Cilantro
07-15-2008, 10:36 AM
My DH is sulking around the house over this situation and I'm at a loss for words. Maybe I'm just too in touch with reality to comprehend it.. I figured that this would be a lovely place to ask opinions on this matter.
About a year ago one of DH's friends from high school got engaged. The girl seemed nice enough. We were happy for them even though none of their closest friends were supportive of the union. It was a very short courtship and they've been planning away like busy beavers. The friend even asked my DH to be his best man.
Fast forward 6 months. This guy has a switch up in the bridal party and "fires" my DH. Not for any real reason, DH didn't do anything to offend groomy.. He just changed his mind. That's fine, whatever, no skin off my nose, right?
Well, last week he calls my DH begging him to be a groomsman. One of the GM flaked out on him and didn't have the money to pay for the rental..
The friend (we'll call him E) knows that we have small children, knows that since I'm a SAHM that our finances are tight, knows that we have to plan well in advance when we have to spend much money.
For DH it's a no brainer. He wants to help his friend, of course, but at the same time E and his FI chose rentals for the groomsmen that are $200!!!!! No wonder the other guy flaked.
We cannot afford the gas to go to the wedding (it's about 80 miles away), a gift, and a rental for a tux. This rental will be nicer than what DH will be wearing to our own ceremony. Also, it's not the area we live. You can get a perfectly decent tux rental for $50+ in this part of the country. I mean, it's great if the groom wants to wear a designer tux, it's his wedding after all... But to spring this on someone who you know isn't really able to afford things like this is kind of inconsiderate IMO.
If he hadn't changed his mind DH would have gone in for measurements months ago and we would have set aside money for this. Now he's guilt tripping my DH and I get the impression that the FI is beyond bridezilla.. She's like the Bridestappo.
That's the situation, anyway.. DH told the guy that he can't really afford it. I mean, seriosuly. I need new nursing bras like no one's business and haven't gotten any in a couple YEARS.. If I can't even buy a bra for lack of budgetary means there is no way in heck that I'm going to be alright with a $200 tux rental that will be worn for a few hours..
I feel better now. Thanks for letting me vent! :grinhappy:
About a year ago one of DH's friends from high school got engaged. The girl seemed nice enough. We were happy for them even though none of their closest friends were supportive of the union. It was a very short courtship and they've been planning away like busy beavers. The friend even asked my DH to be his best man.
Fast forward 6 months. This guy has a switch up in the bridal party and "fires" my DH. Not for any real reason, DH didn't do anything to offend groomy.. He just changed his mind. That's fine, whatever, no skin off my nose, right?
Well, last week he calls my DH begging him to be a groomsman. One of the GM flaked out on him and didn't have the money to pay for the rental..
The friend (we'll call him E) knows that we have small children, knows that since I'm a SAHM that our finances are tight, knows that we have to plan well in advance when we have to spend much money.
For DH it's a no brainer. He wants to help his friend, of course, but at the same time E and his FI chose rentals for the groomsmen that are $200!!!!! No wonder the other guy flaked.
We cannot afford the gas to go to the wedding (it's about 80 miles away), a gift, and a rental for a tux. This rental will be nicer than what DH will be wearing to our own ceremony. Also, it's not the area we live. You can get a perfectly decent tux rental for $50+ in this part of the country. I mean, it's great if the groom wants to wear a designer tux, it's his wedding after all... But to spring this on someone who you know isn't really able to afford things like this is kind of inconsiderate IMO.
If he hadn't changed his mind DH would have gone in for measurements months ago and we would have set aside money for this. Now he's guilt tripping my DH and I get the impression that the FI is beyond bridezilla.. She's like the Bridestappo.
That's the situation, anyway.. DH told the guy that he can't really afford it. I mean, seriosuly. I need new nursing bras like no one's business and haven't gotten any in a couple YEARS.. If I can't even buy a bra for lack of budgetary means there is no way in heck that I'm going to be alright with a $200 tux rental that will be worn for a few hours..
I feel better now. Thanks for letting me vent! :grinhappy: