Fight coming

[LaceyinPgh]

I have a feeling that there is a fight brewing in our house. Sean's parents expect us to all be at brunch tomorrow morning. We weren't invited, Sean was told and told to tell me. I'm not going. First I don't do something that is ordered to me. Secondly, I really hate them. They both think that htey are God's gift to humanity. His mother will do anything to point out htat she is better than you. (She is subtle about it too.) And frankly the woman drinks too much. After hearing his dad talk about pornos at Thanksgiving I really don't care to rehash the conversation. Besides what they did to me in my home on Thanksgiving and then what they did at Christmas, I still haven't gotten over it! I'm not going. I think tonight might be the night when Sean finds out how I really feel. I can't believe that people like that gave birth to Sean and his sisters. Genetics is weird sometimes.

[CarlosHoney]

Aww! Hun, I know exactly what you feel like. Same here. Carlo came home from work, told me that he turned down the posistion that he was going to take (it was overnight, but it was only for 2 months and it would have allowed me to stay home with the little man) after we talked about it and he agreed that he wanted to take it.

So, here it is, 6:30. He came home three hours ago, dead tired and said that he didn't want to go anywhere. We need to go to the store to get some diapers. When he got home I let him know that we were running low. So, he gets a call from this guy who runs the indian ceremonies saying that he needs help with one that is going on tonight, and Carlo jumps up and leaves. There's nothing but Ramen here in the house, I have 2 diapers left to last me 3 hours, and he doesn't give a :censored:!

I know that it's not going to be pretty when he gets home. I have a feeling that I'm going to be in the restroom holding the baby over the toilet, because he's going to burn through his diapers, and I'm going to be one steamed mama.

I think the plantets are alligned in such a way that it's going to spell disaster tonight. I'm sorry about your FIL's. That stinks. I think you'll have to tell them eventually, though, that if they want to be part of your life, that they will have to treat you with respect, and not talk about subjects that are inapporpriate.. And that they're going to have to stay this side of sober. :bbconfused:

[LaceyinPgh]

Carrie I am so sorry. There is no reason to be left at home with a baby and no diapers and no food. It wouldn't have killed him to run to the grocery store or to even stop on the way home. My in laws are bad but I only have to look at them every 6 months or so. Carlo kees a swift kick to the :censored:

[CarlosHoney]

Yeah. I agree. He's taking me to eat and to the grocery store as soon as he gets back.

He just does anything that this guy asks. He buys all kinds of Native American Church stuff from him, and comes over any time he calls. Tonight there was a sweat lodge. Carlo had decided that he wasn't going to go, because it's really tiring and hot in there. It's like a Sauna, only completely dark and way hotter.

Well, this guy calls and says that he doesn't have anyone to tend fire (which involves a lot of hard work) and Carlo just gets up and goes. He asked if I was okay with it, and I told him that it was up to him. He knew that I didn't want him to go, it was obvious.. We were all in bed taking a nap and he woke me up to ask/tell me about it.. I was totally groggy when he left, and called when he was en route to remind him that we were running super low on diapers.

Elias has slept for most of the time, so I think I'll be fine on diapers, but I don't really think that he understands yet. I'm going to have to leave him with Elias, all alone, a few times before he gets it. Seriously.

I found a can of Broccoli Cheese soup in the cabinet (at least a year old...) and had that, and I'm making some Peanut Butter cookies. So, I'm alright on food, I'm just, :bbmad:!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Good luck talking to your man, Lacey. They should at least invite you personally, if they really expect you to be there... What kind of gathering is this? I mean, birthday, anavarsary, other? Just curious..

[CindySue]

Lacey, Im sorry about you FiLs.....they sound like my XiLs. Carrie, I know exactly where you are coming from.....been there done that and it totally sucks. Youre right though.....leave him with the baby alone.....he will eventually get the picture.
Good Luck girls......Ive got some really loud and obnoxous friends of Brians on their way over and Im trying soooo hard to stay in a good mood.

[rainbowtreat]

Good luck to all of you ladies. I actualy had a good day. We went to eh ETC. Shoppe today and I found a new pair of black boots. Mine are old and worn and I have been looking for a pair but wasn't having any luck. This shop is a second hand shop that is huge. I wish I had $400 extra. They had a sleeper sofa that looked brand new. And it was soooo comphy. I have that old hard wood set that has the foam cushions.:bbconfused: I hate this set but it was given to me free when I got this place a yr ago. Now somethign like this set will not stay at that store for long. And what ever money we get right now has to go to the wedding. They had the matching love seat for about $275 I think. Even had the throw pillows to go with it. The set would be around $700 but to buy it brand new would be closer to $2000. I WANT THAT COUCH! Ok sorry. ( i can see me hijacking this thread :bbconfused: sorry dont hit me) Then we ( the 4 of us ) went out to eat and then to the movies ( this never happens, way to expensive ) to see Shaggy Dog. It was actualy pretty good.

Again hope all you ladies have a better day tomorrow, well for Lacey the next day. I wish you all luck.

[CarlosHoney]

Yeah, I'm lusting after some new furnature myself. Ooooh, Ikea!!!!! :drool:

Yeah, it stinks. I don't like it when he does this, but he's off till Monday, and I'm going to go out somewhere without him this weekend. He needs to get the picture, fo' rizzle.

So, the income tax will be in on the 17th. Got an email to that effect today. Wish it woulkd be here already, but it's all good. My mom called to apologise. Things are still a little tense, and I told her that she better not lie to me anymore. I'm not going to put up with it.. But the invitations have already been printed w/o her name on them. Oh well. She's not paying for anything anyway.

Well, cookie time!!

[Jenn060306]

I'm sorry people are telling you where to be. That sucks. I've been through that before where Mark's mom doesen't really call to tell us what's happening. Most of the time we have to call and find out what is going on for the holidays. :bbmad: I really need to know what's going on so i can make plans with my family. Grrr.
I hope everything works out for you Lacey.

I'm sorry that Carlo isn't being more considerate of you and Elias Carrie. I really wish guys understood that they need to help more and be more available. Mark's sister is home alone from 9am-9pm with 3 kids almost everyday. Then the guys go away for a weekend or play hockey etc and she's home alone some more. I would love to take her away for the weekend. I think she needs the break.

Is there a full moon coming up or somthing?! Mark called on his way home from work tonight and we got talking about what we were going to do. I really want to go work on the registry because there is a shower coming up and we don't have much on it. Anyways. He was saying that we were invied to go back to his bosses house (who is also his BiL's father) for brunch after mass. But i am thinking we don't have time and we don't have to go every week just because we were invited. Plus i want to stop by my mom's because they are leaving for Las Vegas on Monday for 2 weeks and we're supposed to get together for dinner with a friend. I was so fustrated by him thinking the wedding stuff wasn't important and thinking that we could just stay at my mom's for like 15 minutes. So i hung up on him. I couldn't talk to him about it on the phone any longer.
It must be one of those nights. :bbconfused:

[officiant-fica]

Lacey, how did things go? Did you get it resolved? I hope so! You in laws sound like my husbands in laws. I try to make sure he can avoid them when possible.

[LaceyinPgh]

Sean is getting to smart for me. He won't get into a fight with me anymore. I think he has finally figured out that I am stubborn and I don't have an off button once I get started. Oh well, time to change up the personality to keep him on his toes!


Anyway, his mother or dad called right after I posted this yesterday evening. Ironic, huh? So he asked me if I was going with them. I plainly said no. I didn't care if he went but I wasn't going. So while he is holing the telephone with them on the other line he is going, "Please go. Why won't you go? Please just come." I told him that once he hung up the phone we could talk like rational adults, I didn't feel like an unseen audience. So he gave some answer and hung up.

He then asked me why I wouldn't go. So I told him. I have been very uncomfotrable around his mother since Thanksgiving. I was hurt that I hadn't been apologized to for it yet. His response, "My dad said he was sorry." My response, "First you dad didn't do it. Secondly he didn't say. 'I'm sorry.', he made an excuse that your mother was upset that night." I expalined that the way that they treated us at Christmas (to the point of calling Sean at work and yelling at him like a child) was unacceptable. His father's topics of discussion were totally out of line. Basically I listed everything.

Sean then points out that he feels stuck in the middle. I pointed out that before we got engaged I got along well enough with his parents. I still get on very well with his sisters and brother in law. But ever since I got that ring his parents have chucked any sense of decency out the window. (At our Christmas party his dad didn't even speak to my mother the entire they sat in the same room.) I'm sorry that he feels stuck in the middle. I wouldn't make him pick between us. The reason that I am not going is because I don't want him stuck in the middle. Eventually I will get extremely tired of them and blow up. Sean doesn't need that in his life. I am very impressed at how calm I have remained for his thus far in the last year. I am however at my breaing point. I think he got the point and understands. Hopefully he will say something to them this afternoon. I also pointed out that my own parents don't make demands on my time, his need to learn that they can't either.

Of course after we discuss this, I walk to the back of the game room to do some laundry and the phone rings. I don't really pay attention because if it is for me I'll be informed. Anyway, *** the washer stops running water all I hear, "Don't start. She doesn't want to come. Just let it go." I started to say something but I had avoided a fight to that point so I let it go. I'll see what he says this afternoon when he gets home.

[WhiskeyGirl]

Dealing with inlaws can be such a pain in the @ss!! Every time I have to do something with my (evil) SIL my DH just about has to drag me kicking and screaming to it!! I love my MIL and FIL, its only my SIL that I hate but I can totally understand where you are coming from!! Hope it all works out, I'm glad that Sean said she doesn't want to come so don't start! Hopefully he will hold onto that attitude and response when he has to go see his family!!

[officiant-fica]

Lacey, sounds like it worked out better than you thought it would. I've done a wedding where there seemed to be no interaction between the couples parents. I could tell it was awkward for the couple. Hopefully his family comes around and starts acting decent. At least you got Sean out of the deal.:)

[CarlosHoney]

So, Lacey, what happened? I know what you mean, though.. My IL's HATE my mom.. It's mainly because of all the lies. She promised us her mini-van, since it was just her and my brother (now it's just her) and she doesn't need all that space. We have a baby, and we need a nicer, safer, newer car. Well, she promised it to us, made excuses for a few months, and then would change the subject when I brought it up. So, Carlo's mom can't stand my mom. They get along with my Dad though, which is nice.

Please!! Tell us what happened. I'm dying to know!

[LaceyinPgh]

Npthing too dramatic happened. Sean came home, mentioned his sister was pregnant. I say mentioned because that is about all that was said. Then we watched some of the NCAA tournament high lights. He helped me with the invite wax seals. Then we had dinner and watched the Sopranos. Sean isn't one to fight. After I expalined to him how I felt I think he understood. I didn't ask what his mom said. With Kelly's news I very seriously doubt that he pulled his parents aside and talked to them. I can't blame him there.

My parents are more upset than anything. They don't understand why I want to keep putting Sean in the middle of fmil and I. I keep trying to expalin to them that I am just ignoring her. If i wanted to put Sean in the middle I would have started soemthing with her long ago. Or I would have done something like thrown a fit that he went yesterday. I told him to go and have a nice time. Just because I am unhappy or uncomfortable in a situation doesn't mean that he has to avoid it.