I want to Whine!!

[countrygirl]

I miss my Josh. He left for Vegas for work :frown: on Sat, and though he will be back this Sat, I feel like he has been gone a month.

[brewsells]

I so know the feeling, Heather. I HATE it when FH is gone. He leaves for 2 weeks in the winter for elk camp and I think I am going to die! For one, I can't sleep alone. And two, I just miss him. Do you at least get to talk to him?

[countrygirl]

I do get to talk to him, and he text pages me everymorning. But I too can't sleep when he is't there, and he said he isn't sleeping well w/o me either.

I guess if I am going to be a military wife, I have to get used to it!!

It's even worse because his ex wife is pulling :censored: with the kids now, and he isn't here to stop her.

[tha_mrs]

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[countrygirl]

Thank you, it's better when you have someone to cry with.

[tha_mrs]

always! and we never have to run out of tissue because to are better than one!(lol)

[LaceyinPgh]

Sean travels continually. I actually enjoy my alone time. I look forward to it. I get to do what I want when I want to. I get the whole big bed to myself. If I want to go out for the evening with girlfriends, I don't have to worry about him sitting at home. If I want to go to the mall after work I don't have to worry about getting home to get dinner ready. I absolutely LOVE it. Don't worry about him being gone. Just appreciate the alone time.

[countrygirl]

You bet!!

It's just been harder this time because like I said earlier, his ex wife is not being very nice, and is now telling the kids that they can't be around me when we are thier tball and baseball games. One of my soon-2-b-daughters told me that infront of all the other moms on the team last night.

[tha_mrs]

oh wow.I am sorry.I guess it's going to take his ex a little time huh.sometimes they just need to see that you are serious and you are in there forever,then maybe she will adjust.Seeing as how she will always be their mother and you will always be married to their father.That is constant.It will get better with time.

[countrygirl]

She is one of those "i want to divorce you (after cheating on him) but I don't want you to ever be happy" people. It's sad, and it upsets me when she uses the kids to do it. THey are only KIDS!!!

[tha_mrs]

yeah and they are so busy trying to hurt the parent,the never realize they are just actually hurting the children.It is such a shame.

[countrygirl]

Honestly, I don't think she cares. SHe has been told already what it's doing to the kids. She doens't stop.

[tha_mrs]

Well that would mean she'd like my ex,and in this case I wouldn't know what to do.In my case he just disappeared from the child's life altogether because I wanted a divorce.I don't think that they understand that sooner or later what they do will haunt them.I told my Ex that he will see everything he does to me and that child again.And that is true.When those children are teens and they have had enough,they will let her know.And that's what's going to hurt.When those children are able to say to her "mom just let it go".

[countrygirl]

It won't be fun for her. My son's father will go thru the same thing. He is a dead beat until he wants to 'chit chat' w my son. He sent him a present for the first time in nearly three years, and acted like I was supposed to be happy.

[WhiskeyGirl]

Exes suck!! And therefor thats why they are exes! But sometimes I wonder if they do it because they are not completely over the person they hurt!! Its probably a jealousy thing! Is she remarried? Is she happy? Chances are that she isn't happy and doesn't want your man to be happy either!! People suck!! And this is what they do, they never stop to think of their actions or how it may affect others and that espicially includes children! My best friend just went through a break up with her baby's "sperm donor"...we don't even call him the babies daddy! But because he was unhappy now he's going to make her and the baby suffer!! Hell no!! My friend said screw it and is going for complete custody of the precious little boy! (this is after he accused her of cheating...only it was HIM that was!! Funny how that works!!!) Perhaps its time for the three of you to sit down and talk it out like adults?? tell her this can't go on anymore, that children don't deserve to have a mother who is so hateful and hurtful, that it will only create problems for them in the future! I wish you the best!!

[tha_mrs]

well said.

[countrygirl]

Josh's ex cheated on him a few times, and when they separated,her boyfriend moved in as soon as Josh moved out. He has since left her, and she isn't happy. On the other hand, Josh is happier than he has ever been, so he and his family say.

[CindySue]

I went through similar with my ex. I was always getting walked on because I was trying to keep the peace for the kids. I never bad mouthed him even though they would be going on and on about how 'great' he was. If they only knew most of the 'gifts from daddy' were actually from mommy covering for daddy! He on the other hand bad mouthed me constantly. Promised the kids the moon and back leaving me to soothe their broken hearts when he didnt come through. They would always say "Daddys gonna do this and Daddys gonna do that" and Im already trying to figure out how to fix it when he doesnt. We have not seen him in almost a year and a half, and havent talked to him since August of last year. And the kids are happy. They had started realizing that he wasnt everything they thought he was and I NEVER SAID A WORD! Brian has stepped up and taken his place. And he has been more of a dad to those kids in the time weve been together than my ex ever was. Brian cant wait for us to get married so he really will be "Dad". (this is how he sees it!)

[dubbz]

i know how that feels

[CarlosHoney]

My Mom always talked **** about my Dad. Eventually I told her to stop saying those things because, last time I checked, she's the one that married him. She's the one who had children with him. So, I didn't want to hear it.

I can certainly sympathise with that situation..

Oh, and when Carlo is out of town, I have a hard time too. Now that Elias is here, though, It gives me a little more sleeping space. ;) I'm the hot dog and the Guys are the buns.

[WhiskeyGirl]

I went through similar with my ex. I was always getting walked on because I was trying to keep the peace for the kids. I never bad mouthed him even though they would be going on and on about how 'great' he was. If they only knew most of the 'gifts from daddy' were actually from mommy covering for daddy! He on the other hand bad mouthed me constantly. Promised the kids the moon and back leaving me to soothe their broken hearts when he didnt come through. They would always say "Daddys gonna do this and Daddys gonna do that" and Im already trying to figure out how to fix it when he doesnt. We have not seen him in almost a year and a half, and havent talked to him since August of last year. And the kids are happy. They had started realizing that he wasnt everything they thought he was and I NEVER SAID A WORD! Brian has stepped up and taken his place. And he has been more of a dad to those kids in the time weve been together than my ex ever was. Brian cant wait for us to get married so he really will be "Dad". (this is how he sees it!)

Brian sounds like an AWESOME man and GREAT dad!! You and your children deserve such a great man in your life!!

[tha_mrs]

That's awsome! It is so wonderful to see your children with a father.That is how I feel about my son.Tommio and I were laying in bed talking and Pumbaa got on the bed.He sat between us and looked one to the other,and then he hugged both of our necks and said "I love you mom and dad".It was the most satisfying moment for us.Although Tommio is the only dad Pumbaa has ever really known,I felt like he was letting us know that he is just find having Tommio.he met his real dad about 3 times in these last 3 yrs.So, for me it is wonderful to know that Tommio has taken his place in Pumbaa's life and Pumbaa has become a part of Tommio.So I understand fully.

[CindySue]

Brian sounds like an AWESOME man and GREAT dad!! You and your children deserve such a great man in your life!!
Thanks......I think we do too. Those toads were starting to taste funny!

[countrygirl]

Cindy, your Brian and my Josh must be from the same mold!!!

[CindySue]

Cindy, your Brian and my Josh must be from the same mold!!!
Sounds like it!
Brian likes to tease me about us being so much alike. He said it took them 6 years to decide to make another like him. I said it took them that long to figure out how to make "him" better. They did, they made me "female"! http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/36/36_1_1.gif (http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb001_ZNxdm414CPUS)





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[WhiskeyGirl]

Sounds like it!
Brian likes to tease me about us being so much alike. He said it took them 6 years to decide to make another like him. I said it took them that long to figure out how to make "him" better. They did, they made me "female"! http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/36/36_1_1.gif (http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb001_ZNxdm414CPUS)





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LMAO!! Thats great Cindy!! You got him on that one!! For sure!!

[CindySue]

LMAO!! Thats great Cindy!! You got him on that one!! For sure!!
His Mom even loves that joke! Of course, he doesnt think its as cute as we do!

[usahgrad]

Sounds like it!
Brian likes to tease me about us being so much alike. He said it took them 6 years to decide to make another like him. I said it took them that long to figure out how to make "him" better. They did, they made me "female"!

That's a good one! Jason and I are always saying how it took God twelve years to put a someone on Earth for Jason. :)