Registry?

[nikki mei]

My future husband and I have lived together for 3 years and have 2 kids. We have everything we need except a bigger house or a new bedroom set. I know these are items too big for one person to buy. We are planning to register with Perfect Wedding Wish. com an online registry where our guest can look at our wedding page and donate money for our new house or bed set. My friend did it and she loved it and received 1800!! I donated on her site and was really neat and easy. Should I send this out to everyone? or just close friends and family? Is asking for money rude? We do not need anymore stuff there is not enough room!!

Thanks,
Nikki Mei

[RosieAngel]

Hi, welcome to Onewed! I hope you have lots of fun here!

I also have been living with my fiance for a few years, so I understand your not wanting to do a traditional registry! But it is considered to be rude to ask for money or tell your guests about where you are registered if they haven't asked first, because that implies that you're expecting gifts from them.

Generally, what etiquette dictates you do is:

1. Tell your maid of honor and/or parents who are involved with the wedding and let them spread the word while interfacing with guests,

and

2. Let guests ask you where you are registered. As a repeat wedding guest, I always ask the bride where she is registered, and send checks in lieu of presents if they want/need money more than gifts.

Good luck!!

[FFC]

You can register at a honeymoon place! People can buy you activities to do on your honeymoon. The cool thing is that everything goes onto one prepaid visa card and you can do whatever you want on your honeymoon.

[Nikita706]

You know, I'm really laid back and easy going, and it wouldn't bother me one bit to see something like this. However, my Mom was just talking about it the other day and how rude she thinks it is when people ask for money instead of gifts at weddings. She said she even thinks those 'dollar dance' things are rude. I guess it just depends on who you ask. I wouldn't think twice about it, but there are people out there who might think poorly of it. It's up to you though! The way I see it, if they have a problem with it, they don't have to donate anything!

:cloppy:

[emredhead76]

If you have a wedding website, you could always add a link to it. I like the idea of the honeymoon Visa cards too.

[Nekochanpurr]

We've been living together for two years, but are still using a registry.. Is there anything you need to replace? Cookware, etc? Stuff you bought that wasn't the best quality but you needed at the time? Stuff that was a hand me down and not in the best shape? Thats how we are doing it.. Just asking for some stuff to replace... And praying people give us $$ for the rest so we can put it toward our honeymoon!

[kmd3]

I suggest not registering anywhere and have your wedding party and parents spread the word about saving for a honeymoon. I have found some very simple poems to use to hint at it without sounding greedy or rude. You could print one of those on a seperate paper and slip it in the envelope on your invites.

Here are a couple of ideas:

This wishing well is here today for family and friends. Take an envelope, make a wish, for the couple, will come true. A token for the couple to help them begin, will be welcomed too. Please take the time to make a wish before the day is through.


Now we are to be Mr & Mrs
We don’t need a wedding list of dishes
We have two kettles, two toasters, two microwaves
We require a house for which we have to save.
If you would like to give us a gift,
A cheque or vouchers would give us a lift
We like to think of it as our ‘wishing well’
Which will be filled with your love, we can tell.


We’ve been together for a few years now;
We have pots and pans and linen and towels;
We have glasses and toasters, really quite a few;
So instead of more gifts, we suggest this to you;
If it doesn’t offend and it won’t send you running;
What we would really appreciate is quite simply money;
We know choosing gifts can be such a pain;
And this way there is no chance of bringing the same
If you was thinking of giving us a gift, to help us on our way.
A gift of cash towards our house, would really make our day.
However, if you prefer to purchase a gift, feel free to surprise us in your own way.



To save you looking, shopping or buying.
Here is an idea, we hope you like trying.
Come to our wedding, to wish us both well.
And bring this small sack, to throw in our wishing well.
Fill it with paper all colours will do, gold is our favourite but silver will do.
Now that we have saved you, all that fuss.
We hope you will come, and celebrate with us.
(bit similar to one above)
To save you looking, shopping or buying.
Here is an idea, we hope you like trying!
Come to our wedding, to wish us both well.
And make some use of our little wishing well.
Just put some money into a card,
Now make a wish…..see that wasn’t hard!
Now that we have saved you, all that fuss.
We hope you will come, and celebrate with us.
Please don’t be offended at this type of request,
As our day will be complete having you as our guest.


We don’t want to offend but we have it all,
All household goods and so much more.
To save you shopping, sit back and rest,
A gift of currency is our request.
Don’t go overboard or rob any banks,
Any little thing will make us smile with thanks.
We supply the wishing well,
No wrapping, an envelop who can tell.
Now that we have saved you all the fuss,
It would be appreciated if you would come
And celebrate with us


More than just kisses so far we’ve shared,
Our home has been made with love and care,
Most things we need we’ve already got,
And in out home we can’t fit a lot!
A wishing well we thought would be great,
(But only if you wish to participate),
A gift of money is placed in the well,
Then make a wish but shhh don’t tell!
Once we’ve replaced the old with the new,
We can look back and say it was thanks to you!
And in return for your kindness, we’re sure,
That one day soon you will get what you wished for.


Please don’t be offended at this type of request,
As our day is complete having you as our guest.