Grrrr! Sigh.... It's burning a hole......

[CarlosHoney]

Out of the smilie options for the title, the Grr face was closest to what I'm feeling. It's more like :bbconfused: + :realmad: + :bbcry: + :chair:

Well, we got the Income Tax Return! Good news, I know.. The thing is, it came in this morning, and I've been looking for stuff for 2 WEEKS!! I've been shopping around online, and making sure I knew EXACTLY what I wanted. Well, I have it all sorted out, and Carlo won't leave me the card number. We have one debit card, and he has it in his wallet (he needs the card to get lunch)...

I told him to leave the card number with me so that I can order a few things today. Oh, no, we need to talk about it all first. I know, I get a little spend-crazy, but I haven't done that in at least 6 months. I've been waiting and waiting, and it is agony not to be able to get the few things that I wanted.

I didn't get that bracelet after all for christmas, mainly because we were not doing so well financially, and it was like, bracelet or food.. So, seeing as I was great big huge preggo, I took the food (though I would have taken it anyway..).

So, I picked out the makeup, my undergarments, some of the decorations for the wedding, a few little things for Elias, OUR WEDDING RINGS, and I was hoping to order pizza for lunch. Well, that's not going to happen.

I only have to wait until like, 3pm, but It's driving me crazy and I haven't slept all night. I know, it's materialistic, but we haven't had the free money to go shopping in a year. I really was looking forward to him trusting me enough to let me buy a few nice things for myself.

So, instead of going on a 6am shopping spree, I'm going to go to bed. That's right. I haven't slept. I knew that the money would be in today, and I wanted to go nuts (just a little).

I guess I have 9 hours to sleep, and then refine my choices. Sigh.

[CarlosHoney]

Well, he just called me, and gave me the number. He said "Keep it reasonable. You've made a lot of sacrifices for us this year, you deserve it."

Yipee!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Valmai]

Glad your cheques arrived and u can now go spending - enjoy it and have fun spoiling urself - like Carlo said 'u deserve it' xxx

[brewsells]

Yeah! Carrie gets to go shopping! I already got and done spent my returns a long time ago. Had some bill catch up to play.
I do get to go shopping this weekend though, so I can't wait for that. Boys are out of town so the girls must play. :D

[Jenn060306]

Thats sweet that he called back and gave it to you because you deserve it. You do. Esp. since you are doing alot of the planning on your own.
Happy Shopping Carrie :D

[Kacie_bride]

Yeah you get to go shopping!!! I haven't even done my taxes yet. Poor Justin has to pay the IRS $400. It's not like he hasn't given them enough all year! Oh well. I should get most of what I paid in back.

[WhiskeyGirl]

I'd be so excited!! I love shopping!! Have fun!!

[StaceyMc]

Is it a joint account? If it is, then why in the world is he the only one with a debit card?

I'm glad he gave you the numbers, but still....that sucks that he kind of made you beg for it.

Although, I can see his point about talking about what the cash will be spent on, but he really shouldn't have waited until the money came in to pull that on you.

[CarlosHoney]

IT was just little stuff, and I don't have an account. My credit is SHOT. We used his account so we would get the money in 2 weeks instead of 6, and yeah, he's a little bit of a tightwad..

I didn't really beg for it, though, I did give him the "Yeah, okay. That's fine." Translation: Yeah, okay, you don't want to get laid.

[CindySue]

IT was just little stuff, and I don't have an account. My credit is SHOT. We used his account so we would get the money in 2 weeks instead of 6, and yeah, he's a little bit of a tightwad..
Brian is a tightwad too. Thats why we keep our money separate. He has his, i have mine and we have "ours" that we pay bills out of. I can be a little careless with money, but not very often and never to the point that it gets me in trouble.

I didn't really beg for it, though, I did give him the "Yeah, okay. That's fine." Translation: Yeah, okay, you don't want to get laid.
I do that too!!!!:bbredface:

[CarlosHoney]

It seems that we share a lot of traits, Cindy... Could it be a TX thing?

[fotogrllt]

If I were in your shoes, I would buy a good pair of running shoes and run the other way fast. Only one debit card. Hello, red flag. Can we say control freak hubby to be? I just hope that wedding ring he places on your finger will not be a tight as his wallet will be after your married. Also, you might want to invest in a few writing pads, because he will probably, if not already, want a list of all the things you do to deserve getting his money from him. Been there, done that. Wish you the best of luck.

[WhiskeyGirl]

If I were in your shoes, I would buy a good pair of running shoes and run the other way fast. Only one debit card. Hello, red flag. Can we say control freak hubby to be? I just hope that wedding ring he places on your finger will not be a tight as his wallet will be after your married. Also, you might want to invest in a few writing pads, because he will probably, if not already, want a list of all the things you do to deserve getting his money from him. Been there, done that. Wish you the best of luck.

I'm sorry but I do not think you deserve to make this judgement on Carrie!! Please keep your negetivity to yourself!!

[brewsells]

I agree! You may want to read a little more into the posts and journals of people before passing judgement. Thanks, Carrie!

[WebLady]

I do think that couples should be able to talk about money ... ya know, most problems in relationships stem from money related issues?! My DH and I have separate accounts but we still talk about how and we spend our money and what we spend it on. I don't spend money without talking to him and he doesn't spend money without talking to me. I sometimes spend too much at the grocery store and he gets upset with me about that, so I make him go with me ;)

So Carrie, are you saying you don't have access to the account? Could you get money if you were to need something for the baby and Carlo was at work or something? That would be the only thing I would worry about.

My parents only have one ATM/Debit card for their joint account and it seems to work for them ... well, they do fight about money alot.

:goodluck:

[CarlosHoney]

Thanks guys!! I feel loved! :bbmrgreen: Yeah, I wasn't going to dignify it with an answer.. But thanks Ladies!

[Kacie_bride]

If I were in your shoes, I would buy a good pair of running shoes and run the other way fast. Only one debit card. Hello, red flag. Can we say control freak hubby to be? I just hope that wedding ring he places on your finger will not be a tight as his wallet will be after your married. Also, you might want to invest in a few writing pads, because he will probably, if not already, want a list of all the things you do to deserve getting his money from him. Been there, done that. Wish you the best of luck.


Right now my FH only has one credit card, one debit card, and one ATM card. We have lived together for almost 3 years and I am not on any of his accounts and he is not on mine. We plan to do the joint thing after the wedding, but as of now it works this way just fine. I mean you are entitled to your own opinion, but perhaps you could have worded it a little nicer than that. Carrie has been nothing but really sweet to everyone on here and what you said was down right rude.

[blueeyedbride]

Did you get to orer what you wanted to? Share with us...:bblol:

[CarlosHoney]

Sure did! Of course, not all of it, but there are some things that I really have to get in person.. And the details are all in my journal.