The magnitude of ugly!

[CarlosHoney]

My dad ordered the surprise napkins. I should be happy that he ordered them, but, they're horrible!!

https://www.yourinvitationplace.com/app/Napkins/2073.jpg
These, but with pink lettering.

It jusy SO doesn't go with the theme. They had rose napkins, but he got these!

I just need to vent. :bbcry:

[WhiskeyGirl]

That sucks Carrie!! But in all honesty, I don't really think they're that bad!! Besides people won't judge you on your napkins!! They'll just wipe their faces on 'em!! :wink:

[LaceyinPgh]

I'm not going to patronize you by saying they aren't that bad. They really just aren't my style. I see where you are upset that they didn't go with the overall look of your wedding. But, that is what happen when you let other people get even so slightly invovled with your wedding plans. Take heart that since my mother isn't going to be there, no one is really going to notice that they don't go with the overall theme of the wedding. Normal people don't notice things like that. Brides on the other hand are as far from normal as you can get. Be happy that you have a dad who thought of some little detail like that to surprise you. You should just see the things my dad has surprised me with over the years. :bbmrgreen:

[CarlosHoney]

The only thing that upset me is that he didn't order them in the right color.. And, well, he didn't order the right picture either!! It's so... UGLY! and 80's too. I know I'm not going to bring it up., because in the end it doesn't really matter.. But geez. U-G-L-Y!

Sigh. Oh well. Maybe I can use a marker on them, and everyone can have purple faces! :bblol:

[Kacie_bride]

I think the napkins are just fine. NObody is going to notice the font color is not right. The bride and groom on the napkins go with anybody theme, after all, it is a wedding. You know men aren't the best (usually) at getting the right things. For years every time my dad got clothes for my mother he would go to the granny section and get elastic waisted pants and a sweater. He just wanted to make her happy, just like your dad is doing. It's a sweet gesture. Even if it is not the "right" thing I think you should act excited and happy for your father's sake. It will make him feel good. He tried. Remember one of the golden rules is that it is the thought that counts. It will all be fantastic and beautiful even with those napkins!!!!!

[LaceyinPgh]

Don't think of it as looking 80's think of it as retro or vintage. Besides, I remember the 80's and frankly, they had some rockin' moments! As for the color, let's face it most men are color blind. There are four colors in their universe, white, black, blue, and red. Every other color known on earth can fit into one of those four. With that said, it is easy to see how lavender and mauvey pink could both look exactly the same to the man's eye.

[Kacie_bride]

Don't think of it as looking 80's think of it as retro or vintage. Besides, I remember the 80's and frankly, they had some rockin' moments! As for the color, let's face it most men are color blind. There are four colors in their universe, white, black, blue, and red. Every other color known on earth can fit into one of those four. With that said, it is easy to see how lavender and mauvey pink could both look exactly the same to the man's eye.

Yeah, Justin's dad had a truck that he swore was gray, but it was blue. He drove it for several years telling everyone that he had a gray truck.

[CarlosHoney]

I know, I should be happy about it. I'm not going to say anything about it.. But it was kind of a letdown from last night. He said that he ordered the napkins, and that he ordered the rose ones. I was so excited!

Then he clarified that they were the rose colored ones, and that it was a couple. My only thing with the couple is that we don't look anything like that.. and that the rose napkis would match so much better.

I just needed to vent, really.. And I really appriciate what he's doing for me. I told him that I really appriciated it, and thanks so much.

[Kacie_bride]

I understand how you could be disapointed. It's normal. You're doing a good thing by not letting him know about it. This is the perfect place to vent too because you can get it out and he does not have to know about it! You can vent to us all you want! But don't worry Carrie, I'm sure everything else will be beautiful and perfect!

[CarlosHoney]

Yeah, me too. He's freaking out over the remainder of the budget, though. I told him that we would cover $1000. We have. There's $1700 left to pay, and he's getting bent out of shape.

It's just.. frustrating. I cut out a lot to save on money. I think that we will get our flowers from 2 different places to save money. My invitations will be here on the 10th. My fans will be here on the 11th. The seals and the lanterns will be here any day now. :bbmrgreen:

I need to get a different bra, though. The one that I got doesn't hold the girls in the right way, so I have quadruple boobage. When you're breastfeeding, the bra hunting isn't always plentiful. :bbconfused:

I'm thinking about getting some easter egg dye and using a spray bottle to speckle the lanterns lavender.. Just not sure how it will turn out.

Oh well. Thanks for listening!

[Shawna Bride]

Honestly, they're not that bad.
But I think you should look at the bright side, and be happy that your dad is taking an interest in the wedding. I bet if you took a poll with all the ladies here, many would say that their dad's weren't part of the planning at all or very little.
I think, although not your taste, it's sooooo sweet that he did that. Give him a kiss, and don't worry about it. No one will even think about the napkins, when they see this beautiful bride with a glowing smile.

[CindySue]

Ok....they arent bad, but I agree with Lacey. They arent my style either. But if it makes you feel any better, my dad would have picked the SAME thing. I mean what says "wedding" more than a pic of a bride and groom?
If you want when you lay them out, you could alternate them with plain lavendar napkins and just make it look like you "planned it that way". And just think, if the napkins are the ONLY thing wrong on your wedding day, you just have a pretty perfect wedding!!!

[Kacie_bride]

I'm here to listen!

[WhiskeyGirl]

Ok....they arent bad, but I agree with Lacey. They arent my style either. But if it makes you feel any better, my dad would have picked the SAME thing. I mean what says "wedding" more than a pic of a bride and groom?
If you want when you lay them out, you could alternate them with plain lavendar napkins and just make it look like you "planned it that way". And just think, if the napkins are the ONLY thing wrong on your wedding day, you just have a pretty perfect wedding!!!

Cindy! You make a very valid point!!

[CarlosHoney]

Yeah, I'm going to get some lavender napkins and do it that way. Sounds good. I know it's not that big of a deal.. But last night, ugh. One word. Bridezilla.

I think that's the only major Bridezilla moment I've had, which isn't too bad. I'm just trying to make it through.. That's all. I just thought, how pretty rose napkins...

Oh well. It's no biggie. ;)

[CindySue]

Oh...I understand. Rose napkins would be perfect for your theme. But if I have learned anything from planning my wedding, its how to make do with what Ive got to work with. Plus its sooo much easier to give advice when it not you its happening to. ;) If it were me with those napkins, Bridezilla would be tame to how Id probably be acting.:bbredface:

[sarahomalley]

I know what you mean about cutting costs to save. I made my own invites for about $50. I'm having my aunt take pictures and my sister owns a DJ/karaoke business, so that's free. His aunt is making the cake and I minimized the flowers to save money. My mom is constantly worried about how much money is being spent. I think she needs to step back and look at how much money WASN'T spent. Grrrrrrr. And now my rehearsal dinner is in a dirty workshop eating pizza and drinking beer. Which is fine, we are simple people. But just to save a few dollars? That is in the hands of my Future MIL. And she's CRAZY. Oh well, I feel better now. Excpet for the fact that I never even thought about napkins. ****.

[WebLady]

I have to agree that the napkins, well aren't my style, I can see where you'd be upset. But like everyone else said, at least your dad tried. He is a man, after-all most men don't have a clue about these kind of things ;)

I like the idea Cindy had to alternate with the plain lavender ones. I am sure it will all work out fine. But I know you had to vent, I would too, and better to us than to him and make him feel bad ;)

[kheath10]

Hey be glad your dady bought any thing thats sweet my dad is'nt ivolved so you are fouratuane in many ways . i know the napkins are'nt perfect but the wedding will go on with or without dumb napkins . think of it this way after its over get all the lfet over napkins and play toss in the trash with you new hubby that will be fun!

[CindySue]

my dad is'nt ivolved
My dad thinks we should have saved our money and just eloped. I asked him if he was going to walk me down the aisle and he said as long as he didnt have to wear a **** "monkey suit". THEN....he said he was going to wear cut off shorts and knee socks with his tennis shoes. :bbeek: Thats worse than the bermuda shorts and flip flops Brians been threatening to wear.

[WebLady]

My dad thinks we should have saved our money and just eloped. I asked him if he was going to walk me down the aisle and he said as long as he didnt have to wear a **** "monkey suit". THEN....he said he was going to wear cut off shorts and knee socks with his tennis shoes. :bbeek: Thats worse than the bermuda shorts and flip flops Brians been threatening to wear.
My dad used to joke to my sister and I about eloping when we got married ... he would say that he would buy the latter. Funny part was we didn't have high windows ;)

Even funnier was as we got older and were talking about getting married, he would say how sorry he was that he couldn't afford to give us much. When DH and I were getting married my dad told me how proud he was of me and that he liked my FH and that he just wanted me to be happy and didn't care how I got married as long as he was there to see it ... He cried a little at the wedding ;) I love my daddy :D

[CindySue]

I love my daddy :D
I love my daddy too!!!!

[rainbowtreat]

I am having my mom walk me down the siale. I have mentioend before that she has been a single mom most of my life. I have had some people say good luck on your second run and you said that the first one for the one. My mom says that the reason it didnt work out was because she didnt give me away. She says when she gives me away it is for good. lol Ya gotta love her.

[CarlosHoney]

Yeah, my dad is going to walk me down. I think it's mostly because I want to make that relationship good. I want him to know that everything that happened when I was a kid is in the past, and it's not that big of a deal.. We're past that now.

I'm glad to hear everyone has good relationships with their parents. So sweet!! :bbmrgreen: LMAO at the bermuda shorts!

[LaceyinPgh]

My dad is walking me down the aisle too. I am really close to both of my parents. My dad told Sean taht he walk me down and "give me away" but Sean needed to understand that I didn't come with a reciept so that meant that there was a no return policy.

[CindySue]

My dad is walking me down the aisle too. I am really close to both of my parents. My dad told Sean taht he walk me down and "give me away" but Sean needed to understand that I didn't come with a reciept so that meant that there was a no return policy.
:D I tried to give Brian back at the grocery store last night! But they said no they couldnt without my receipt!