Bad day...

[WhiskeyGirl]

So right before the Dh and I went out today we get a call from his mom. My DH's dad is in the hospital....again!! His leg has been bugging for like a month now, now they think it could be a blood clot AGAIN! When they helped us move (3 weeks ago) his leg was bugging him and he went to the hospital here. They thought it could be a blood clot back then, but then said no and released him from the hospital!! Gawd, I hate hospitals!! Last night his foot was turning blue and he was having problems breathing but of course being the stubborn German man that he is, he refused to go to the hospital. My MIL made him go this morning and they told him to go a bigger city hospital right away!! (didn't send him in an ambulance even though it is serious!! Thats our Canadian Tax dollars at work right there!! BOO!!!) Anyhow, they told us they were sending him back to the small town hospital in an ambulance (maybe its not serious after all??? I'm confused!!) and we haven't heard anything since!! Holy cr@p , I don't know what the heck to think!! The DH and I have been fighting back and forth today, I think he's worried about his dad but he won't say anything!! Men!! Well, I just needed to get that off my chest...you know how it can make you feel better sometimes! All I hope is that it isn't my FIL's cancer coming back!! The doctors say its a miracle he is even alive!! (he had lymphnode cancer five or six years ago!! You shouldn't live after having that kind of cancer! Most people die within a year of being diagnosed!! And this is without having chemo or radiation or anything but taking homeopathic meds!! Now I know why I believe in them more then anything else!!) Anyhow, I guess I've rambled on enough!! I'll shut up now!

[ikkin510]

Shawna, I'm sorry to hear about you FIL. I'll keep him in my prayers. Keep us updated!

[Jenn060306]

Hi Shawna,
Sorry to hear about your FiL. Hopefully they will be able to take care of him and he'll be ok. Surviving lymphnode cancer is really great! My brother passed away from it when i was little. It's not pleasant. Your FiL sounds like a very strong man. I really hope he can beat this!
Best Wishes for you and your family!

[WhiskeyGirl]

Thank you both for your kind words!! Yes, Lymphnode cancer is a doosey!! I'm sorry to hear about your brother! Thank and yes please keep him in your prayers!! They say he has two or three blood clots right now! He's not allowed out of bed and is not supposed to move in fear they will float up into his heart or brain! I'm scarred and hope everything will be alright!!

[officiant-fica]

Shawna, i hope it all goes well. I always thought the Canadian health care sysytem was better than the american private health care system. Guess I was wrong. Anyway, I'm sending good thoughts your way.

[sjp]

Sorry to hear things are tough for you right now. I celebrated my 20 anniversary last Aug and have seen lots of sickness, death and setbacks in that time. The best advice I can give you is: remember things always DO get better. Remember also that men are funny creatures-they dont like things they cant fix, and if they cant fix it, they get mad. Dont take it personally!
And, as for the health care system-well, 1)The indians were using herbs and roots long before all our new meds so they must've known somethings we've since forgotten & 2)I don't know that Canada is any worse than here but it doesnt sound like its as good as it once was...

[brewsells]

Sorry to hear about your FIL, Shawna. I had to go through a similar thing with my FFIL. It really sucks. I will keep you in my prayers.

[LaceyinPgh]

How are things going Shawna? Bloody clots if caught early usually aren't that big of a risk, they can get them to break up. I hope things are better for you.

[WhiskeyGirl]

Well they figure they will keep him in the hospital for a week at least! The unfortunate part of all this is that he had this pain and swollen leg for a month and I kept telling my DH that he should go to the hospital, that it was a blood clot, but no one wanted to listen to me!! Its a real wake up call for him, telling him to slow down and that he isn't a kid anymore!! They say the blood clots are in his groin area now, they started in his leg!! The night before he went to the hospital he had labored breathing and my MIL didn't call 911 most likely because she can't really speak english when it comes to an emergency!! (big reason to learn to speak english!! I think!!!!!!) Anyhow, my MIL tells my DH that he looks horriable and that she thought he had died that night! He can't move incase the blood clot dislodges, he is too weak to move (good thing because of the blood clot!!), he breaks out in a sweat when he tries to eat....the list goes on!! All my BIL worries about is seeding which is suppose to start in about a month!! I could smack him! His father is in the hospital fighting for his life and all he can think about is getting the crops in!! Gawd!!!

I'm sure we will get another update today!! Its just hard because my DH's sister is in the hospital in Austria because she had her baby 5 weeks early and the baby is in an incubator!! I tell you, its no wonder I have stress!! I'm always worried about my Dh's family members!! Oh and MY dad goes in for surgery early next month!! Last night at supper I sat at the table and bawled!! I feel so extremely overwhelmed!! I am worried my dad won't come through his surgery because he doesn't have the best health!! God, I am so scarred right now!! This isn't helping anything that we are going through with our whole infertility either!! Man, it seems that when it rains it pours!! I tell you, I really need SOMETHING to relieve just a tiny amount of the stress I am under!!

Ok sorry ladies! I got to rambling! It just feels good to talk to people that I think might care ya know!! I haven't spoken to my mom and my best friend is mad at me because HER life sucks and its all MY fault!! Go figure!! Anyhow, again I am rambling! Sorry!

[ikkin510]

Shawna, I'm so sorry everything seems to be going wrong right now. I will definatly keep your entire family in my prayers. Please continue to keep us updated. Also, I just wanted to add, that in the US I know 911 centers have what's called a language line. So if someone calls who does not speak English they can connect you to someone who will translate for you. You might want to call and ask if the centers up there have that. It might help your MIL in the future.

[WhiskeyGirl]

I'm not sure they would have a "language" line there! They are from a quite small town and I do believe all 911 calls go either to the cop shop or the local fire station!!

[LaceyinPgh]

Well certainly someone needs to sit her down and teach her how to say her address in English. Once she calls they are obligated to show up. Most places now have the technology to trace the call so they have to check it out.

[WhiskeyGirl]

Well certainly someone needs to sit her down and teach her how to say her address in English. Once she calls they are obligated to show up. Most places now have the technology to trace the call so they have to check it out.
Oh she knows that!! (Actually its a legal land description they live out in the country on a farm) I think her thing is that if she gets nervous she stumbles over her words and thinks she can't do it! I mean I guess she can speak more english than I let on, I just don't think in an emergency situation she could get much out about what is happening! I've spoken to my DH and he said he is going to talk to her about it!! She has been getting better but those are the times when it counts!!!

I kind of think that it was my FIL telling her not to call because he is such a stubborn man!! I get so mad and tell my DH "what good can he do the rest of us if he is DEAD!!!" We need him too much!! And yet, he just never gets it through his brain!!!

[Teribridetobe]

Shawna,

I hope everything goes well! I will keep you and for future family inlaw in my thoughts!

[WhiskeyGirl]

Shawna,

I hope everything goes well! I will keep you and for future family inlaw in my thoughts!

I'm already married! They are already my Inlaws...lol...just so ya know!

And thank you for your kind thoughts!!

[WhiskeyGirl]

Well ladies! I thought I would at least give you an update on MY dad! He had his operation today and thank god everything went well!! I even talked to him on the phone this afternoon! Now if only my DH's dad could get better as fast!! He's still on strict bed rest and taking lots of blood thiners! Gawww!! lol Anyhow, thanks everyone for your kind words and support!

[WebLady]

Glad to hear he came out of his surgery. We will keep you guys in our thoughts and prayers.

[tha_mrs]

Glad everything went well for your family.

[StaceyMc]

You and your family will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers. It's great to hear that your father's operation went well. I hope that your FIL continues to follow his doctor's orders and stays on bedrest.

[Kacie_bride]

I feel for you Shawna. It seems to me when one thing goes wrong a million others do to. I'll be thinking about you.

[usahgrad]

Glad to hear everything went as well as it could have! Long distance hugs to you Shawna! It must be stressful!

[WhiskeyGirl]

Thank you everyone I really need the support today! Now I understand why I have been so grumpy and down the last couple days. Aunt Flo had to show her ugly head tonight!! Great that means TONS of tests for me this month!! One on day 3, then a HSG on Day 7-10 (one of those days) and then more tests on day 24 and then again on day 3. God I am going to be a human pin cushion! I am scared shitless!! I hate needles and I am scared of the hospital and my DH is in school and can't go with me to any of these! I will literally shake when I have to have these tests done...along with cold sweats and nausea!! I hate being a wuss!! lol (PS sorry if thats too much info but hey we're all women here!!) The HSG is a medical procedure and I shouldn't drive myself but I have to because there is no one else to do it!! And I will meet the doctor THAT DAY!! No meeting before, no I have to go and meet him that day and then let him do the VERY INVASIVE test on me!! Gawd I hate how things are working out lately. I could cry!!!!!

[rainbowtreat]

If I was thre I would drive you so you wouldnt be alone. I am sure we all would if we could. Good luck with all of those tests. Keep us updated.

[WhiskeyGirl]

Thanks Gwen!! I appreciate it!! I'm goin to talk to my DH and explain to him how freaked out I am and how I could really use him there for at least the HSG. I'll deal with the blood tests myself but the hospital and HSG is going to cause me serious anxiety!!

[usahgrad]

I think we'd all drive you there if we were close enough. You'd have a whole hoard of women waiting in the lobby for you!

I'm sorry that your tests are causing you anxiety. Try to think of the hopeful end result and maybe that will help you get through it easier. Good luck!

[WebLady]

yeah ... you know that we are all here for you :hug:

Funny, I hate blood tests and anything at the Dr involving needles or possible pain, I am a big baby about that. But I sat through a 6 hour tattoo ;) I think it is all in your head. So just think about why you are going through all of this. I know you'll get through it :D

[WhiskeyGirl]

Thanks Branid and Kelli. I'm not sure I'll even be able to have the test done this month because it will have to be done on easter long weekend and we all know how doctors will take time out of thier schedules for people!!! I guess I'll just have to wait and see. If it is next month that I have to have it done then my DH can rearrange his flying lessons to take me, so at least that would be good!! Thanks again!