FH & Groomsmen Wedding Attire

[Scrwballsgrl]

Okay, I dont know if everyone is familiar with my reception venue ...
We are getting married at a lodge; weathered wood on the outside, stone fireplace & exposed dark wood beams inside. Its going to be in May at two in the afternoon and our theme is rustic & dainty.....

Question: Is a black tux & tails too fancy for FH and his groomsmen? And if they are out fitted in such aren't FOTB & FFIL supposed to be dressed accordingly?

I only ask b/c FH & his family (my family too honestly) rarely if ever dress up...er...well "dress to the nines" as it were in tuxes, etc. So wouldn't nice suits (even if they aren't matching btwn the men but) coordinating enough to know they are all in the same party, be more intune with the days surroundings. ? My sister got married some years ago and her hubby & FOTB & FIL & BIL all wore tux with tails but she was married in a church and I was always of the opinion when in church "dressed is best" meaning as long as its appropriate (not showing to much skin etc.) its better to be a little over dressed than under dressed....But since we're having our wedding and reception in such a low key (dont get me wrong our venue could be described as lovely, just not fancy) place would suits & ties be more appropriate?

I dont want to fight Fh on this as its his wedding too but I dont want it too look like we dont "match" in our style of dress on the wedding day.

BTW: I haven't bought my dress yet but am planning to get a understated but elegant wedding dress., probably with a trumpet or sweep style skirt...so not so over the top..... I just need some opinions....ladies:bbredface: HELP!

[neebelung]

My opinion is you and you FH should discuss and come up with something you're both happy with. Who cares if it's not tuxes.... if he's comfy in a suit (rather than a tux), and you're okay with it, then go for it.

I personally think in that kind of a rustic setting, suits would look very nice.

My FH doesn't dress up... he just doesn't. So we decided he woudn't wear a suit (he'll wear a jacket, though) for our wedding. Even though I'll be *more* dressed up than he will be, my thinking is I want him to be comfortable... afterall, he'll enjoy himself more then, and he'll look more "himself" in pictures, too.

[Scrwballsgrl]

Thats what I was figuring on, with him not dressing up very often (if at all lol) I thought he would rather wear a suit and tie, or like you said just a jacket and slacks. But he says he'd really rather wear a tux....maybe with it being our wedding and the fact that he doesn't dress up often (if at all:grinhappy:)
he wants this day to be even more special by going all out (ie tux).

I'll just run it by him again,let him know that I wont think he's not putting the right effort into the day if he would rather wear a suit (or jacket & slacks). We've still got a while to figure out what he wants him & the groomsmen to wear....

As for my Dad & FFIL, they both have beautiful suits that would be extremely appropriate. Should they match the Groom & Grooms men if he decides he wants the tuxes? Or would it be okay for them to just wear their suits?
I'm really just trying to cut cost for everyone....and let them wear whatever they'll be most comfortable in.:ooh:

[neebelung]

Oh heck, if he WANTS to wear a tux, let him. You could even look at brown tuxes or something like that, so it'll "go" more with the atmosphere.

I don't think the Fathers need to match the groom & groomsmen that closely. I think suits would be perfectly fine for them.

[Scrwballsgrl]

thanks for the encouragement, :grinhappy:.
I just couldnt believe when he was more into wearing a tux than something a little more laid back and wanted some other opinions on it.

They could all show up in khakis and polos and I'd be thrilled,lol.
I just wanted to get some ideas on what "outside" sources might think considering the time of year, time of day, surroundings etc.


Thanks again!

[Brian's Bride]

I think tuxes with tails might be a little much, IMHO... but defnitely let him wear a tux if he is insisting on it! I think that's sweet that he wants to do that. And the fathers in suits would look good, too.