Unwelcomed Guest

[Shawna Bride]

I sent out a few invitations to some of my employees I had at my old job. I invited 4 of them that I was close with, but I dind't invite them with guest, since really we didn't have room on the list, but I did really want them to be there. 2 of them replied with guest, and one of their guests is a guy I really really don't like.

Is there anything I can do, or just leave it?

[usahgrad]

Hmm...I can't help you out with this one. I'm not sure how to handle it and I'm dreading the moment that I figure out that we had too many rsvps because someone brought a guest who wasn't supposed to. Let me know how you handle it! :)

[LaceyinPgh]

You just have to call them. Explain to them that you are thrilled that they are able to make it to your wedding. You are so excited about getting to see them. However, the room and the budget are at capacity. You really are looking forward to the big day and getting to share it with them. But you hope that htey understand that you can't accomidate their guest. You aren't being rude by doing this. They were rude for just assuming you wanted their guest there.

[officiant-fica]

I agree with Lacey. But I have to add one thing. Be ready for them to decline your invitation. And don't let it make you feel bad. Eventhough it is rude for them to assume they are intitled to bring a guest, chances are they will find it more rude that you didn't offer to allow the guest. Or you can jus opt to leave it alone (if you feel you can afford an extra couple of guests) because you are going to be so busy chances are you won't even have to talk the guy you don't like. Good Luck!

[Shawna Bride]

I find it so rude that people assume that they can just bring someone to a wedding, when it's not very cheap to just add someone. Drinks and food are running around $100/person.
I am going to call and feel them out, to see if I'll mention something.

It's so annoying.

[Kacie_bride]

$100/person! You defiantely need to call them and let them know you cannot afford the extra person. And I agree it is rude to assume you can bring a guest. If you wanted them to bring a guest you would have put "and guest" on the invitation. Perhaps you should let them know how much per person it is costing you and that you cannot possibly add any more people.

[WebLady]

I agree with the above posts ... I would call and tell them that you are sorry if the invite was unclear (putting it off on yourself my lessen the blow ;)) but your budget will not allow you to accommodate their guest. They may still get made and think you are the one being rude but just blow it off. Most people don't understand what weddings cost and they think "oh, what can one more quest

So did I read the first post right and one person that was 'allowed' a guest invited someone you don't like? If that is the case, that is a real tough one, you may not be able to say much there :goodluck:

[CarlosHoney]

Yep. You'll have to just tell them, "So sorry, but no way".. On our response cards, I designed it so that there's a space for me to fill out their names and the ammount of places reserved for their party. It's rude for them to assume.

Good luck sweetie. I hope you get it all straightened out.