Cold Feet

[usahgrad]

Ok, I don't have cold feet...at all! Everyone keeps telling me that I must be so nervous with the wedding getting so close and how I must be getting at least a hint of cold feet and there's nothing. I'm excited! I'm not really worried about any of the details...I'd like for it to be legal, but if it isn't we'll stop by the courthouse the monday afterwards and make it legal (I'm pretty sure it will be legal anyways, but you know...). I'm not worried about the cake getting a dent in it; it's just a cake. Or the flowers dying, then they die...that would kind of suck, but it doesn't really matter to me that much. I just want to be Mrs. Sutton.

My mother and I were talking today and she actually got me nervous about the fact that I'm not nervous! I don't get it...am I weird? Does anyone else not have cold feet?

[LaceyinPgh]

I'm not nervous either. Everyone keeps telling me that I must be getting nervous. I don't think that I am. I am really coming down with a case of wedding burnout. But, not nervous or anxious, just excited and ahppy to have my special day. I think the fact that I have been with Sean for several years (4 of thsoe living together) probably really helps. Not too much is going to change in our relationship. Also, the fact that I am able to keep it in perspective that it is just a day like any other helps. Every wedding is going to have snags. Every party I have ever hosted had a minor snag but that didn't chage the fact that it was still a great party. My concern is that Sean and I are legally married AND that our guests have the time of their lives. If the ribbon on the ceterpieces is the wrong shade the world will not stop spinning. My marriage won't fall apart if the chocolate fountain is milk chocolate as opposed to dark chocolate.

The fact that you are solid in your relationship and that you aren't a raging bridezilla helps with the no nervousness. It probably also really helps that neither you nor I have been married before so we don't know that (knock on wood) the misery of having to break up a marriage. Just keep having fun with it. Don't listen to what other people are paranoid about.

[usahgrad]

Thanks Lacey! I mentioned to Mama about how I had read about people going into second marriages kind of worried and I understand that; I've seen some pretty horrible marriage break ups. I didn't think about the fact that we live together playing a part...I can see that though. I guess I'm very down-to-earth about the whole day. My aunt keeps nitpicking at little things that I can't understand why she nitpicks at (and it bothers me because it's bothering my mother to the point where my mother wants me to change things).

Thanks again, you helped bring things into perspective; now I'm not so nervous about not being nervous! :)

[LaceyinPgh]

My mother nitpicks me to death about things. I have come to a point where I don't care. I have also found away to shut her up when she is driving me crazy about something. I just very calmly look at her and say, "Do you know that last year approximately 180,000 children in Africa were orphaned because of AIDS? Or, did you know that in Sudan there is a mass genocide taking place and governemnts in the world are taking no action to stop it?" Usually by the time she wipes the dumbfounded look off of her face then processes the information I just gave her, followed up by some lame *** response; she has forgotten what she was nitpicking about. Try it. The dumbfounded look is priceless. I see almost the same one when Ellie sees another dog on tv but realzies no matter how fast she runs, she can't catch it.

[WhiskeyGirl]

I was NEVER nervous or got cold feet before our wedding! I think its because I was one hundred and fifty percent sure and there just wasn't a shadow of a doubt that he wasn't the one! With that being said, not everyone who gets cold feet is not one hundred percent sure! It is a VERY BIG step to take in ones life!

Kelli, Its good that you aren't nervous, it certainly helps to keep your sanity! There is nothing wrong with you, infact you should be proud that you don't!! lol. Take care!

Shawna