white dress tradition.what is your opinion?confussed

[stressedoutbride]

well i am now cofussed...some people tell me its not right to wear white if you have children already or have been divorced, which is my case...what do you all think ?:bbcry:

[yaminoeyes]

I think that's only if you want a very traditional white wedding, but if you do go by those traditions, you can always wear ivory.

These days, the traditions of a white wedding seem to be falling out of style, with brides of second/third/etc marriages or with kids choosing to wear pure white or even adding colors like red, purple, blue, or even black to their gowns.

It's more mix-and-match these days and traditions are pick-and-choose.

[tawni8806]

Ive heard that myself. I saw screw them. White is a traditional color of a wedding dress, and hell it's your wedding wear what you want.

I live with my FH and we have an 8 month old child. Im wearing WHITE WHITE WHITE.

Have your wedding as you would see fit.

[VenusElaine]

Once upon a time, brides wore their best dress to be married, regardless of the color. Along comes that queen in England, and the white wedding gown was born. It did not, at that time denote virginity. It made a statement that a bride was rich enough to have a gown in a totally impractical color to wear one day only. Tradition evolved it into the purity, virginal connotation.

I wore white for my first wedding. It was expected. I was thirty, had lived with the man for three years, and had not been a virgin for quite some time.

For my secong wedding, I will wear purple. It is my favorite color.

Wear what you wish. It is your day. Celebration, not stress!

VenusElaine

[stressedoutbride]

thanks so much for the input, I have already bought the dress yesterday, it was the last one and they discontinue that style so it was on sale for 349.00 from 600.00 and is WHITE....:D

[mitch]

Along comes that queen in England, and the white wedding gown was born.

That Queen was Queen Victoria and look how long she was Married for and the amount of Kids she had. :bbeek:

She was the one who brought Christmas Trees into the House for Christmas. But that's another Forum. :winktongue:

[LovingLife]

I also live with my fiance and have a 7 month old son and I was planning on wearing white, but when i found my dress that i loooooooved it was ivory. if i would have found a white dress that i loved i would have gotten it but hey as long as i love it who cares what tradition says. wear what you want doll i'm sure you will look lovely.

[mitch]

I'm wearing Black and no one has Died. :D

So stuff so called Tradition and wear what you want to.

[neebelung]

Here's a very recent thread where this exact thing was discussed: :)

http://forums.onewed.com/showthread.php?t=17507&highlight=wear+white

[VenusElaine]

Mitch,
I know "that queen" was Victoria, but forgot about the Christmas trees.
Interesting what all our combined knowledge can share.

VenusElaine

[08chrissy08]

This is something that I've been going back and forth about. I had planned from the beggining to wear an ivory gown, but that was due to my complexion and not because of the "rules." Not long after I told my mom about the engagement though, she told me that I should not even consider white because it was wrong. I was definitely hurt by that. Even though it's my second wedding, my FH has never been married before. My family is treating this all like it really isn't very important, but I feel like this hasn't lost any meaning just because it's a second wedding. After a lot of thought (and temptation to wear white just for spite) I decided that it doesn't really matter what my mom thinks. It's still MY day, not hers. If she doesn't like it, she doesn't have to go.

[MrsDM]

FH and I don't hide anything - we aren't virgins. Everyone knows it and whoever doesn't is just simply denying the truth. I always knew "white" as being pure hence the virginity thing. I'm not playing games here - we have been together for 6 years at the time of the wedding and will be living together for almost 3 years - I'm DEFINATELY not a virgin. ;)

I will be wearing white and I've been asked "Are you getting a white dress?" Yes because thats what I want to wear!!! (You have to excuse the attitude - I'm watching Bridezillas!! haha!!)

[Whitewater]

I wore white the first time because it was, well, appropriate -- but I HATE white, everything about it, including how I look in it! For some reason white just doesn't work with me. But everybody seemed to want me to do it, so I did it.

This time around, white is, er, NOT appropriate, and I hate it anyway, so my dress is gold shot silk. Mostly. I *am* having a warm white silk underskirt, which will show, and some white/colorless chiffon details, but for the most part, my gown is colored. Gold is a color that always looks fantastic on me, no matter what the shade, and it's a color that I LOVE for formal ballgowns, because it's so rich and luxurious. Hate it for just about everything else, though :)

So my gown is gold and white silk, and the very few people who won't approve can just sit there and stew to themselves. This is our second wedding, and we'll be doing what pleases us, thank you!


Whitewater

[lana~ri]

I had not really planned on what color my gown would be. This is my 1st and his 2nd marriage. I did end up getting an Ivory gown but it was because when I found THE dress it was Ivory. I'm glad you chose what you wanted.

[ME&HIM]

Its up to you really. I was told if you live with them before hand and have had sex that there is no point in wearing white cause your arent "pure" anymore.
Im still wearing white and my partner and i have lived together for 3 yrs now

[Lucky1]

stressedoutbride:

I think you should wear whatever color you want on your wedding day. If that means wearing the biggest, fluffiest, most extravagent stark white dress than so be it. It is your wedding day and the focus is you and your groom. What you wear should have nothing to do with what society or friends and family have to say. It is the year 2008 and the white dress is no longer only reserved for the virgin bride!

[Cilantro]

Yeah, wear what you want!! I'm not wearing a traditional wedding dress for sure.

[Nekochanpurr]

FH and I don't hide anything - we aren't virgins. Everyone knows it and whoever doesn't is just simply denying the truth. I always knew "white" as being pure hence the virginity thing. I'm not playing games here - we have been together for 6 years at the time of the wedding and will be living together for almost 3 years - I'm DEFINATELY not a virgin. ;)

I will be wearing white and I've been asked "Are you getting a white dress?" Yes because thats what I want to wear!!! (You have to excuse the attitude - I'm watching Bridezillas!! haha!!)

Hehe, just had to point out...

Been going out with my FH for 8 years, living together almost 2 years... still a virgin here. So its not impossible. :D

That said, you should be able to wear whatever you want..

[RosieAngel]

Hehe, just had to point out...

Been going out with my FH for 8 years, living together almost 2 years... still a virgin here. So its not impossible. :D

That said, you should be able to wear whatever you want..

That impresses me every time you type it! :bbeek:

[SerendipityCrafts]

well i am now cofussed...some people tell me its not right to wear white if you have children already or have been divorced, which is my case...what do you all think ?:bbcry:

It doesn't matter what your situation is any longer. All rules have been broken. Wear whatever you like best. Wear whatever colour suits your skin tone. Wear whatever makes you feel simply beautiful and strut your stuff! :)