Stressed about the Wedding

[kheath10]

Right now I have a lot on my mind and the wedding is one of them. I need some advice please! My aunt started out helping me with wedding plans the (aunt) That is soppoesd to be my wedding planner? She has'nt really done anything what up with that? My other (aunt) is jelous because she not the one getting married? My maid of honor doen's know what the heck she is sopposed to be doing? so it leaves me and my new finacee' to take on the battle and trust me it is one. I have been so busy trying to figure all of this out , I have done all most everything for the planning and orgnized the bridesmaid organized the grooms plnned eveything. Why can;t some one check on me to see if I need anything done or need to talk. I feel like the lonely bride !! please help my story is just to long to tell it will depress yo and I don't want to do that.

[CindySue]

Welcome to the board Kim! And dont worry, youre not the only one thats gone through what you are right now. I had not 1 BUT 2 friends say they would help and then just vanished. The ladies in here helped me get it planned but my little sister that lives 7 hours away is the only person helping me turn those plans into a reality. I have had to do my wedding pretty much by myself.
Now the girls in here are great and if you need any help, dont hesitate to ask. So what plans do you have already?

[Jenn060306]

It's definatly not easy planning wedding. Especailly when you are having trouble with people promising to help and not actually doing it.
All the ladies here are amazing help! If you need to find something usually one of us knows a great place. They all have such amazing ideas esp. if you are a DIY'er.
How are you're plans coming so far? How is your FH for helping you? Keep us posted :D

[Kacie_bride]

Welcome to the board! We are here to help. Like it already mentioned, usually someone on here can help you with ideas and help get things sorted out. Just sit back and relax, and get to typing! We'll help out as much as we can! Again welcome!

[countrygirl]

Hey Kim, welcome to the group. Just remember that we are all here for the same reason, someone to talk to!!! USE US!!!!!!!! There is so much support here.

[Kacie_bride]

How's it going Kim? Are you still out there?

[KristinMG]

I haven't even been engaged a month and have found the time to find a church, pastor, reception hall, invitations, and bridesmaid dresses. I am a full time teacher, part time athletic director, a Big Sister in the BBBS program, and taking classes towards my Master's Degree. Just sit back and catch your breath before you dive into everything. Start by making a list of everything you need to do, and then prioritize. Make it a goal to at least get one thing towards your wedding accomplished each day. For example, if you are supposed to line up a photographer, and you leave messages with a few, that doesn't count as accomplishing something. You have to move to the next item on your list. How long do you have before your wedding? My sister managed to get married six WEEKS from the date she got engaged, so I know it is possible to do. Just hang in there and don't forget to take time for yourself and for you and your finace as a couple.

[riversidewedplanner]

Hey there and welcome,
I'm alway sorry to hear when a bride's family promises to help and then don't and leave her hanging out there wondering are they going to come through. Your wedding is in just under five months and if you can afford it I say get someone professional to help, this way you'll know when things are getting done. I know how stressful planning a wedding can be, I do it all the time. If you can't afford it, like the others said, you'll get plenty of advice here. Maybe you can also pick up a wedding planning book for your aunt to get her started. Good Luck!

[AllyM1]

I'm having the same problems so I know where you are coming from. My fiance won't help me, my matron of honor (which is my sister) isn't doing anything and that leaves me and my mom to do all the work. Luckily as our wedding gets closer, people are starting to help more. Today I got in a fight with my sister and she says to me, "Well if you have someone in mind that would help more than me, just ask them." I was going to go crazy if she left me 2 1/2 months before my wedding looking for someone to replace her.

Just hang in there... It's really hard trying to do everything yourself, but it'll all come together.

:D

[kheath10]

Hey evrybody im still here. So much has happned sice i last tlaked toyou guys. I am so mad . 1st I mailed out reminders to everybody letting them know that dresses needed to be paid and orded by the end of this month. Well I have a cousin in the wedding that is so jelous it anit even funny. She acts so funny you can feel it when shes around. She was happy in the beg but now that the plans are real:bbconfused: and the wedding is really going down she wnats to act like a:censored: and mess:censored: all up. We there I got it out. (2) I knoe she recived the mailer he and my stupid aunt they havent said anything like I got the malier we have'nt forget or nothing. GUys I tell you im about to explode because this funnny acting stuff didn't start until he proposed to me and then every body wen;t haywire.

(2) I am haveing a pleasure party for my bridal shower and there are a lot of party pooopers!!! in my faimly or should I say jelous poopers!! and I wanted yalls input on should I care if ther uncomfortable or don't like what im haveing or what? let me know what you guys think because . Im about to explode.

[Jenn060306]

It took me a couple e-mail reminders to get the message across to my BM's that they still owed some money for the fabric i bought for their skirts. We made a deal that i would pay for $100 of each of their tops and they would pay the difference and the cost of making the skirts. Finally just recently they acknowledged it. I really didn't want to bring it up to them.

For the pleasure party. Some people really might be uncomfortable with that. It might be somthing you should do with your friends rather then you're family.
You might want to talk to your cousin and see if there is anything bothering her. She might be jealous that it's you not her. But if you talk about it hopefully it won't get in the way anymore.
Good Luck!

[StaceyMc]

Call your cousin and ask her if she received your message, nicely. Maybe she didn't get it, I've had e-mails float into cyberspace - never to be seen again and I've had things mailed in the mail that never made it to the receiver.

As for the pleasure party - I wouldn't do that for the shower if it's going to make people uncomfortable. Maybe have a party with your BP and some of your friends who wouldn't be uncomfortable and also have a traditional shower.

[CindySue]

I would have to agree. If emails and/or letter dont get me a response, I go for a phone call or a visit.
And yeah....the passion party would be a GREAT bachelorette (sp?) party, but probably not a good idea for a shower, unless its for a select group.
Good Luck!

[ebakerwed]

I agree with what everyone says, but one thing you must remember, this is YOUR wedding.

Unfortunately it happens to many brides, it's like walking on eggshells trying to please everyone. This should be one of the happiest days of your life, but leading up to it, you feel as if it's going to be the most disasterous. We have all been there - stressing out etc. But take time to chill, take a step back, and say to yourself, "it's my wedding and I'll do as I want".

Easier said than done I know, but you will get there, I can promise you, keep your chin up.

Stop trying to please everyone else and start pleasing yourself, it's YOUR WEDDING.

Hope this give a little hope, take care and all the best with your planning.

Elaine



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[AngelinLove]

I agree that it is your weding and that you need to make sure that you are happy with all of the plans...but I also agree that the passion party is probably more suited to a bachelorette party that a bridal shower. As for all of the conflict and inability to help that you are finding with your family...you are just going to have to talk to them about it. I went through some trouble with my bp...and kind of still am...but I have decided that the best thing that I can do is just talk to them about it.

[AngelinLove]

Oh...and Good Luck!!!