Creating Shower Guest List

[Jenn060306]

My cousins wife is planning a wedding shower for me. And she wants to know who i want to invite. From what my mom has told me this is going to be more like family. But i'm not completely sure if i should invite extended family from Mark's family as well as my family. And i'm not sure if any of my bridesmaids are planning anything in the way of a shower because nobody has mentioned anything to me. So if nobody is planning anything then i would like to invite my friends as well because i think they may be upset if they weren't invited to a shower.

I don't want to come out and ask because i think my MOH may be planning a surprise one. And i don't want to come off as being too forward and expect it because i don't. So i am now completely stuck not sure what to do, who to invite and who not to invite.

Just family from my side, family from both our families, families and family friends, families and friends, families and parents friends. Or. All of the above. ACK! It seems like such a huge thing right now and i am totally confused! HELP! :helpsmilie:

[Kacie_bride]

Maybe you could have your mother ask or something. Have her explain the situation. You'll know if your MOH will be throwing you a shower, but you will not know when so it will still be sort of a surprise.

[WhiskeyGirl]

Invite everyone!! You can't read minds!! How are you to know if there is a suprise shower planned! If there is they might just have to tell you and that way you don't have to ask!! JMO though!

[LaceyinPgh]

Well two options, just write out a list with everyone and tell your cousin to have fun. Or, write out a list with everyone, then put your cousin in touch with your MOH and they can sort things out togehter so that you don't have to invite the same people to two showers.

[Jenn060306]

Well.... I talked with my MOH today and she said she wasn't sure about having somthing because i am already so crazy busy and then she felt bad having my school being screwed up now so she's not sure anymore. So i am making a list of anyone i would want to invite.
But i did decide to split it into the family and the friends. I was mentioning to Mark that maybe i would see if my mom would help me to put together one for my friends because i really kinda feel like this familky one is really only supposed to be family and maybe we could do a guy girl one so it would be more like a party then anything. But Mark told me not to do that and not to worry about it. So now i am al confused. But he won't let me plan anything so maybe my MOH is just trying to throw me for a loop.
Ah well.... It's not worth worrying about it. I have no control so i should sit back and enjoy it while i can.

[neeni13]

give the person who asked you a list of both family and friends with phone numbers. The point of the shower is to give support you as you are about to make a transsition from single to married. You will want some older women wisdom as well as your friends, besides those older women in your family will probably seem more accessable to you since now you will be joining their club. lol