Me, baby crazy? When did this happen???

[KMS]

Ugh, something has been getting to me lately. Since I was 5 years old I always told my mom that I would never have kids. I felt this way up until a couple of years ago when I started thinking about creating a family with Chad. Chad and I weren't sure for quite a while if we wanted to have kids so we would always makes sure to say "if we have kids" instead of "when we have kids" when discussing parenting, etc. Well, now we've decided that having kids is definitely something that we want.

However, he just decided to go back to school, I'm just about to graduate, we're broke, and we had planned on having some "us" years. We're both still plenty young too. He's about to be 21 and I'm 24. So the kid thing will have to wait a few years. Good plan, right? Too bad everytime I see a baby I get happy tears and I have this uncontrollable urge that I want to have a baby and I want to have one NOW!! :bbeek: And Chad feels the same way too. He decided to tell me how he had been feeling at a very, um, innoportune time the other day. :bbredface:

Anyways, there's not much point to this except for the fact that I never expected to ever feel this way and it's pretty much driving me crazy.

[NowAShelton]

i guess thats just one of the ways marriage can change things huh? (in a good way of course :smile:)

[StarCoveter]

Awww... I totally understand how you feel. I would LOVE to have a baby right now, and Kevin wants one (although he wants to wait a while). We're basically broke also, living check-to-check, bought a house a year ago that still needs desperate attention in some places, we have too many cats. So, logically, we'll try to wait, but as soon as the wedding happens, I don't know how hard we'll try to prevent a baby. We dont' do much now as far as birth control goes, because we'd be estatic to have a child, and would definitely make sacrifices in order to afford one (cutting out the satellite, high speed internet, for a couple examples)... but after the wedding, it will be extra tough not to want a baby.

BUT, we have a now three-and-a-half year plan to get rid of as much debt as possible and move to the mountains, and THEN have a baby.... we'll see!

[Rainbow Brite]

BUT, we have a now three-and-a-half year plan to get rid of as much debt as possible and move to the mountains, and THEN have a baby.... we'll see!Awww I wanna move to the mountains!! Too bad there are no technology jobs in the mountains :( What will you guys do up there?

And yeah...I'm totally starting to feel the baby bug. Argghh...

[SerendipityCrafts]

Your post made me smile. I remember thinking that I wanted "us time" and the perfect conditions before my ex and I started a family. In hindsight, I will tell you that "us time" is really important but trying to have the "perfect" conditions is like trying to nail jello to a tree.

We never had enough money but somehow we made it work from week to week. With that said, our kids may not have been dressed in designer duds but they didn't go without either. :)

[StarCoveter]

Awww I wanna move to the mountains!! Too bad there are no technology jobs in the mountains :( What will you guys do up there?

And yeah...I'm totally starting to feel the baby bug. Argghh...

Well, we went to Western Carolina University (where we met) and fell in love with the mountains... it just feels better there....that's why we're getting married up there! It's where our hearts are, so it's only right that we get back there as soon as possible. We are concerned about jobs up there, but that's why we're waiting a few years... Plus, we totally would rather raise a child in Asheville rather than Charlotte, where being yourself matters more than how much money you make.

[acidcookie]

I too never wanted kids. I never even said "if." My mom told me it'd change and it was always "whatever!" I'm 25 and just now turning around to the idea. FH one time told me something he was sad about was my apparent resistance to kids because he knows he'd want them. He's 32 now and all his friends from growing up are having kids at this point. Now we say "when" because we figure we will but we're still not crazed. In any case, the fact that I'm liking the idea at all is like hell freezing over, haha.

I'm not baby crazy, I honestly have just NEVER found babies cute or in any way desirable. But once they can walk and talk they're pretty cute.

I don't really like children that much, but neither did my mom and she loves us to death. Your own are certainly different for you.

But like Serendipity said, there's never a "perfect" time to have kids is there?! Once we're married, graduated and moved to new jobs I'll be 27 which seems like a good time. Right at the start of my career...

[lize566]

Oh I feel you on the whole happy tears and insane urge to have a baby NOW!! Although I have always wanted kids, I, too, am going back to school and we are broke and I don't feel like we are at that place in our relationship to have kids, but on the other hand, how do I know we will ever get there, or really, what is "there"? I'm taking BC but want to stop, but we want to wait until we can better afford it, as we can barely afford ourselves right now. I know that we would make it work, but I'm trying my best to keep my desire in check! I just keep telling myself that it's not the right time and fulfilling that desire my baby-sitting or something like that lol.

[KMS]

Yeah, I know that the ideal situation like money, location, etc is probably never going to actually happen! I think few people ever really feel completely "ready". That's what the first kid's for, right?! ;)