mitch
07-11-2008, 04:05 AM
Today July 11th marks a weird day for me.
If i had stayed Married to my First Husband it would have been our Sixteenth Wedding Anniversary today. Alas we only reached Ten. And i hold my hand up to the reason behind the Divorce.
Yes i was a naughty girl and met someone else. That someone else turned out to be Shmoo, who in exactly Three Months time i Marry.
I'm more excited about this Wedding than i was the First One. Maybe it's because i'm more Mature (Hard to think when you read the silly stuff i put on here at times lol) I was only 22 when i got Married the First time. I'm not saying that all 22 Year Olds are immature. Far from it. But i admit i personally did have a lot of growing up to do.
This time round i think the Wedding itself will reflect more on what Shmoo and i are about and not the norm. We are seen by our Friends as life and soul of the party and maybe that's why everyone we've invited so far has said they will definately be there. (I think it's more to do with our good Friend Jack Daniels LOL) But we do have a serious side to us. We work hard, keep a decent home, look after his Four Girls and Grandson as best we can, financially and emotionally even though we are 300 Mile away. We have a close net of Friends but hardly any Family. I don't even see mine and they live a mile across town. Infact they don't even know we have a Wedding Booked.
Maybe this Three Month mark has made me think about the true meaning of Marriage and what can be achieved by it. Or maybe i'm still doped to the eyeballs from yesterdays operation LOL.
To me Marriage this time round is all about commitment, understanding and sharing both the happiness and the sadness.
I never fully commited to my First Husband. I loved him, don't get me wrong. But this time round the love is more intense with Shmoo. We say it every day, every text message has Love You at the end. We even say I Love You as one of us leaves the room.
The Understanding has come from both knowing this time round what Marriage is all about. I Understand he works hard, needs time with his kids and time out on the PC. With my First Husband i couldn't understand the reason behind a lot of stuff that went on. And that turned me cold and bitter towards him in the end.
And the sharing of Happiness and Sadness has brought me more strength than ever before. I lost Two Babies with my First Husband and they were never spoken about again. Like it didn't matter. But i take my hat off to him for helping me through the death of my Father.
With Shmoo we have lost one child and it is spoken about. We laugh and we cry, we laugh till we cry. And that has got to be special. Hasn't it?
Sorry for the length of this. I must be going soft in me old age. :bbredface:
What does Marriage mean to you?
If i had stayed Married to my First Husband it would have been our Sixteenth Wedding Anniversary today. Alas we only reached Ten. And i hold my hand up to the reason behind the Divorce.
Yes i was a naughty girl and met someone else. That someone else turned out to be Shmoo, who in exactly Three Months time i Marry.
I'm more excited about this Wedding than i was the First One. Maybe it's because i'm more Mature (Hard to think when you read the silly stuff i put on here at times lol) I was only 22 when i got Married the First time. I'm not saying that all 22 Year Olds are immature. Far from it. But i admit i personally did have a lot of growing up to do.
This time round i think the Wedding itself will reflect more on what Shmoo and i are about and not the norm. We are seen by our Friends as life and soul of the party and maybe that's why everyone we've invited so far has said they will definately be there. (I think it's more to do with our good Friend Jack Daniels LOL) But we do have a serious side to us. We work hard, keep a decent home, look after his Four Girls and Grandson as best we can, financially and emotionally even though we are 300 Mile away. We have a close net of Friends but hardly any Family. I don't even see mine and they live a mile across town. Infact they don't even know we have a Wedding Booked.
Maybe this Three Month mark has made me think about the true meaning of Marriage and what can be achieved by it. Or maybe i'm still doped to the eyeballs from yesterdays operation LOL.
To me Marriage this time round is all about commitment, understanding and sharing both the happiness and the sadness.
I never fully commited to my First Husband. I loved him, don't get me wrong. But this time round the love is more intense with Shmoo. We say it every day, every text message has Love You at the end. We even say I Love You as one of us leaves the room.
The Understanding has come from both knowing this time round what Marriage is all about. I Understand he works hard, needs time with his kids and time out on the PC. With my First Husband i couldn't understand the reason behind a lot of stuff that went on. And that turned me cold and bitter towards him in the end.
And the sharing of Happiness and Sadness has brought me more strength than ever before. I lost Two Babies with my First Husband and they were never spoken about again. Like it didn't matter. But i take my hat off to him for helping me through the death of my Father.
With Shmoo we have lost one child and it is spoken about. We laugh and we cry, we laugh till we cry. And that has got to be special. Hasn't it?
Sorry for the length of this. I must be going soft in me old age. :bbredface:
What does Marriage mean to you?