how old does a ring bearer has to be?

[stressedoutbride]

also i have 2 sons one is 14 and the other 12 how can i get them to participate in the wedding?

[girlggc]

From what I understand, ring bearers and flower girls are usually 4-8 years old. Maybe you could have your sons do readings instead.

[Danielle9608]

Could they be ushers?

[RebelChick]

From what I understand, ring bearers and flower girls are usually 4-8 years old. Maybe you could have your sons do readings instead.


My daughter will be 2 and our flower girl..

I think it just matters when they are much older... over 8 or so.. etc. Your sons like most are saying could be ushers

[LadyDante]

My flower girls will be 9 and 7. My ring bearer will be 3.5. So... 2 outta 3 are not supposed to be in the roles I'm giving them... But you know what, it's my wedding and I can do whatever I want and however I want.

[sweetvenus]

You could have them be junior groomsmen. They are the perfect age for that.

[stressedoutbride]

what are ushers? pardon my ignorance...lol new at this...and what do they do? do they also walk down the ile?

[tawni8806]

My ring bearer will be 8, almost 9.

I dont think it matters the age. I'd use a teenager. Then again, I dont follow the rules.

[Scrwballsgrl]

Same situation here:)
I have alot of neices & nephews but don't know what to have them "do" and its a real informal wedding so.....I'm just gonna end up having the leastun's:)
my 3 yr old twin neices, be the flower girl and ring bearer.
FH wants his nephews(one is gonna be 13 & the other 9) to be ushers.
But if they do something I'd feel like his neice (our neice:) should do something too b/c otherwise she'll feel left out (one of the ushers is her brother and they are really close in age) I think we will put her in charge of the guest book or have her make sure everyone gets a favor.?
The rest of my neices and nephews are older (neices-11 & 14, nephews-13, & three 15 yr olds) so I dont think they'll feel left out.

In your case I agree with the other ladies, they could be ushers or honorary groomsmen

[Cilantro]

I say ushers too. :)

[mitch]

what are ushers? pardon my ignorance...lol new at this...and what do they do? do they also walk down the ile?

Ushers show guests to their seats in the church. Hand out Buttonholes etc. They will be a great age to do that role and feel important too.

We're having FH's Grandson as Ring Bearer and he'll be 2 Yrs Old by then.
I think a lot depends on how old they are in the mind too. Sometimes our Grandson acts more mature than we do LOL. :D

[lesliek0211]

My FH's son is 6 and he is going to be a jr.groomsmen. My DD will turn 2 the week after the wedding, and she is our FG. To me it isn't really about what they are "supposed" to be, but rather what they feel comfortable with. I woulld imagine that most boys at that age would not be into the RB thing, but would rather feel like he is older, and thus able to be a groomsmen.