Advice on another ring

[acidcookie]

So I have this ring from an ex. It's a 14K white gold band with round diamonds and sapphires set in it. 6 sapphires and 5 diamonds. I don't have a pic right now, but it's basically like this:

http://www.bluenile.com/assets/product_images/rings/AB27400700_200zoom.jpg

Now, I'm never going to wear it again, but surely I could get some worth out of it.

Options:
1) Sell it as-is. Problem: I don't know what it's worth. I think my ex spent $200-ish on it after negotiating a bit, but I know nothing about the stone quality etc. I have no paperwork so how do I justify a price? So...

2) I could have it appraised. My jeweler will do it for $85. But I worry it's not worth that cost in the end. Will I get enough back when I sell it?

3) Sell it for gold. Gold is worth a lot right now, and my jeweler buys it. But this is only 14K gold, which means it's only worth a percentage (about 58%) of pure 24K gold. And what about the stones? They won't buy to resell, only to use the material to make other jewelry.

4) Rework it into my wedding band. My jeweler can make it into something else. So I was thinking I could use the band and have just the diamonds cut smaller and set into the band. But the cost of that may end up being more than just buying a plain gold band, even though I already have the material! Though I DO really like the idea of re-using what I already have.

Hmph, any suggestions?

[Kfancii]

Do you know where your ex got the ring from? If it was from a chain store type jeweler, they might be willing to give you credit on it towards another piece. I had a beautiful wedding set from an ex that he paid $3K for and when Mack and I were looking at rings, I asked if he would be offended if we used my old ring as a trade in set- he wasn't, so I was able to get a $6K ring for just $3K with the trade.

I'm not sure I would want to rework the stones into my wedding band even though they are beautiful. Maybe if you wanted to do something else with the stones you could make a nice pendant out of them?

[neebelung]

Ebay it, or find one of those sites specifically intended for selling jewelry from an Ex. It's not worth spending the $$$ on it to have it appraised, and there's something creepy about working it into your wedding set. This is a memento from your past... get rid of it so you can move on with your future.

[acidcookie]

Do you know where your ex got the ring from? If it was from a chain store type jeweler, they might be willing to give you credit on it towards another piece.

Ooh, there's something I hadn't thought of. I felt too weird asking how much he paid, but where he got it is certainly an OK question. I just sent him a message and asked. Yeah, if it was Kay jeweler's or something that'd be totally helpful!

[Kfancii]

Ooh, there's something I hadn't thought of. I felt too weird asking how much he paid, but where he got it is certainly an OK question. I just sent him a message and asked. Yeah, if it was Kay jeweler's or something that'd be totally helpful!


I know that Kay's has a trade up policy just like Helzberg's because they were even willing to take my Helzberg ring in on trade! :D I just didn't find anything at Kay's that I liked as much as the set I ended up getting.

Good luck!

[acidcookie]

I know that Kay's has a trade up policy just like Helzberg's because they were even willing to take my Helzberg ring in on trade! :D I just didn't find anything at Kay's that I liked as much as the set I ended up getting.

Good luck!

Obviously I don't have a receipt. Does this matter? Will they know somehow it's one of their rings??

[Kfancii]

Obviously I don't have a receipt. Does this matter? Will they know somehow it's one of their rings??

It helps is you have the receipt, but Helzberg was going to look mine up if I couldn't find the receipt. It might not work out, but it never hurts to ask! :D

[mitch]

I personally would keep it well away from your Engagement Ring / Wedding Band. Something a bit weird about mixing the past with the future like that.

I know someone who got her Parents Wedding Bands (Both Parents passed away) and had them melted together and made into a Pendant to wear at her own Wedding.

Maybe you can find other Jewellery i.e Broken chains etc and get them melted and then use the Stones from the Ring to make something completely unique.

[acidcookie]

Ex-bf doesn't remember where he got it, but says it was in the mall, and now I am remembering which mall. Wonder if I can call them and see if he's in their records.

If I can trade it in or sell that it would be best, but I don't feel so weird about re-using the metal in it because it was just a Christmas gift, not an engagement ring. I like pretty different jewelry so I'm pretty sure I wouldn't wear anything else that could be made with it. My jeweler's place suggested making some earrings like a pair they had in the store and I just nodded politely. Eh.

[Ninedays9]

I'm not sure what to tell you but I can say that I'm now wondering if I could do something like that for my wedding band 'cause I love the color blue.... I just don't know if it'd look silly. The engagment ring is princess cut, three stone diamonds, and white gold. Eh... probably wouldn't look good together.

Good luck in your decision making, hopefully you can find out what store it's from.

[Scrwballsgrl]

I've heard tell of people taking them to a jeweler to have them turned into another piece of jewelry...a pendant for a necklace, cocktail ring, etc. Not sure how this works or what it cost. My cousin worked for a pawn shop and when I broke up with an ex and wanted to sell the engagment ring he had given me my cousin told me he wouldn't suggest a pawn shop b/c they go by weight and not by previous purchase prices, etc. I knew Ex had spent around $300 on it so I got a friend who owned a little shop(they mostly sold cigarettes & tobacco products but also body jewelry, costume jewelry and lingerie,lol IDK this is Alabama:grinhappy:) So she put it in their shop and sold it for $175/$35 of which I gave her as a thank you for selling it for me.

I agree with Mitch I wouldn't want to mix past & present like that either (wedding bands/ ex's ring) just do whatever your comfortable with.

[RosieAngel]

You could also sell it at a consignment shop. You choose a price that you think is reasonable, and if someone likes that price, they'll buy it and you'll get a large percentage of that money (it was around 80% in the shops I ditched my BM dresses at).

I didn't know that there are places to sell jewelry exes give you... then again, my ex boyfriends couldn't be arsed into buying me flowers, let alone jewelry! :snide:

[acidcookie]

You could also sell it at a consignment shop. You choose a price that you think is reasonable, and if someone likes that price, they'll buy it and you'll get a large percentage of that money (it was around 80% in the shops I ditched my BM dresses at).

Consigment shop... a term I always hear, but I don't think I've ever been to one! I just searched on Google Maps and would ya believe all I got was Goodwill and other thrift shops? I don't think we have any consignment shops here! :(

[acidcookie]

The ring is a bit scratched up (like gold gets) and could use a polish. I know jewelers love to polish your current jewelry if you're looking at their stuff. Maybe I'll polish it up and sell it on Craigslist just to get it out of my hair.

[L.J.Aguirre]

no to number 2 and 4 imo. i would want my wedding set all from my husband only instead of any of my exs. maybe cuz i hate some of mine lol. i pawned my rings they all bought me and put it in my savings and let it get some interest over time.
i would do number 3.