Baby drama

[WebLady]

For those of you with children from other relationships; how do you handle things when your new partner has an opinion about something that involves the kids?

My sister says if she ever gets in a serious relationship again or gets married that she would not allow the other man to have any say in how she raises her daughter.

Or what would happen if the father (no longer in the picture) doesn't approve of how you and the new guy are raising the child?

I don't have children so I won't ever have to deal with this kind of thing. But I was just curious how others felt about such issues and/or how you deal with it.

*This is not meant to start anything or question anyone's choices; just curious*

[ger]

We each have children from a previous relationship..but they are all grown and giving us grandchildren. We pretty much see eye to eye on those types of things...so I think we would have been OK.

My ex, however, couldn't understand about parenting together. He was pretty good with my kids...but he wouldn't do a thing to discipline his kids, even after they came to live with us full time. He had numerous "professionals" trying to help him...but he wouldn't listen. He had several relatives that tried to tell him that you have to back each other up...he wouldn't listen to them either. Now, he's paying the price. I'm surprised we came out of it as well as we (the kids and I) did.

It was actually kind of funny to watch him in action when we went to my youngest sd's graduation. He is in a relationship that has 3 younger boys. He sure was right on top of them, making them mind. BOTH of the girls and SEVERAL of his family memebers commented on it. We all had to giggle. Of course, he denied that he was doing anything different. I just sat back and watched. :bbeek:

[bichonlvr]

I do think it is hard even for two people to raise their own kids, let along when they are your stepkids!

[rainbowtreat]

I have 2 kids from and ex and now my husband and I have one together. Nicholas has been the best step-father. He loves my kids as if they were his own. He and my ex don't speak, no reason to and they never see each other.

THey issues always came up with me and had nothing to do with my husband.

Now for me and my husband. Well we were raised so differently that we clash. I tend to let alot of the little things go and he thinks you need to be right on top of them about every thing. WE have had to talk and meet in the middle. We still have issues at times but we are doing pretty good. My ex seems to think that Nicholas has no say in they way the kids are raised or has no right to disapline them. But Nicholas is with them ALOT more then they are with their dad. He does help me because it would cause to many problems if it was just me.

If some one has an issue with the way you are raising your child then they are not the right person for you. Nicholas knew from the beginning that I was a package deal. He has gone from the single life style to being a family man and he had taken it on with pride.

I tend to ramble so I hoped I answer your question.

The ex has had issues then I told him as long as the kids are healthy, happy ,and safe you have no say in what goes on at my house. I don't question you about what goes on at your place as I trust you to do the best you can with the kids. Now he is happy the kids have a man in their life even if it is not him. Things do work out in the long run.

[WebLady]

I guess it is different when you have the "right" man in the picture ;) But my sister is still a little bitter (whether she will admit it or not) over the break up with her daughter's father, so I think she is thinking she will never find another man that will not cause problems for her.

[Jacobs_Girl]

lock the kids on the closet! :D:D