wedding with no favors???

[lisa826]

has anyone been to a wedding where there were no favors? I've been racking my brain to try and think of something that is inexpensive and wont get thrown away, put in a closet, or left for me to take home. I love the idea of favors and you ladies have come up with some really great ones, but i hate the idea of spending money for something most wont use.

[sweetvenus]

You could donate the money to a charity. Then put a little explanation on the tables about it. Edible favors are also usually popular and don't go to waste.

[EarlyBird]

stacey is doing one that is "wishing you wishes from the mr and mrs" and it is a lotto ticket . i think these are good when you want something that people will enjoy!

[EarlyBird]

but i have also been to a wedding where they did the southern tradition of "grooms cake" in a box with the traditional poem where the single women sleep wit it under there pillow and it will bring them lovve

[lisa826]

but i have also been to a wedding where they did the southern tradition of "grooms cake" in a box with the traditional poem where the single women sleep wit it under there pillow and it will bring them lovve

i have never heard of this but it is such a cute idea. i would use it but there really aren't any single women in either of our families that are over the age of 16.

[Measha]

My personal rule on favors is that is has to be "usable" be it something edible like chocolates or other candy / food, or something like soap, etc.

As I tell people, yes that glass coaster with your names and wedding date on it may LOOK nice, but it's going to wind up in closets all over the country most likely never looked at again. Except perhaps by your mothers.

I hope no one takes offense at that :sweatdrop:

As to a wedding with no favors. I think that you should always have some kind of favor. Yes you are putting a lot of money into this event already, but your friends and family are putting in a lot of time and effort to be there, and often will be giving you some very nice gifts. So a small favor that says "thank you for coming" is just a good thing in my book!

[brendalin]

I would recommend some kind of favor. It is an easy way to save a couple bucks, but people notice when they aren't there. we went to a wedding last june and people still talk about how they had no favors at their wedding!

[Hope75]

We are doing donations in leu of material gifts for guests. My father had a recent stroke and so we will probably donate to the American Stroke Association.

[mitch]

I never did wedding favours at my first wedding. It was never thought of or even noticed as missing. Maybe it's more of an American thing than what we do in England.

I don't know if theres even any other Brits here to confirm or deny it.

Anyhow. This time round i am doing favours. Only little ivory net bags with 5 sugared almonds in each to represent Health, Wealth, Happiness, Long Life and Fertility. Then hand tied with Black and Red Ribbon.
Infact i ordered my sugared almonds a couple of hours ago on eBay.

[FFC]

Yes, I went to one with no favors... I wasn't impressed.

[animal.crackers]

I personally wouldn't care AT ALL if there weren't favors, but my favorites would be scratch tickets and flower bulbs/seeds (even a little baby sapling tree to plant?). Something edible would be popular, too, I am sure.

[Heywie]

I have been to a wedding where they didn't have any favors. At first I thought it was weird, but then I realized that I'm better off not having some junky thing sitting around my house.

For favors, I definitely think something edible or useful is the best way to go. I love the idea of scratchers because you are bound to have a few winners in your guest list!

[tawni8806]

I've been to a wedding with no favors, everyone was talking about it AT the wedding.

I think you should have some sort of party favor to thank the guests for coming, and Im sure they'll be spending more on you than that $1 you'll spend on their favors.

:)

[mobdilemma]

My daughter and her FH chose to donate to the Lance Armstrong Foundation. (She was very close to my dad who had colon cancer). The foundation sent cards which say that a donation has been made in lieu of traditional favors. We also chose to get some of the LiveStrong bracelets to use as "napkin rings". The cards are hard to read in the photo (shaky hands, I guess) but you get the idea. We printed the thank you message on the outside of the envelopes.
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[Deanna2112001]

I've been to a wedding with no favors, everyone was talking about it AT the wedding.

I think you should have some sort of party favor to thank the guests for coming, and Im sure they'll be spending more on you than that $1 you'll spend on their favors.

:)

I was thinking of doing no favors. But doing a candy buffet. Do you think they will still expect favors?

[ladymelissa]

I could go either way with favors. The fact that you are giving everyone a wonderful dinner with drinks to celebrate is favor enough, IMO.

The people that would complain about a lack of favors are just petty, annoying and have even less etiquette. You are the host, it is your party and if you don't have favors, that is your choice.

Also, there are so many wedding favors I have received that have ended up in the trash, so it isn't a big deal, IMO.

[BillsBride]

We were going to do flower seeds, then I realized "who is going to use these?".

So we are going to make a donation to a charity. :D

[tawni8806]

I was thinking of doing no favors. But doing a candy buffet. Do you think they will still expect favors?
You know, I don't think they'd expect favors for a candy buffet. Personally, I am planning on doing both. It may be unnecessary though.

I would look around for something with a good price if money is the issue. I got personalized little boxes with my wedding colors, pink and silver. They were 100 for 39.95 and I am going to put hershey kisses in them. I'm planning on setting them by the candy buffet so when they get their candy, they'll get a box.

It's cheap, but I think people will notice I thought about them. It's completely your decision though. If I were at a wedding and there was only a candy buffet, I'd probably be ecstatic though. I LOVE candy.

[mitch]

We dont plan on doing a Candy Buffet. (I had to think about how to type that because in the UK we don't have Candy, we have Sweets lol)

But we do have a number of children coming so we are doing a Kiddies Table just for them. A little lower and full of yummy goodies that all kids love.

If i was to name them it would probably go "WHOOSH" over all the American heads here. LOL

They do look fun though. Very colourful and a great addition if you so choose.

[vannadear]

No Favors=No Fun. I've been to a lot of weddings and usually you get bored sitting there waiting for the bridal party, a candy or something to nosh or play with is a must, even if it's not much favors are pretty essential!

[Deanna2112001]

You know, I don't think they'd expect favors for a candy buffet. Personally, I am planning on doing both. It may be unnecessary though.

I would look around for something with a good price if money is the issue. I got personalized little boxes with my wedding colors, pink and silver. They were 100 for 39.95 and I am going to put hershey kisses in them. I'm planning on setting them by the candy buffet so when they get their candy, they'll get a box.

It's cheap, but I think people will notice I thought about them. It's completely your decision though. If I were at a wedding and there was only a candy buffet, I'd probably be ecstatic though. I LOVE candy.

Where did you get your boxes from? Thats a great price!

[panny]

No favors?!!!
Party favor are the way to show your thank you to your guests.
If your party favor are unique and useful it will enlighten the party,
chose some useful party favor so your guest will display or use them.

[SerendipityCrafts]

No favors?!!!
Party favor are the way to show your thank you to your guests.


I realize that you sell favours but, I do have to agree with Melissa, and the other's on this one. It's certainly not a faux pas, NOT to give a favour.

I happen to sell signature platters BUT I also realize that not everyone has the need for a wedding guest book.

The fact that you are giving everyone a wonderful dinner with drinks to celebrate is favor enough, IMO.

The people that would complain about a lack of favors are just petty, annoying and have even less etiquette. You are the host, it is your party and if you don't have favors, that is your choice.

[LoLo62808]

After reading this poem I feel like I may have skimped out on my favors. Although I did put them in a pretty box with tool and a message from us, this is our favor:

A spoon filled with Hersey kisses, wrapped in celophane, tied off with silver ribon, attached there is a message that says:

We thank you for coming
with a spoonful of kisses
to celebrate out beginning
as Mr. and Mrs.!

Is this too simple? I also have candles all over the place that the guests are welcome to take.. :sigh: we'll see I guess!

[Deanna2112001]

After reading this poem I feel like I may have skimped out on my favors. Although I did put them in a pretty box with tool and a message from us, this is our favor:

A spoon filled with Hersey kisses, wrapped in celophane, tied off with silver ribon, attached there is a message that says:

We thank you for coming
with a spoonful of kisses
to celebrate out beginning
as Mr. and Mrs.!

Is this too simple? I also have candles all over the place that the guests are welcome to take.. :sigh: we'll see I guess!

I think its great. That was my first idea.

[mitch]

I happen to sell signature platters BUT I also realize that not everyone has the need for a wedding guest book.

I nearly fell off my chair then!!

Signature Platters? Oooh how posh does that sound LOL

We're having a Guest Book. We thought it would be good to read back at peoples comments and best wishes etc. Plus our friends are in a band and it'll be hilarious to see what they put. They signed a gig poster for my Birthday once (The gig was on the actual day) and the things they put down can not be repeated here :bbeek: LOL.

[jsaug12009]

My girlfriend just got married 6/7/08...we bought seed packets -- 4 for a dollar and then we made little bows in her wedding colors and cut out little tags with fancy scissors with the following saying:

May these seeds
blossom and grow
for you as our love
has for us!

It was cheap and really was a big hit.

My other girlfriend got married in May of last year...she gave two naturalizing lilly bulbs for each guest, wrapped in tool, with tags with their name and date .

I am giving evergreen trees -- a little pricey, but my wedding is small and I wanted to stay "green" and not copy my girlfriends ideas. They are about $1.00 a piece and we're going to attach this saying:

"Today is a day for love and life.
A beginning for us as husband and wife.
New love needs attention to grow and survive,
And with care and affection, will flourish and thrive.

The same holds true when it comes to a tree,
It needs nourishment and some T.L.C.
In time you will find that this seedling so small,
Will strengthen and grow to be mighty and tall.

The cold winds will blow and the branches will bend,
But a tree that is strong has the power to mend.
Though times may be tough through the course of our years,
We'll grow stronger together through laughter and tears.

Please keep this young seedling and in some small way,
When you watch as it grows, you'll remember this day.
You're the family we love and the friends we hold dear,
And we're so very happy to have you all here."

:) Just some ideas...ranging in price and keepen' it green!

[Rainbow Brite]

I could go either way with favors. The fact that you are giving everyone a wonderful dinner with drinks to celebrate is favor enough, IMO.

The people that would complain about a lack of favors are just petty, annoying and have even less etiquette. You are the host, it is your party and if you don't have favors, that is your choice.

Also, there are so many wedding favors I have received that have ended up in the trash, so it isn't a big deal, IMO.I 100% agree with you.

We skipped favors altogether and nobody cared. Between the candy bar, noise makers, guestbook and hor d’oeuvres, they had plenty to keep themselves busy with while we took pictures for 30 mins after the ceremony.

[mitch]

I 100% agree with you.

We skipped favors altogether and nobody cared. Between the candy bar, noise makers, guestbook and hor d’oeuvres, they had plenty to keep themselves busy with while we took pictures for 30 mins after the ceremony.

Exactly true.
But knowing our lot they might just end up having a Bun Fight.

:drunk::drunk::rofl: