Dumb guys

[Kacie_bride]

Today has been the day of really dumb men. Here goes. I live with my fh and we also have a roommate who happens to be his best friend. We have lived like this for a little over a year now and I'm getting tired of it. We will be here until the wedding at least and then depending on where I get a job we will leave. I like our roommate, but I'm tired of living with him. But I'm getting away from my intentions of the post.

One of the guys that they both grew up with and are good friends with is gettitng married on May 6th. Our roommate wont admit it, but he is really upset that both of his friends are getting married in the same year. That's also besides the point, but I'm getting to it. So their friend is getting married in May and I asked today where they are registered at. I don't know if she is having a shower or not, but I wouldn't be invited because the girl and I aren't really friends. I've only met her once or twice. Our roommate said that he didn't know and he wasn't going to ask for me. Luckily my fh is going to call and ask for me. But our roommate works with him so he could have easily asked today because it's hard to get him on the phone. (Justin tried once today, but couldn't get him.) Then I asked him what he was going to get them. He said that it was stupid to get people something when they get married. He said in case I haven't noticed this isen't tv and in the real world people don't do all that crazy stuff. Actually he didn't say he wasn't getting them anything, he said he wasn't getting them :censored: . This is supposed to be his friend and he is the best man! And he is supposed to be Justin's best man in our wedding! He already said he is refusing to do the best man's speech. Usually it is the girls that give the drama, not the guys.

I am going to try to get a job away from here so we have to move. Neither one of us like it anyway. Like I said, I like him, but I don't care to live with him anymore.

[Jenn060306]

hmmm he sounds a bit bizzar. I don't think i would like living with him either.
It seems like he doesen't really care about other peoples needs and only cares about himself. You would think he's be honoured to be the best man and be looking forward to making a little speach. Has he ever been to a wedding? I don't think i've ever been to one where people didn't buy the bride and groom gifts. I was a little thrown off by his comment that in the real world people don't really do that.
Well, good luck with finding out where your FH friends are registered. If you can't i'm sure you will find somthing really nice that they would appreciate.

[LaceyinPgh]

Your roomie seems a bit distraught that his single buddies are happy and getting married. It is just a case of jealousy. He probably feels that you and this other girl are taking his friends away from him. Put your foot down. If he is refusing to do his duties, fire him. One of the main jobs of the best man is to do the best man speech at the reception. When he says something like he did about the gifts turn around and say something back to him. Point out that he is acting like a spoiled child or an :censored: Is he gay, beause he sounds like some catty old woman.

[CindySue]

Your roomie seems a bit distraught that his single buddies are happy and getting married. It is just a case of jealousy. He probably feels that you and this other girl are taking his friends away from him. Put your foot down. If he is refusing to do his duties, fire him. One of the main jobs of the best man is to do the best man speech at the reception. When he says something like he did about the gifts turn around and say something back to him. Point out that he is acting like a spoiled child or an :censored: Is he gay, beause he sounds like some catty old woman.
I have to agree with Lacey.....hes jealous. Hes losing his buddies and while I dont know if guys do this, but when my friedns had someone and I didnt, I felt like someting was wrong with me. Maybe hes a little depressed because hes alone.
I also agree if hes not doing his duties...then fire him. BUT.......if he has a phobia with speaking in front of a large group of people, its not fair to try and make him. You could leave him as attendant, just move him down a notch. If hes just being a jerk......well we have ways of dealing with those...:chair:
Good Luck!

[Kacie_bride]

Yes he has been to a wedding before. If he does not want to do a speech I will probably get my over talkative :D MOH to do it. LOL she's great! It's not like he can't get anyone either, so I don't know why he would feel like something is wrong with him. He just likes to play women, but does not want a relationship. He's already said he's depressed because I don't have many single female friends or family that will be at the wedding. He actually acted happy when last week I told them that one of my bridesmaid's boyfriend broke up with her. The poor girl got her heart broken (she was so in love with this guy) and he was happy!

I think you are all right about him being jealous, but it's stupid because I have been wtih Justin for almost 4 years now and we've lived together for almost 3. The other couple have been together since they were in the 8th grade and they are 24. They've lived together for a year. And even if we weren't getting married now I am still graduating in December and I am still looking for a job away from here. So either way, we would be moving. We talked about moving before we got engaged. He's dumb!