Registering for gifts

[Kacie_bride]

I was just wondering where all of you registered for gifts or where you are planning to register at. Also I was wondering how many places you registered at or are planning to register at, and when is the right time to register for gifts.

[WebLady]

Hey, this reminds me of an article I wrote about registering ;) Here it is ...

"To Register or Not To Register"

I say always register for gifts! Think about it, there are all sorts of things that you will need and want for your new home. Register for them all, everything from bath towels to good china and anything in between, don‘t be scared.

Remember, people often tend to spend more on wedding gifts than any other occasion! For example, when I got married, my husband’s grandparents gave us $1000 and we never get gifts from them!

You will want to give your registry some diversity so that there will be plenty of items with varied prices to choose from so no one feels like they can't get you something. But again, don’t be afraid to add some of the higher priced items too. Even if you don’t have the generous grandparents I did, you never know if some of your family members might decide to go in together to get you something really nice. Though you may still get a couple of toasters even if you don’t register for it, but you will certainly not get anything good if you don't ask for it!

I say you should register about 4 months in advance of the wedding date. There isn't much need to do it much sooner unless you just want to. Most people will get you gifts for the bridal shower (which is usually about 2 mos before the big day) and you may get gifts in the mail before and after a bridal shower and then some people will bring gifts to the wedding.

It helps to register with national chain stores that are common in most cities and states, and/or those that have websites to shop online.

Another idea, you could set up a gift registry with your photographer! The easiest way to do it is to have cards made up that have the photographers contact info on it and be sure to include your name as well. Many photographers would likely give you these cards for free. Then your friends and family could call in or send in monetary gifts that would build up a credit for you with the photographer.

Yet another option if you and your groom already have everything you need, you could have your guests donate to your favorite charity on your behalf instead of the traditional wedding gifts!

"What if we just want cash?" I hear ya ;) this is ok too, but be careful not to be rude. Perhaps have a little notice in the shower invitation that reads “In lieu of traditional wedding gifts, the bride and groom ask for monetary contributions to the honeymoon” this is often referred to as a “Honeymoon Registry” sometimes your travel agent can help set this up for you.

Or if you really just want the cash, create a cash registry by setting up a PayPal account. It is free and easy to use. Some people will still give you cash at the wedding. And the old 'Dollar dance' is still pretty popular ;)

Standard Etiquette says not to include information about the Registry in the wedding invitation, many see this as rude. Like the gift is more important than having “the honor of their presence” at the wedding. It is perfectly acceptable to put your registry cards in with the shower invitations, as gifts
are expected there, that is the purpose of a shower. Some people will still mention the Registry in the wedding invitation, if you choose to do so, put in a separate card, do not put it in the actual wording of the invitation!

The traditional way to spread the word about the Registry is through the shower invitations and through friends and family. Another great new way to spread the word is to have a personal wedding website. This allows you to tactfully let people know where you are registered and allows them to
easily view the Registry online with the links provided. All while sharing all sorts of important details and fun stuff about the wedding. And since it is online, it is available to friends and family everywhere, anytime of the day!

[WhiskeyGirl]

Sorry and I do not mean to hijack your thread but I must say this!

For ANY Canadians thinking about registering at the bay!!

FORGET IT!!

PM if you want to know why!!




And to answer your question, we registered at the Bay. (obviously) Its a Canadian department store. Our wedding was in July and I do believe we registered in March or April!! A lot of people like to pick up your shower gifts from off your registry!!

[LaceyinPgh]

We registered at 3 different stores: Target, Kaufmann's, and Williams Sonoma. But, Pottery Barn has some linens that I like so I might add that one as well.

I think we registered for most of our stuff in January or Februaury for our May wedding. The only thing you need to hold off on until closer to the date would be seasonal items. I personal have linens that I need to register for. I think I might have to go myself this Saturday to get that done.

[Jenn060306]

Mark and i are registered at The Bay. We did this prior to finding out from Shawna what has happened to her. :bbconfused: Although we have yet to experience any problems with them. (I hope it remains this way). We are also registered at Linens and Things.
We need to find time to go put more on our lists that meet a broader price range. Because we need alot of new kitchen stuff (we have college donations now) there is more like that. I do want to add a collection of frames and decorating stuff. :D

[usahgrad]

We registered at Target, Bed Bath and Beyond and Mikasa. A friend of the family joked that he could buy us a dollar spoon to serve salad out of a $600 bowl! :)

We registered the beginning of January for our May wedding as well. However, because of family circumstances, my shower was in March, which was part of the reason we registered when we did. But I don't think you can register too early.

[WeddingManager]

Hey, this reminds me of an article I wrote about registering ;) Here it is ...

"To Register or Not To Register"

I say always register for gifts! Think about it, there are all sorts of things that you will need and want for your new home. Register for them all, everything from bath towels to good china and anything in between, don‘t be scared.

Remember, people often tend to spend more on wedding gifts than any other occasion! For example, when I got married, my husband’s grandparents gave us $1000 and we never get gifts from them!

You will want to give your registry some diversity so that there will be plenty of items with varied prices to choose from so no one feels like they can't get you something. But again, don’t be afraid to add some of the higher priced items too. Even if you don’t have the generous grandparents I did, you never know if some of your family members might decide to go in together to get you something really nice. Though you may still get a couple of toasters even if you don’t register for it, but you will certainly not get anything good if you don't ask for it!

I say you should register about 4 months in advance of the wedding date. There isn't much need to do it much sooner unless you just want to. Most people will get you gifts for the bridal shower (which is usually about 2 mos before the big day) and you may get gifts in the mail before and after a bridal shower and then some people will bring gifts to the wedding.

It helps to register with national chain stores that are common in most cities and states, and/or those that have websites to shop online.

Another idea, you could set up a gift registry with your photographer! The easiest way to do it is to have cards made up that have the photographers contact info on it and be sure to include your name as well. Many photographers would likely give you these cards for free. Then your friends and family could call in or send in monetary gifts that would build up a credit for you with the photographer.

Yet another option if you and your groom already have everything you need, you could have your guests donate to your favorite charity on your behalf instead of the traditional wedding gifts!

"What if we just want cash?" I hear ya ;) this is ok too, but be careful not to be rude. Perhaps have a little notice in the shower invitation that reads “In lieu of traditional wedding gifts, the bride and groom ask for monetary contributions to the honeymoon” this is often referred to as a “Honeymoon Registry” sometimes your travel agent can help set this up for you.

Or if you really just want the cash, create a cash registry by setting up a PayPal account. It is free and easy to use. Some people will still give you cash at the wedding. And the old 'Dollar dance' is still pretty popular ;)

Standard Etiquette says not to include information about the Registry in the wedding invitation, many see this as rude. Like the gift is more important than having “the honor of their presence” at the wedding. It is perfectly acceptable to put your registry cards in with the shower invitations, as gifts
are expected there, that is the purpose of a shower. Some people will still mention the Registry in the wedding invitation, if you choose to do so, put in a separate card, do not put it in the actual wording of the invitation!

The traditional way to spread the word about the Registry is through the shower invitations and through friends and family. Another great new way to spread the word is to have a personal wedding website. This allows you to tactfully let people know where you are registered and allows them to
easily view the Registry online with the links provided. All while sharing all sorts of important details and fun stuff about the wedding. And since it is online, it is available to friends and family everywhere, anytime of the day!

Just a FYI for you WedLady. Onewed has an article section that allows the public to submit articles to > http://www.onewed.com/articles/submit-article.php

As long as they are good articles like the one above they get listed. ;)