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[cheysmom]

I truely have a monster-in-law. She got so selfish. She has not really been included. She has never made an attempt to be included. Last night I actually thought about cancelling the wedding because I can not handle her for the rest of my life. I love my fiance very very much and realized that I am not marrying her, I am marrying him. But the way she acted last night made me absolutly insane. I refuse to let her ruin MY day. Please tell me how I can better handle her and that I am not the only one.
Amber

[AngelinLove]

You just have to remember that it is YOUR day and that no matter who you marry, there will always be some type of conflict-there is no such thing as the Brady Bunch-and also, after the whole wedding thing is over the real world will return. You and your FH will begin your new life together and your FMIL will not be there everyday. Unfortunately wedding tend to bring out the worst in people and once the wedding is done she will hopefully find something alse to obsess on. Good Luck!!!

[Kacie_bride]

No dear you are not the only one. Read some of the other posts and you will find out that there are plenty of girls who have to deal with all sorts of monsters, from monster in laws to jealous bridesmaids and even monster groomesmen! Are you guys on speaking terms at all? Sometimes you just need to talk things out. But no matter what, do not let her get in your way. It is your day, not hers. Do not let her ruin it.

[Shawna Bride]

I truely have a monster-in-law. She got so selfish. She has not really been included. She has never made an attempt to be included. Last night I actually thought about cancelling the wedding because I can not handle her for the rest of my life. I love my fiance very very much and realized that I am not marrying her, I am marrying him. But the way she acted last night made me absolutly insane. I refuse to let her ruin MY day. Please tell me how I can better handle her and that I am not the only one.
Amber
Ask these girls how many times I threatened to cancel the wedding because of my Mother in Law!!!
Sweetie, at the end of it all, we are marrying the man of our dreams- so we just need to keep that in our minds. I've come to peace with this. Everytime my MIL starts a "freak out" I am just going to be calm. I only have 15 days until the wedding, and I refuse to let her ruin it... She's almost done it. I've cried my eyes out so many times and I'm done with that. I won't be rude or tell her off (although some say I should), maybe after the wedding I will confront her. But for now I'm just letting it roll off my back.
You will be just fine. Dont let her ruin it, I almost did!

[CindySue]

Like everyone else said, maybe things will get better after the wedding. I had a MiL like that the 1st time. She didnt try to ruin my wedding because i didnt have one. She didnt know we had gotten married until afterwards and she had been decent until then. The entire time I was married to her son there were problems. I dont have problems with her now because she KNOWS I dont have to deal with her unless I WANT to.
My FMiL is the greatest woman I think I have ever met. I love talking to and being around her. But I can honestly say that if we hadnt have "hit it off" the way we did, I probably would have wanted to wait AWHILE before marrying Brian.
Best of luck to you!!!! Just hang in there!

[DanaBride]

I completely understand about MONSTER FMILs. I have one of my own, and she constantly tries to take over the planning of my wedding, and I have just found that I have to be honest with her. I was raised to respect my elders, so I never raise my voice or talk nasty to her, but I am completely honest, that is the only way she understands my point. I try to keep in mind that this is my FH's mother, and that my actions will be remembered for a lifetime. Good luck, I know it is easier said than done.
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