Wedding Superstitions

[WebLady]

I am not a superstitious person but I try not to bother other people that want to play that game. What does bother me is when someone pushes it on others ...

At the rehearsal I did for the wedding this past Saturday, someone on the groom's side came in half way through and said (where the bride could hear) "You are not suppose to be practicing, it is bad luck! You should get the MOH to take your place" :bbrolleyes: The bride went on and the lady sat down and just started whispering about me (since I was the coordinator) and how I was going against all kind of things :bbrolleyes: The bride didn't care and really neither did I but I just hate people like that.

Then, on the wedding day right before we were going to move the bride, she tells me she forgot her 'Something borrowed, something blue, etc' (I had asked her if she was going to do this weeks before and made suggestions to get it all covered) and then all the girls and the Mob started freaking out. I took the bride to the side and asked her how important this superstition was to her, she thought about it and said not to worry. I mean, yeah it is cute and all, but if you get to the point where you are moments before you are walking down the aisle and haven't gotten it together, then let it go, it isn't going to doom your marriage!

Oh, I almost forgot ... there was another one about putting on all the pieces of the wedding attire before the big day. I did another wedding not too long ago and we were trying to make sure the jewelry looked good with the dress (earlier in the planning) and I mentioned to the bride to wear it when she went for her final fitting. Her friend was like NO, YOU CAN'T! They didn't do pre-bridal portraits before the wedding day and the bride didn't even want the hair dresser to put on the veil, she wanted me to put it on her right before we went out ... I did what she asked but, OMG people come on.

OK, I think I am done venting about that ;) Thanks for listening and I am sorry if I upset anyone that is big on this kind of thing.

[Kacie_bride]

I'm not all into the superstition things. I am going to do some of them like the something old, something new business, but just because I think it is cute. I probably am going to have someone stand in for me at the rehearsal too and I am going to just observe. I don't think it will doom you if you don't follow these things, but to me they are just fun. I defiantely wouldn't stress about it like some people do.

[WhiskeyGirl]

Oh great I guess that means our marriage is doomed! I did all those things that a person isn't supposed to according to superstition!! Oh wait!!! I don't care!! lol...me and my DH are what makes our marriage work, not some superstitions!! lol... Like Brandi, sorry if I offended anyone, but hey!! Its the truth!!

[Valmai]

The only person who is going to see my dress etc before the wedding is FH, this isnt going down too well with everyone but like u i dont believe in most superstitions, some i follow cos i want to do them and im fine with others doing them as long as they dont try and force me to! xxx

[Jenn060306]

Wow. I have never heard of any of those. That woman must not be very secure in life to fall into beliving that stuff. I really wouldn't want my MOH standing in for me. That sounds silly.
I want to do the somthing new, somthing old, somthing borrowed, and somthing blue because i think its a neat idea. I honestly thought i was more a tradition rather then a superstision.

[LaceyinPgh]

My mother is the world's most superstitious person. I on the ohter hand could care less. She freaks out over everything. According to her my marriage is doomed because Sean saw my tiara and shoes. Oh weel, it's been a fun a ride to this point. I hate to clog up the divorce court system, but what are you going to do? If you want to watch her break down into tears just mention that Sean and I will be seeing each other the day of the wedding because we both want to come home from the rehersal and get a good night's sleep in our own bed.

[brewsells]

I have never heard of the bride not doing the rehersal or that you shouldn't put together your outfit before. The old, new, blue thing is the only one I intend to do. Not because I am superstitious, but it's more like tradition. People are really crazy about all this stuff. No wonder weddings are so stressful!

[CindySue]

We have certain members of Brians family that are superstitious, but he went through everything EXACT before and the marriage still didnt work, so they are leaving him alone this time.
Im with you Lacey, Brian and I are spending the night before at OUR home, in OUR bed. And while I really dont want him to see me after I start getting ready until I meet him at the alter, thats only because I want to surprise him. I toyed with the something old, something new thing for the same reasons as Kacie, Jenn and Holly.....its a tradition and its a cute idea. Theres not a whole lot of traditions in my wedding as it is because.....well I just dont care for most of them. If its something I like, then we will use it.....but its because I WANT to.....not because I feel I have to.

[LaceyinPgh]

If I happen to work out hte something old, new, borrowe, blue thing then that is great. But it isn't something I am planning. My mother didn't speak to me for over a week because I am not wearing a garter or putting a penny in my shoe. Nor am I doing a bouquet or garter toss at the reception. Of course my mother has followed every wedding superstition to the hilt and has been married 4 times. I don't think that she is capable of giving out advice on how to make your marriage lucky.

[CindySue]

We arent doing the bouquet or garter toss either. If Im not mistaken, there may only be 1 single guest there except for the kids. I have thought about dedicating a bouquet to the longest married couple there. Which will be Brians grandparents. I think theyve been married close to 75 years. Ours is probably the last wedding they will be attending since they are both in their late 90s.
IF I wear a garter, its going to be later.....after all the guest have gone home and Im enjoying my wedding night!:bbredface:

[Kacie_bride]

If I happen to work out hte something old, new, borrowe, blue thing then that is great. But it isn't something I am planning. My mother didn't speak to me for over a week because I am not wearing a garter or putting a penny in my shoe. Nor am I doing a bouquet or garter toss at the reception. Of course my mother has followed every wedding superstition to the hilt and has been married 4 times. I don't think that she is capable of giving out advice on how to make your marriage lucky.


Yeah, I've known several people who followed these traditions and their marriages didn't last either. I'm doing the ones I want just for fun.

[ikkin510]

I don't believe in any of the superstitions either. Steve knows what dress I picked by seeing the picture on line. But he will not see ME in the dress before the wedding. We probably won't see each other before the ceremony that day either, just because we don't live together yet and with having an early afternoon ceremony, there just is too much to do before hand. I haven't decided if I want to do the something old tradition. If I find the stuff, great, if not, no biggie.

[CindySue]

Im just glad we have the new house with 2 bathrooms. I could see us BOTH trying to get ready for our wedding in that teeny tiny bathroom at the old house!!!! We probably wouldnt be getting married after the fight I could see us getting into over whose turn it is to use the mirror!!!!

[countrygirl]

I have to say, I am slave to those silly super's. For us, it's been fun doing them. I guess it just depends on the person.

[WebLady]

... I want to do the somthing new, somthing old, somthing borrowed, and somthing blue because i think its a neat idea. I honestly thought i was more a tradition rather then a superstision.

Yeah, it is mostly a tradition but some people think it is bad luck if you don't follow it :bbrolleyes:

I think if you want to do these things for the fun or tradition of it then that is fine. But if you get obsessed and actually think you will have back luck because you don't do it ... well that is just not me.

My DH and I spent the night before the wedding together and we didn't do most of the traditional stuff and I heard some slack about it but I just don't care. I know our marriage will work because of us not because of some superstition.

On another note ... I knew a girl once that didn't go to work one day because there was a stray black cat on her door step when she got ready to leave :bbrolleyes: Silly Silly Silliness to me ;)

[CindySue]

My granny used to be really superstitious. Then about 4 years ago there was like 3 or 4 "bad luck" things happen in one week, a black cat, a broken mirror, spilled salt, etc. We had to hear all about it because I think this woman was really terrified.:bbconfused: Well anyway she was talked into going to play bingo that weekend (her friend told her if something was goimg to happen, it was going to whether she was at home or out enjoying herself) and she ended up winning almost $1000. We havent heard anything else about "bad luck". She would even pet our black cat when she came to visit.;)

[ikkin510]

When I was helping my mom look for kittens the other week, the only thing she said she didn't want was a black cat. She was afraid if she got a black cat, all she would have is bad luck. :bbrolleyes:

[AngelinLove]

Wow, I never even heard of some of these superstitions, like having someone stand in for you at the rehearsal...that's just weird to me...I mean you are the center of attention...if anyone should rehearse shouldn't you. Anyways I will do the something old/new/borrowed/blue thing, only because I think it is cute. I think that some people really go overboard with that stuff, but hey...whatever sinks their ship..right!!!

[officiant-fica]

Wow. I've never heard of some of those superstitions! I guess my marriage is doomed too..............:bbfrown: And I had a penny, if only...........
My mom is SUPER-supersticious! And my grandma was worse. I mean you trow that salt over your left shoulder id so much as one grain spills, and if you touch her with a broom while you are sweeping, WATCH OUT! I actually love superstitions, but I understand where Weblady is coming from. It should not guide your life.

[rainbowtreat]

I am with every one else. If I do any of these it will be beacuse they are cute and fun. Nicholas and I wont see each other after we go our seperate ways the night before. He will be at my moms and I will be at my sisters. It is a very small town and the chance of running into him is very good. But we just htink it is a cute idea seeing we live together and have only spent one night apart in the year we have been living together it will be exciting to think that the next time I see him I will be marrying him.

[usahgrad]

Well, the sixpence for my shoe was my mother's way of making me wear shoes down the aisle. She went out and found a REAL SIXPENCE! She claims it's to highlight our Scottish heritage (like anyone but the girls who put it in there, my mother who bought it, and me who's walking on it, is going to know it's there!).

Some old, new, borrowed, blue I have to admit is being done for superstitious reasons; but it's not like I'm going out of my way for them; old: my ring (it was my FH's great grandmother's), new: my diamond earring my FH got me for valentine's day (he's so sweet!), borrowed: my mother's pearls (I was going to wear them even if I already had something borrowed...they're important to me because they're one of the last things my father gave her---well, those and E.T.; sorry Steven Spielberg, I won't be wearing your movie down the aisle), and blue: I made my garters out of the same fabric as my bm's dresses only in blue. No, they're not even close to perfect, but they'll work. Everyone keeps asking me why I have two. "You only throw one." Yes, but garters are made to hold up your stockings and you wear a stocking on each leg...silly people.

Anyways, I refuse to wear my veil the same time as my gown. Not so much I'm afraid it's going to curse anything, but because I want a moment the day of when I'm all ready and I look in the mirror...I really want that moment when it's just me looking at how gorgeous I am; I'm kind of stuck on myself.

Lastly, my FH will not see me the day of my wedding, but not because of bad luck; because it's fun! I get to be a great big secret all day and that excites me!

So, while I am extremely superstitious (I have to touch a knot when I'm going over a railroad track--long story) all of the bridal superstitions I am doing for other reasons. I guess when you really fall in love with someone, you know there isn't anything you could do to "curse" your marriage.

[CindySue]

I realized last night that I AM following one superstition! Around here its considered bad luck to wear your wedding band before you are married. Brian had wanted me to wear the whole set when I got it, but I didnt want to. I just wanted the engagement ring. I wore the whole thing before me and my ex got married and well that didnt work out so good.

[Kacie_bride]

I don't wear my wedding band yet either. I had to wear it when I picked it up after being sized because I didn't have the box with me! I had to walk around the mall with it on. It was pretty, but I felt bad about wearing it before the wedding. I have also heard it is bad luck before you are engaged to wear a ring on your left ring finger because it means you'll never get engaged then. Well I know for a fact that's not true because I wore rings on that finger all the time before I got engaged and look at me!

[WhiskeyGirl]

I don't wear my wedding band yet either. I had to wear it when I picked it up after being sized because I didn't have the box with me! I had to walk around the mall with it on. It was pretty, but I felt bad about wearing it before the wedding. I have also heard it is bad luck before you are engaged to wear a ring on your left ring finger because it means you'll never get engaged then. Well I know for a fact that's not true because I wore rings on that finger all the time before I got engaged and look at me!

i think its more that a man might think you ARE engaged!! My friend does that and I'm like "Dude do want guys to think you are engaged??" keep in mind this girl has never had a steady boyfriend and is 28!!!! She just finally had her first sexual relationship like three months ago!! (kinda one night stand with a guy she's known forever!!) She keeps telling me she doesn't have to worry the one night stand will pull through, I'm like "dude all he wants is nooky!! And if guys see you with a ring on your left finger, they are so NOT going to approach you!!" We come from a college town, believe me its TRUE!! Sorry I'm rambling again! I'm having a hard time not this morning! lol!