Help!

[Dawn]

My fiance and I dont wanna do a religious ceremony, but I dont know who would marry us. The only weddings I have been to are religous ones. If someone is not looking a religous wedding who does it?

[CindySue]

Well you can get a judge to do it, or depending on what state you live in, a notary could do it too.

[Dawn]

Do I have to know the judge? Is anyone here not doing a religous wedding? Maybe I should just get a pastor to do it. Do you guys think that would be the easiest?

[brewsells]

You always have this option as well... Adam and I are getting married in a Prybeterian church (although neither of us is religious). We talked to the Pastor and he is willing to do a nondemoninational ceremony. The traditional vows.
you have alot of options with the officials. Check around.

[Dawn]

You always have this option as well... Adam and I are getting married in a Prybeterian church (although neither of us is religious). We talked to the Pastor and he is willing to do a nondemoninational ceremony. The traditional vows.
you have alot of options with the officials. Check around.

Are you guys going through the marriage therapy?

[brewsells]

We have to meet with the pastor twice. He just wants to be sure we understand what marriage is about, blah, blah, blah. We have met with him once already and it was fine. He knows that we are both spiritual people, but not religious and he respects that. If you know anyone that goes to a church like that, talk to them. That is how I found this guy, and I really like him. Plus, pastors are usually a little more laid back and willing to work with you. from what I have found, anyway. That way you are able to get married in the church, but your way. Know what I mean?

[CindySue]

Are you guys going through the marriage therapy?
Its not required in our state but Brian and I sat down with our officant this past weekend and discussed a few things. Most of the premarital therapy we have done has been by ourselves. I know that sounds stupid, but we had a sheet of the "tough" questions, sat down answered them separately then discussed our answers together.
As far as knowing the judge....no you dont have to know them. Justices of the Peace marry people they dont know all the time. Most will even come out to your sight for an additional fee. Just call around.
Ive got a friend thats a ordained (non demoniational) minister and he preforming our ceremony. While ours is a bit religious, he is doing it OUR way. Most will do it YOUR way and if you dont want this or that, then you wouldnt get it.

[WhiskeyGirl]

There is always the Justice of The Peace!! We are not religious people and we used a JP!! We did not need to know him, infact my DH and I picked him out of a list of names we found on the internet that was for our area!!

[Dawn]

Thanks ladies! :)

[Jenn060306]

My FMiL got married this past summer and a Minister preformed the ceramony and it was not religous in any way.
You can probaly find someone online or in the yellow ages, or ask where you would go to get your marriage licence. I;m sure the staff would know of some people who preform non-religous ceramonies.

[officiant-fica]

Check out this site see if you can find an officiant in your area........
http://www.onewed.com/vendors.php?category=125&state=VA&submit=Search&name=vendors

call a few, ask a few questions. Most officiants should be willing to perfrom a secular ceremony. Good Luck! If you have any questions feel free to ask. I think a couple of the brides here are doing secular ceremonies.

[usahgrad]

We are not doing a religious wedding, but upon my mother's request, we are having a "man of god" officiate. We found someone who was totally flexible and didn't require any silly courses or for us to be a member of the congregation (to top it off, he's only charging $35 total!). So look around...

OR maybe you could ask someone close to you to officiate and then have them "ordained" online. It's legal and it can make for a very special wedding. Sorry if I'm repeating something someone already said...I'm kind of skimming...Gilmore Girls is on in 15 minutes! :)

[Kacie_bride]

I know when I went to a bridal fair they had lots of booths of officiates that just do wedding ceremonies. I think they are ordained ministers, but they are nondenominational. Also I had a friend who got married at a chapel and they had a person who worked at the chapel that did the ceremony. Then like everyone said, there's always the JP.

[CarlosHoney]

My FFIL got ordained online through the universla life church. He married FH's cousin.. It's an option that is free! If you know someone who would be into that, it might be a nice wedding gift. And did I mention it's FREE?! :bbmrgreen:

[brewsells]

The pastor who is marrying us is doing it for free, just charging us $150 for the use of the church