PDA

View Full Version : Frederick Michael & Sarah Rose


MrsFuchs09
05-18-2008, 07:49 PM
I guess I'll start with information about us.

Names: Frederick & Sarah

Nicknames: Rick & Sara (Birth certificate spells it with an 'h,' but everyone, including myself, is too lazy to spell it like that. :ooh:)

Ages: 19 & 17 ( I guess I'll be honest, we're very young but we're completely serious. We'll be 18 and 20 on our wedding date. Please, I don't want to hear any concerns, you don't know our relationship like we do and I get enough pressure from everyone but my parents. I thought it'd be the other way around, but they're completely supportive.)

How We Met: In the beginning of my second year of HS, I was eating outside with my friend during our free period. Rick was a senior. He was playing hacky sack near us with his friends (I actually became friends with his friends before I met him, that's why my close friend and I were sitting outside while they played.). He started talking to my friend and I. A few days later, I saw him again in the cafeteria and started talking to him. I forgot his name. I called him Brian, he laughed and corrected me. I had a boyfriend (4 months, not long.) at the time and my then boyfriend came up to me and kissed me. Rick looked upset. We continued to be friends, then my boyfriend dumped me soon after (for the third time, the four months was on and off.). I was really upset. Rick was there for me. Our friends told me Rick liked me, and it was obvious (his flirting techniques weren't very subtle.). One day, during Christmas break, we hung out for the first time outside school. It was just him and me. We ended up hanging out everyday after that. He helped me a lot with getting over my ex. Eventually, we stopped talking about him because I had moved on. We started talking more about ourselves. Then one night, while hanging out at my house, we kissed. We've been together ever since. It was different than all my other relationships (I started dating at 12, having relationships that lasted between 4 months-1 year. I've had about seven boyfriends before Rick, and went on dates in between.) It wasn't love at first sight, which I believe is really infatuation at first sight. I fell in love with Rick's personality, funniness, sweetness and friendliness. I didn't feel the same way as he did until I got to know him. He's not my first love (The relationship that lasted a year when I was 13-14 years old was, but I was far too immature then to treat him right.) but I believe we have the best love, b.c of the way I've matured with him and I now know how to love someone. I don't think our age has anything to do with it. It depends on the maturity, and we both have a lot of it.

Proposal: (I guess I'll just copy and paste the post I wrote in the Wedding Poll thread.) We were taking a walk outside around my block at 12 A.M. We talked about our futures. We spoke about what we wanted. When we reached a spot under a streetlight, he got down on one knee and said something along the lines of, "Sara, I love you with all my heart. I want to spend the rest of my life with you, and I hope you feel the same way. Will you marry me?" I said yes, he smiled and picked me up, spun me around. Then we ran back to my house holding hands and laughing. Five minutes after, I had to sneak a text and tell one of my closest friends, who's now one of my bridesmaids. There's no ring yet, but he tells me he has a surprise, but obviously, won't let me in on his idea. :ooh: (I'll let you know.)

Wedding Date: September 5th, 2009

Other Information: We set a follow up appointment to book our chosen reception site on May 27th, 2008. I've been paranoid about this, but Rick tells me constantly this is what he wants. I've always been second guessing our choice. Its going to happen though. It's a beautiful site; right across the street from a lake.

My friend (also a junior bridesmaid; she'll be 16 at the time of our wedding.) asked us if she could sing a song for us at the reception. We both replied with a yes. Good thing she has a great singing voice, otherwise it'd be hard to tell someone we care about no. I found out what she is singing, though I wasn't supposed to. She's singing "Who's to Say," by Vanessa Carlton. It's about two young lovers feeling like no one accepts them, but are defending their love for each other. It's sweet because after all the BS I've heard from people at school, I feel like that song describes us in a way.

One person actually came up to me and said Rick and I were going to get devorced! She's never saw us together, much less ever hung out with us. So how would she know? That'd bugged me. I think she's just jealous because she can't see her boyfriend, who's 25, because she's only 17. Hey, when I'm a mom (don't worry, Rick and I are waiting until after college to bring a new life into the world.) I'd never let my 17 year old daughter OR son date someone who is EIGHT years older than them. But anyways, when we set the date and announced it, she actually acted as if she was going to be invited. I don't want to be mean, but...I don't want someone who doesn't even support us to be at such a special day. That's understandable, right?


-SRM

MrsDM
05-18-2008, 07:53 PM
I can't wait to hear more! Congrats!

EarlyBird
05-18-2008, 08:49 PM
congrats. fh was 21 and i was 18 when we STARTED dating- not much older then you guys, and i would have married him then :) I dont think age ALWAYS has something to do with marriage. There are times where it poses more risks and problems and is just not right, but it seems like you love each other and know what your doing, so dont worry :) no lectures or anything.. just the best of luck and i cant wait to hear more~~

have you chosen colors or anything yet?

Nekochanpurr
05-19-2008, 12:08 AM
I agree, i was only a sophomore in high school, Steve was a senior when we started dating. That was 8 years ago (that would be yesterday.. Since its midnight now!! hehe). Congrats!! i can't wait to see your guy's ideas and stuff!!

MrsFuchs09
05-19-2008, 06:07 AM
Surprisingly, I didn't have a dream about weddings last night. I've been getting those kinds of dreams a lot.

My brother told my mother that he'll be coming home next month, instead of July. We wanted to have our engagement party when he was home, but I don't know the exact dates yet. So we can't exactly pick a date for the party.

Our colors for the wedding will MOST LIKELY be Light purple and light blue. I think they go good together.

Another thing is, I think for a wedding gift to Rick, I'm going to buy him two tickets to a WWE wrestling match. He loves WWE. Either that, or tickets to a Ranger game. I have a lot of time to think about it though. Because the tickets would be for AFTER the wedding.

Thanks everyone. It's nice to get support from other people. :D

-SRM

MrsFuchs09
05-19-2008, 03:40 PM
I'm a film production addict. I'm attending the Academy of Art in San Francisco two years after the wedding. Film production is my forte. :)

I've already made numberous slideshows/videos to be shown at either the engagement party and the reception. I figured it would be cute to show Rick and me when we first met, our first kiss (yeah, it was on camera. By accident too. But that just goes to show how much I have my camera on me.), etc.

I'm thinking I should buy a new camera (Rick's a salesman at P.C. Richard & Son., so I'll get a good deal. Plus, he'll get commission.) and "document" our planning.

Plus, having a nice new camera will be nice. :D

Edit: These aren't for the reception or the engagement party, but they're videos I made of us during our relationship. I made the first one about a month ago. The second one was made last year.

Old Music Videos of Rick & Me: (If You'd Like To See.)

Video One (Click.) (http://youtube.com/watch?v=vB5XgmfMXIM)
Music: Stolen by Dashboard Confessional
Info: We were playing basketball at my house. I recorded it with a really cheap digital camera, which had about 2 pixels. BAD quality.

Video Two (Click) (http://youtube.com/watch?v=zCqsuWGwNzQ)
Music: Only One by Yellowcard
Info: This has different clips of us in the beginning of our relationship. It's pretty old. I was 15. Rick was 17. I'm 17 now, he's 19. So it's almost two years old. This is bad quality (NOT AS BAD AS THE FIRST. Haha.), only because it was ripped off a DVD I made for Rick for our third month anniversary. Also, it's cut off a little at the end. It's only missing about twenty seconds, maybe less, of the video.

Tell me what you think. :D There's also more videos if you want to see those too. Just click on my username on Youtube.

mandaj10
05-19-2008, 03:57 PM
By chance, I found this cake and decided to share it with you, since its in your (potential) wedding colors and all :)
http://i7.photobucket.com/albums/y254/kimonogirlamanda/wedding%20ideas/large_image-13.jpg

MrsFuchs09
05-19-2008, 04:20 PM
Oh, wow! That's veryyy pretty. Where'd you find that?

mandaj10
05-19-2008, 10:00 PM
Photobucket, actually! :grinhappy:

MrsFuchs09
05-20-2008, 06:30 AM
I'm going to show that picture to Rick. Maybe we could get a cake like that. But we still have some time to worry about a cake.

Yesterday a Pastor at a local Christian Church contacted me. I set up an appointment for June 10th, 2008 at 4. We'll get to meet with him. Hopefully, we've found an officiant for us. A religious one, which is great. I'm very religious.

Last night Rick and I attended a wake for a young girl in my school. She passed on May 16th. This was Rick's first wake, with an open casket, so I could tell he was feeling a bit nervous. He didn't know what to do when we got up there. I guess he forgot to remember to kneel and say a short prayer. It was very sad. I knew her, not well though. My prayers are with her family and her twin sister and little sister. Her identical twin must be in shock right now. I couldn't imagine.

-SRM

Nekochanpurr
05-20-2008, 02:13 PM
I couldn't even imagine losing my twin sister. :( I'll pray for them, too..

MrsFuchs09
05-21-2008, 05:03 PM
I'm thinking instead of hiring someone I don't even know to record our wedding, I'd just ask my tv production teacher. He's a professional and I've seen his work. He's great. He knows I'm engaged and I'm sure he wouldn't mind filming it. And the equipment for the class is top-knotch. We have about 25-30 Mac computers with Final Cut Pro: the new version. And we just got brand new Macs this week for next year. And we have professional Sony cameras they use in making todays films. The cheapest camera we have is about 10,000 dollars. So it's not like we'd a DVD of our wedding recorded by a 500 dollar camcorder.

It's a two year course, so I'll still see him everyday next year. The wedding is soon after my second year ends. So, I'm thinking about asking him.

Hopefully he'll say yes. I've seen a DVD he was making for a wedding he recently recorded. It looked good, professional and romantic.

I'll let you guys know.

-SRM

MrsFuchs09
05-23-2008, 09:55 AM
Last night, Rick and I went bowling with his best man and two of our ushers.

I was talking to his best man about the bachelor party he's going to be planning. He asked me if he was allowed to hire a stripper. I told him if Rick was comfortable with it, it was okay by me. I said, "It's going to be Rick's last night to have a party like this without being married, so do whatever you want with the party as long as he doesn't drive drunk, cheat or get hurt. I trust you guys."

Which is true. I trust Rick with my life so I deff. trust him enough to not do anything stupid. Normally, I wouldn't be okay with this but it's a bachelor party, I want Rick to have fun.

His best man then asked Rick what he thought, and Rick said he didn't care, he just wanted to spend time with the guys.

Did anyone else allow the best man to hire a stripper? I don't mind. It's not like this is going to happen ever again. And besides, while they're at the bachelor party, I'm going to be spending the night with my bridesmaids.

MrsFuchs09
05-24-2008, 04:11 PM
A few weeks ago, I made these really cute cards for five of my closest friends. I started sending them out, but I forgot two. So I'm sending them out today.

The cards had pictures of me and whoever's card it was. Then it said, "You are a FRIEND" and then it had words, starting with each letter in "FRIEND" to describe them written on the side. At the bottom it said, "Okay, what I'm trying to ask you is..."

On the back it said, "Will you be one of my bridesmaids?"

My MOH had a different type of card. It said something like, "A bride's...best friend. A bride's...right hand woman. A bride's...other half." Then under that it said, "I love you like crazy....Will you be my Maid of Honor?"

All the girls knew I was engaged. So hopefully, the girls who didn't get their cards yet, expect it. I'm having a total of 5 bridemaids, including the MOH. Three of them already accepted.

-SRM

MrsFuchs09
05-25-2008, 09:37 AM
We're going to start planning our engagement party this week. My mom is going to be hosting it. It's going to be casual (bbq anyone?) and hopefully Rick's extended family will get along with mine. :ooh:

I'm guessing Rick's going to invite his MOM'S side, because he barely talks to his dad and his dad's side. He can't invite both though, that's for sure. They all hate each other and his parents are in the middle of a devorce.

Also, my bridesmaids and his groomsmen are coming. My MOH won't be able to come, she's in NC right now. :(

I told Rick to ONLY invite people who are going to be invited to the wedding. He doesn't think sometimes, so I was afraid he would, then be forced to invite them.


A few people on here suggested I write a letter to my brother (who's in the service.) and tell him about Rick and me. We're planning the engagement party for when he's on leave next month. (That's why it's so soon.) And it'd be risky to not tell him because he does have access to myspace, AIM, etc. So one of my cousins might slip or something.

I started writing the letter last night, I'll finish it now and send it by Tuesday.


More later.


-SRM

MrsFuchs09
05-26-2008, 01:41 AM
Rick's mother tried to commit suicide this morning (She took a lot of pills), for the seventh time since Rick was 12 (So in 7 years.) She's fine. She's in the psychiatric center at a local hospital.

I stayed with her from 3-9 today while she was in the ER. For an hour and a half of that time, Rick wasn't even there. He went back to the house to get clothes and her glasses and other things.

I gave her as much support as I could and telling her how we were all going to get through this. Her and I are very close but she wasn't acting like herself, because of the pills in her system. When the social worker came in, he asked her something about Rick and me and how she felt about us getting married. She said something like, "I don't want them to get married until after college, but she's pushing for marriage."

She slurred her words as she said this and it was obvious she didn't know what she was talking about because right after she said that she added, "They love each other so much...I give them my blessing."

I can't begin to tell you how much the, "She's pushing for marriage," comment hurt especially because she KNOWS Rick and I have been talking about this for months and she KNOWS I'm not the controlling kind of girl. I've always told Rick, and always will, that if he feels he's not ready, I want him to SAY SOMETHING. Not in the nine months we've been engaged has he ever said he didn't want this. He wouldn't have proposed if he didn't want this.

For the rest of the night I just sat there dumbfounded...



I keep trying to convince myself she didn't mean it and she was just drugged up but it MUST HAVE come from somewhere inside her head, drugged up or not.

I feel sort of betrayed, because she always tells me I'm so good for her son and how much she knows I love and respect him. She always calls me her future daughter in law, even when we weren't engaged....And a MONTH after we started dating she told us she wanted us to get married. Rick and I just sort of brushed that off because we were too caught up in the joy of being in a new relationship (I'm sure you all remember how that feels because I sure do.)

ALSO--As soon as Rick called me to tell me she was there, I rushed over to be with them. And I helped her use a bed pan because Rick felt uncomfortable for crying out loud. Ugh, I'm too upset and frusturated to write anymore. I'll keep you updated. I'm going to visit her tomorrow at 2:30 while Rick's at work. I'll tell you more then.

-SRM

Nekochanpurr
05-26-2008, 01:53 AM
Honey, shes not in her right mind right now, and you are obviously doing what you can (and more than really they should expect from you).. You shouldn't feel bad about it. Don't have hard feelings, i know you can't help it but.. :( I hope everything gets better!

MrsFuchs09
05-26-2008, 03:44 AM
Thank you. I spoke to Rick about it. He said the same thing. And it will get better, in time, it's just-I hate waiting for it to get better. :snide: Does that make sense?

Nekochanpurr
05-26-2008, 03:58 AM
Perfect. It just takes time. I know how you feel though, in general, at least. When my aunt was sick (breathing problems, she was going outside and doing her flowers when she wasn't suppose to.. Her asthma got REALLY bad and she was too shakey to even walk for a while) i couldn't wait for her to get better, and i would constantly ask about how she was doing and try and do what i could.. But these things just take time.. =/
BTW: it wasn't because i didn't want to see her that i didn't go over there a lot.. She doesn't like people over while shes down.. One of those kind of people who doesn't like looking weak. But i loves her anyway. *^^*

MrsFuchs09
05-26-2008, 10:58 AM
One of those kind of people who doesn't like looking weak. But i loves her anyway. *^^*

That's exactly how I am. I'm such a loner.

MrsFuchs09
05-29-2008, 12:33 PM
I saw Rick's mom on Monday, as planned. She totally forgot about everything and right after I got there, I was talking to a nurse and I heard her voice say my name quietly. I turned around and she was smiling and sitting in a wheelchair. I smiled at her and told her I'd be right there, and continued to tell the nurse something important. As the nurse said something to me, I heard Rick's mom say proudly to the nurse pushing her in the wheelchair that I was her "future daughter in law." She said this twice.

Yesterday when Rick and I went to see her, she was finally walking on her own and she introduced us to other patients as her "son and his fiance." That felt good. :)

Hopefully, she'll get out soon and I'll let you guys know.

Rick and I made a wedding website the other day, it's a few days old, here's the link: http://cs01.ewedding.com/v30/?a=FutureFuchs09/

THE RECEPTION IS BOOKED. We're so happy. We gave our down payment and after leaving the site, we ran to his car laughing like stupid ten years old in love. It was so cute. Rick picked me up and spun me around, like he did when I said yes to his proposal. I can't believe it! IT's OFFICIAL.

I'm so happy. :D


-SRM

MrsFuchs09
04-14-2009, 08:24 PM
I stopped posting on here because I had been so busy. I made a wedding blog recently, www.youngandinlove2107.blogspot.com (http://www.youngandinlove2107.blogspot.com)

Mrs.Goff
04-14-2009, 10:59 PM
I love your dress. I was going to sign your guestbook on your site but I couldn't find it.:bbredface: