception used small goldfish and several beta fish in vases and bowls. It was really creative and would have been cute. Except the goldfish died before the reception started, due to the water temperature. The beta were fine, but they had dead goldfish as centerpieces. All at their discretion.)
-Some types of the discount candles' wicks will get under the melted wax and your candles will go out before half your reception is over.
-The disposable cameras that almost every reception has, will most likely go unused. They are a great idea if actually used by the guests, but most adults opt not to. It's almost always kids or the one drunk person using them.
-I would say that 95% of weddings I've done have some kind of candy as a favor. You will most likely have LOTS of left over.

*Cake*
-There will almost always be leftover cake. What most people don't consider is that only about half or less than half will eat cake. You won't need as much as you think if your guest list is under 150.
-I would suggest not using fondant. Not only is it difficult to cut, many people find it too sugary.

*Entertainment*
-Be very picky if you choose to have a DJ. Definitely shop around. Make sure you tell them specifically what you want played aside from the first dance songs. It largely depends on your crowd. If you have a younger crowd, a DJ playing top 40 is your best bet. If your crowd is older, you may find just the children on the dance floor. So, I would suggest a live band for a shorter amount of time. Nothing is more sad than when a couple pays to have a DJ come out and no one is interested in dancing.

*Other suggestions*:
-Ask any question you can think of. Make sure you know what to expect. When your big day comes, the likelihood of being able to change something can be difficult. One example was when a couple assumed that since they were having a host bar, that they would be able to take the left over alcohol. It is actually against the law in our area to do so. Aside from the fact they were paying per hour, not per bottle. Another example is due to health regulations, you cannot take food from the buffet home. While your sales person should tell you these things, sometimes they forget.
-Rate what is most important to you. Spend your money there.
-Some instances I referred to don't necessarily apply everywhere. That's why it's really important to ask questions and find out policies before the day of your event.
-There are a lot of cute and cheap ways to do favors. I've seen people do cd's, candles, personalized coasters, cookie cutters, etc.
-The 2 most valuable things I would tell any couple is the scaling back of the cake size and not to bother with the disposable cameras.

Does anyone else have suggestions on what they would have done differently that might have saved some money?

bridal1
07-21-2008, 06:25 AM
Interesting experiences, but sorry I cant give you any advice.

wedgirl
07-21-2008, 11:41 AM
Sorry, I meant did anyone have any advice for others from their own weddings. Anything they would have done differently in their own experience. Thanks for responding though.

Scrwballsgrl
07-21-2008, 11:45 AM
Thanks wedgirl, those are good suggestions, I also thought about going the less expensive route with our cake b/c 1) its just cake & 2) like you mentioned its either going to get eaten or not....so I don't see spending an insane amount on something like that.

I don't have any suggestions myself.....well except when it comes to centerpieces & other decorations; look to your family and friends....see what can be borrowed rather than bought....I plan on borrowing artifical trees & bushes from family memebers to string with lights for extra decorations

Heather Fuller
08-07-2008, 01:30 PM
For my wedding, I am creative, so I made my own invitations out of handmade paper and velum, I made my own programs, I had a cottage industry (business out of home) baker for my cake and used a few real flowers as decorations. About $3 a slice (had nothing left over except the top), which we froze and ate the following weekend, since we didn't get any on the wedding day. For flowers just the bouquets and simple bouteniers with flowers that were in season. (In season flowers are cheaper). I bought a large back of wild flower seeds and tiny ziplocks and stapled those to home printed cards for favors. You can also use handmade paper with seeds in them for a nice Green wedding. We allocated the largest part of our budget 50% for rings and photography, since those were most important to us and we will have long after the wedding. Although I lost my ring :bbcry:

crystalinephoto
02-15-2009, 05:39 PM
This is a great thread! I'm entering my 9th year as a wedding photographer and videographer and I have seen my fair share of wedding disasters as well as wonderful wedding ideas! I agree with who started this thread... drop the disposable cameras, a waste of money. It would be more worth it to spend money on extra time for your photographer or videographer. Besides nowadays if a guest brings some sort of digital camera they more than likely will drop a CD of their photos in the mail to you after the wedding and often times those photos are better than the disposable ones. If you are going to have an outdoor wedding, provide water bottles for your guest, especially if it is going to be a long ceremony. And if it is going to be long a place for your wedding party to sit... it's hot in the sun! If you don't care about the tradition of not seeing each other beforehand opt to do the formals before the ceremony, then you can actually enjoy spending time with your guests right after the ceremony and maybe even get to try some of those appetizers you paid for. This is especially important if you are getting married early spring, late fall or winter and you want to do photos outside, many forget that the sun goes down earlier... I did a wedding at a ball park once and by the time we got to photos it was almost pitch black outside so you couldn't even see the stadium they had spent so much money on! The photographer can only do so much in the absence of light! Practice bustling the dress... it can take a while to do if the people helping you don't know what they are doing. I'm sure I can think of more tips... so I will be back!

Lou Hanson
02-15-2009, 09:19 PM
Another option to save money on the cake but still have it look sensational is to have only one layer as real cake and the others as just dummy cake with stunning frosting. It will look great, but you can keep the cost down.

mrscarp2be
03-24-2009, 11:10 PM
This is great advise to have while planning. Thank you

KristinGriffin
03-25-2009, 07:50 AM
-The disposable cameras that almost every reception has, will most likely go unused. They are a great idea if actually used by the guests, but most adults opt not to. It's almost always kids or the one drunk person using them.


I have to agree with you on the disposable camera thing. As a wedding photographer myself, I see those cameras sitting on the tables unused and everyone's out dancing - which is how I think the bride and groom would want it to be - everyone enjoying the party. It seems that the cameras are remembered at the last second and a few quick shots are fired and either the guests forget to turn on the flash, or they're often too drunk to frame a good photo. In most cases, the couple gets lots of bad photos of the centerpieces and food...

IMO, you'd be better off spending a little more for a quality photographer (or hire a second photographer for another perspective - at the same cost as buying and developing the cameras). Or another option, which I've recently heard of is called a Canditto device. You have it set up at your reception and everyone with a digital camera can take out their cards and copy the pictures onto this device. At the end of the night, you take out a thumb drive with all the pictures your guests took using their own cameras (which they are more likely to remember about and know how to use). As I understand it, the device gets shipped to you on Thursday before the wedding (so you can have it for the rehearsal dinner) and you don't have to mail it back until Wednesday (so you can keep it for Sunday brunches, etc) - you keep the thumb drives. I think it will cost about the same as the disposables, but you'll get better quality (and more) photos out of it, and your DJ could make an announcement about it to remind your guests.

I've found that while a lot of guests have the best intentions about mailing CDs to the couple after the wedding, very few actually do - this is a way to get those photos all in one place - a really cool idea... I don't know if there are other companies out there that do the same - Canditto is the only one I know of...

-Kristin

KristinGriffin
03-25-2009, 07:54 AM
Another option to save money on the cake but still have it look sensational is to have only one layer as real cake and the others as just dummy cake with stunning frosting. It will look great, but you can keep the cost down.

Great ideas about the cake. You can also have a small, fancy cake for the cutting, but a larger "matching" sheet cake for the guests to actually eat. Don't display the sheet cake, just have the smaller cake out. After you've cut the cake, the servers can then bring out slices from the sheet cake for your guests.