People that think there're invited

[rebecca c to be]

I'll be getting married in june and I started a new job 7 months ago. A girl that i met though my new job decided to get married on the same day. well anyway the girls that i've met through this job are saying how much more fun they're going to have at my wedding instead of hers. Thing is I don't even know if i want to invite them.. And if i don't invite them i'll hear about it when i see them. I'm confused

[savvy]

I keep getting that at work as well. The thing is I am not friends with everyone at work, and even if I was my budget does not allow for me to invite everyone. You can not possibly make everyone happy during wedding planning and who you can and can not invite. Dont even try making everyone happy. Do what you want to do. If anything the people from your workplace should be mad at themselves for assuming they are invited. When you send out your invites just let the people at work know that you had to keep your guest list down.
Or
I have heard of brides doing an A list and B list. When they recieve a regret they send out an invitation to someone on the B list. I however DO NOT agree with doing this. If I found out I was on a "B List" I would be pretty hurt. I would rather not be invited due to budgeting or something else than be someone that you would want to invite only if someone better could not make it.
Good Luck with the situation.
~savvy

[robindepaula]

I would just be very honest - let them know that you have had to keep your guest list to a minimum since you're trying to stay within a specific budget.

I wouldn't do the "A-List" vs "B-List" ~ as mentioned in an earlier post, I would be upset if I found out that I was on a second list to be invited only if someone on the first list couldn't attend.

Hope this helps!

Robin

[jessr901]

i have a similar problem- a few girls my fiance works with keep asking me when i'm sending out the invitations and ensuring that i have their addresses. one girl asks me every time i see her where her invitation is. i think this is rude. i guess i'll just have to tell her and the other girls that we have a budget and we're not inviting co-workers. is that rude? i don't really like the a and b list idea, wouldn't people wonder if they got invitations like 4 weeks before the wedding, when the last few a list regrets were coming in?

[totalia]

If you don't want to invite them then don't invite them. Just don't give them any invitations. If they ask why, tell them you need to limit the number of people because the location has number limits.

[*vegasbound*]

:roll: don't you love how people just assume they're coming?

we are eloping in vegas and more than one person has said, "vegas? we love vegas, we'll SO be there!"

Um, no you wont. LOL.

For coworkers, go with the whole, "small family wedding" saying.

[Danielle9608]

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