Is my subconcious trying to tell me something?

[usahgrad]

Ok, I had the weirdest dream last night (I've been having them a lot lately, but last night was the weirdest). I was making out big time with this guy I had a huge crush on back in high school. All of a sudden I stop and I tell the guy that I can't do this because I'm married and I love my husband. Then I woke up...I don't even DREAM about having sex with other people, I love my fiance that much! I can't wait until he's really my husband! He laughs when I pipe up out of the blue "we're gonna get married" or "the wedding is soon" or something else.

The other weird dreams I've had incorporated some sort of wedding fear. One was I watched a snow storm roll in and cover the entire city in feets and feets of snow on the day of my wedding! Another one was that we forgot to pick up the flowers the day before the wedding and there were no flowers...I woke up crying from that one. There was another one, but I don't remember it.

Is anyone else having weird dreams? Do they get weirder the closer you get or are these going to die down and let me sleep a regular night of sleep without some strange distortion to my wedding or subconcious test of my love for my fiance?

[Jenn060306]

You are definatly not alone! I have had some crazy ones myself!
My first one was that i couldn't get my hair done so i had to throw it up in a messy bun myself and i had all my wispies sticking out and the of course it was pouring rain. It was like a tap opened up in the sky. So then all the wispies were getting really curly and frizzy. It was a disaster and i cried!
The other one i can remember right now was we forgot to book a photographer so after the ceramony when it suddenly dawned on us the whole bridal party was just sitting arround in a hotel waiting for someone to get a digital camera and take pictures.
Shortly after that dream i booked our photographer because i was totally paranoid about it.

[OctoberBride06]

I have definetly had a few weird dreams! lol

I have dreamt that we went to the church, and before I walked down the isle, I realized I wasn't wearing my wedding dress, I was wearing the stores dress and I had forgotten to pick mine up?? how I got there dress I don't know.. the bridemaid had forgotten her dress too.. so we had to go to the shop and they were closed.. I was petrified...

or one where we were married a couple months early, and we don't know how the guests found out, because they all showed up??? it was a really weird dream...

I cannot imagine what else I can dream about in the next 7 months, lol

[LaceyinPgh]

Don't worry about the dreams. I have been having them periodically since I got engaged. My favorite was showing up at the church and it was deocrated with orange pinecones. Not just any orange either, safety cone orange.

As for the other person dream. I have one of thsoe everynow and then. Usually it involves my fantasy man de jour. Those next mornings, I always wake up very happy. It doesn't mean taht I don't care about Sean. I just means that sometimes you need a little change from the ordinary. You are just dreaming it. You have no control over your mind in that state. Just sit back and enjoy.

[CindySue]

Ive had then on and off since....well I guess since we moved into this new house right before Christmas. Ive had a couple where its my wedding day and Brian comes and tells me he has changed his mind and doesnt want to get married. Im not sure what I do in my sleep with this one but I always wakw up with him holding me and telling me its ok. My latest was about 4 hours before time for the ceremony and I didnt have the clothes for the kids, so Im having to run around town looking for some.
So dont worry, you arent alone.

[CarlosHoney]

I had a weird dream a little while back. The wedding cake was the wrong color, we never got to say our vows, the reception room wasn't ready, and the Queen of Engalnd showed up. The girls from Sex and the City were my friends, and Charlotte was trying to cheer me up when my Ex came to talk to me. Telling me that I was making a mistake, and that he wanted me.

Had a few naughty dreams, somw involving my FH, some not... Oh well.

Also had one (the most bizzare of all) where everything was absolutley perfect. Then we left to go home, got in the door, and when we woke up in the morning we had forgotten Elias in his carseat at the Club. I woke up crying that time!

They're just dreams. Enjoy them, blow them off. Whichever you want!

[CindySue]

Hey I have a question.........This kinda goes along with the "little secrets" thread. If you have a "naughty" dream about someone other than you FH or DH, would you tell him?

Me? Probably not. #1 - I cant control what I dream. #2 - Its just a dream, I would NEVER cheat on Brian...I have no reason to. So why would I want to put the vision of me and someone else in his head, even if it is just a dream?

[CarlosHoney]

I had a dream last night that I was living with my best friend and was hanging out with this guy that I met a little while back through a counseling program... We kissed in the dresm, and he was a bad kisser. A DOUBLE YUCK!

And, no, I don't tell Carlo. There's no need to do it. It's only going to make him feel bad/akward/weird, so I might was well just keep it to myself.

[Jenn060306]

I've never had a dream about someone other then Mark since we started dating. If i did i don't think i would tell him because i don't want him to worry about somthing he shouldn't. The idea of being with anyone eles what so ever just makes me feel sick to my stomic.

[usahgrad]

I probably wouldn't tell him; if I have had any to this point, I don't remember them, with the exception of the other night, but that doesn't entirely count because it wasn't a total sex dream...it was foreplay, stopped by my subconcious desire to not cheat on my FH (weird!). However, I do talk/move/anything else you can think of in my sleep and sometimes Jason will ask me what I was dreaming about because of that and I'm not going to lie to his face either. I can't imagine being with anyone else, apparently so much so that it echoes into my dreams, so I don't think he has anything to worry about.

[rainbowtreat]

I can't think of any dreams I have had. I don't think I would tell him if I did dream of some one else. I doubt he would tell me either. And I realy dont want to know.

I was laughing in my sleep one night and Nicholas though tI was nuts. I remember him nudgeing me and asking me what was so funny. I couldn't remember when I woke up what I was dreaming about but I remember laughing alot.

[usahgrad]

I was dreaming about a snake in bed one night and I woke up screaming "where's its head? where's its head?" I scared the **** out of Jason!

[WhiskeyGirl]

Kelli

Those dreams are completely normal! Before my DH and I said I do, I dreamed at least three times about my ex and I hooking up again!! Or that my DH was cheating and didn't want to marry me! I think its our subconcious dreaming about the things that we WORRY about going wrong!!

As far as crazy wedding dreams...well I couldn't find "the shoes" so I kept dreaming that I was wearing BIG RED FLOPPY CLOWN shoes as I walked down the aisle! yeah that scared the hell out of me, but eventually, they stopped and I never had those stupid dreams again! (I also dreamed the dress shop screwed up and I had red FEATHERS like a boa around the bust area of my dress!! it was hideous!! lol)

[WebLady]

I have really weird dreams sometimes ... just before we got married I dreamed he told me he changed his mind and didn't want to marry me. Every now and then I dream that he leaves me for some stripper *weird*

Once I had a naughty dream about one of his friends, that was weird too ... I never even thought about such a thing in real life. I love my husband, he is my life, I wouldn't risk what we have for anything!! I didn't tell me about it either. I am sure he looks at other women and I am sure he has fantasise about someone at one point or another, I just don't want to know about it ... I am sure he would never act on such impulses.

I have had dreams about being raped before. I have had dreams about bugs in my bed. I have had dreams that I am out with my sister, the age we are now but my brothers are kids again and we are taking care of them. I have had a dream where I met Green Day or some other of my fav bands.

Last night I had a dream that the breeder lady we got our dog from called and wanted to take him back.

I usually don't read much into my dreams ... they could be fears and worry playing out in your head or just a bunch of rambled thoughts that don't mean anything. Your subconscious mind is a difficult thing to decipher. I wouldn't worry about it.

[sarahomalley]

Last week an old boyfriend of mine died. He had a seizure and his sister found him in his bathroom. He was a very special man, we just didn't want the same things at the same time. His death made me wonder what could have been. The other night I dreamt that he came up to me the night before my wedding and said, "If I were to ask you to marry me right now, would you do it and call off your wedding to Adam?" The scary part is I told him yes and we got married right that minute. The next day I had to go tell Adam the news and I was walking up a hill to his "house" and it was terribly windy. I still don'y know what to make of that dream.

[CindySue]

Last week an old boyfriend of mine died. He had a seizure and his sister found him in his bathroom. He was a very special man, we just didn't want the same things at the same time. His death made me wonder what could have been. The other night I dreamt that he came up to me the night before my wedding and said, "If I were to ask you to marry me right now, would you do it and call off your wedding to Adam?" The scary part is I told him yes and we got married right that minute. The next day I had to go tell Adam the news and I was walking up a hill to his "house" and it was terribly windy. I still don'y know what to make of that dream.
You are hurt by your old friends death. And the wondering about what could have been is probably what triggered the dream. Im always playing the "what if" game. Never really gets me anywhere. Hang in there sweetie....it will be ok. You need to mourn your friend. You were probably very close once and regardless of how you split, you still feel this blow. Have you talked to Adam about any of this?

[WebLady]

Sorry to hear about the death of your old bf ... I wouldn't worry about the dream I am sure it is just rambled thoughts related to morning the death of an old flame. Sometimes death of anyone close to you can make you think and/or reevaluate your life. Best wishes to you :hug:

[sarahomalley]

Unfortuneately, talking to Adam gets me nowhere. He doesn't understand. It's almost like he's jealous of the way I once felt for someone. I told him that this other man made me feel special. I also told Adam that just because the other guy made me feel special doesn't mean Adam doesn't. They are two very different people and I'm choosing to spend the rest of my life with you. He still doesn't understand how I can hurt so bad. It's not a fun situation. Sorry if this post was confusing.

[CindySue]

Unfortuneately, talking to Adam gets me nowhere. He doesn't understand. It's almost like he's jealous of the way I once felt for someone. I told him that this other man made me feel special. I also told Adam that just because the other guy made me feel special doesn't mean Adam doesn't. They are two very different people and I'm choosing to spend the rest of my life with you. He still doesn't understand how I can hurt so bad. It's not a fun situation. Sorry if this post was confusing.
Its not confusing......I understand a lot more than you might think. 4 years ago I lost someone. I found out right afterwards that he had lied to me about EVERYTHING he had told me about his past. Brian gets more than a little jealous because of the way I had felt for him. But believe it or not, talking with them will eventually help. I was finally able to get Brian to understand. You will get Adam to understand too.

[WhiskeyGirl]

Unfortuneately, talking to Adam gets me nowhere. He doesn't understand. It's almost like he's jealous of the way I once felt for someone. I told him that this other man made me feel special. I also told Adam that just because the other guy made me feel special doesn't mean Adam doesn't. They are two very different people and I'm choosing to spend the rest of my life with you. He still doesn't understand how I can hurt so bad. It's not a fun situation. Sorry if this post was confusing.

Hun, I think if I were to find our my ex had passed away, i would still be upset. (even though he hurt me terriably!!) Its hard when you once had something special with someone and something like this happens!! I lost touch with one of my friends from High school but when I found out she has passed away I was devestated! Take it easy, and really like Cindy said, talking to Adam will help, you just have to help him to understand that you need him to be here for you! And just remind him that you are marrying him, and he was your ex for a reason!! (but perhaps leave the dream out of things! I don't think I would tell my DH about that...but thats just me!!) Sorry again!! Best wishes!!