Thank you's

[StarCoveter]

I have a month until the wedding, but I'm starting to get gifts in the mail that have been mailed directly to us from where we registered. Do I go ahead and send the thank you's, or wait until after the wedding (we have a month to go).

Also, those who have helped us out financially, I'd been planning on sending the thank you cards after the wedding, all at once... is that a good idea? I figure this way I can enclose a picture from the wedding inside as part of the "thank you".

[sweetvenus]

Write the thank yous as you get the gifts. That way the person who sent it will know you received it, and there will be less to write after the wedding. :)

[StarCoveter]

Write the thank yous as you get the gifts.

Even if I'll see them AT the wedding?

[sweetvenus]

I would, because when you see them at the wedding, you may forgot to mention it or forget who sent what. Your mind won't really be on your gifts. I would go ahead and send them so they aren't wondering if they got lost in the mail or something.

Otherwise, they won't be getting one until over a month away, longer if you are going on a long honeymoon, and if I were the person who sent it, I'd be beginning to wonder if you had gotten it or not.

[mitch]

Very good points there sweetvenus.

IMO i'd also thank them for the specific gift they sent.

I.E Thank you for the wonderful dinner service you so kindly sent to us.

That way it's more personal than just a vague "thanks for the gift"

[s_r_d3]

I'd write them and send them as you get the gifts. You dont want the people sitting there wondering if you ever got the gift and if they will get a thank you. Plus its less you have to worry about after the honeymoon.

[Rainbow Brite]

The reason I waited until after the wedding was that some people gave us shower gifts and then gave us ANOTHER gift at the wedding. Since I waited, I could thank them for everything in one card instead of having to send two. So if you know they're coming to the wedding, it might be better to wait to make sure they don't give you something else. If it's someone you know won't be attending, you might as well go ahead and send it.

[s_r_d3]

Very good idea and point!


The reason I waited until after the wedding was that some people gave us shower gifts and then gave us ANOTHER gift at the wedding. Since I waited, I could thank them for everything in one card instead of having to send two. So if you know they're coming to the wedding, it might be better to wait to make sure they don't give you something else. If it's someone you know won't be attending, you might as well go ahead and send it.

[WebLady]

I guess it would be ok either way; if you sent a TY and saw them at the wedding then you could always say thank you again.

Maybe you could call people that sent gifts before the wedding and let them know you got it, then send a formal TY later.

But if you waited and sent all your TY's out after the wedding I don't think anyone would really be offended.

[Danielle9608]

I don't think there is anything wrong with waiting till after the wedding to send your thank you notes. However it may be a good idea to start them as gift start to come in and then send them all out at once after the wedding.

[TangoWedding]

Maybe you could call people that sent gifts before the wedding and let them know you got it, then send a formal TY later.


That's what I did. We got a handful of things before the wedding and I either called them or told them in person that I got the gift and the big sloppy thank-yous.

Now, 3 weeks after the wedding, I'm sending out ALL the thank you cards. And I am including a picture from the wedding. :grinhappy:

[mitch]

I'm sending out ALL the thank you cards. And I am including a picture from the wedding. :grinhappy:

I love the idea of sending a Wedding Photo with the Thank You's.

*mmmmm, Mitch finds a crayon and makes a note to pinch the idea* :winktongue: