announcing registries

[wooser]

I know it's considered bad etiquette to put where you are registered in your announcements. But I am curious how many people do it anyway. I was not planning on doing it, but a friend of mine was saying that she doesn't see the problem. She says that since we are getting married out of state that it would be difficult for us to get the word out. We are registered at Bed, Bath, and Beyond, but we are also doing a honeymoon registry online.
So, I have tried to create a poll to see what everyone else thinks.

Thanks,
Niki

[MrsBold]

I plan on including a card with our website details. It will say "for more information regarding location, local amenities, and registry please visit. www.com."

[WebLady]

As you know it is an etiquette no-no to mention the registry in the invitations; it is generally suppose to be a word of mouth thing. These days with wedding websites, this is another good place to talk about the registry.

If you are going to send out something I'd do it with a separate card, maybe with other useful info about the wedding, so it doesn't seem all about gifts.

But as with everything; there is no real right or wrong for everyone ... you have to do what is right for you in your situation. If your wedding is more formal/traditional and/or your family is, then I would try to stick to more formal etiquette. Otherwise you could "get away" with less formalities.

In general etiquette is just good manners and common sense ;)

[MrsBold]

My dad needs a lesson in manners when it comes to the wedding. He doesn't want to send invites to people who most likely won't come. I think it is rude not to at least invite them and extend the welcome to friends and family. Regardless of their ability to come I want them to know they are wanted.

[firespirit]

I just but links to the registries on my wedding website.

[bichonlvr]

I said other...I think website is the KEY!

Gosh what did people do before there was the internet and WEB!?!?! :)

[wooser]

For those that use your website, what about the guests that aren't internet savy? I am 31 and many of my guests are older family members who aren't familiar with the internet.
Also how do you get the word out about your website?

Niki

[neebelung]

As you know it is an etiquette no-no to mention the registry in the invitations; it is generally suppose to be a word of mouth thing. These days with wedding websites, this is another good place to talk about the registry.


I agree. We've included our registry info on our wedding website, and then I've also given the info to my MoH, so that she can 'spread the word.'

[firespirit]

For those that use your website, what about the guests that aren't internet savy? I am 31 and many of my guests are older family members who aren't familiar with the internet.
Also how do you get the word out about your website?

Niki

The main reason I put up the website was for out of town information and to keep the guests updated on events taking place near the time.

So I included the website in the save the dates, and said "For out of town and area information go to www...."

I also included the website on the invitation for people to go there for information and also as the recommended method to RSVP.

I didn't mention it had registry information, I figure if people stumble across it on the website, great.

[FFC]

I plan on including a card with our website details.

That's exactly what we did. Also, I made my own registry card with all 3 registries on it and included that in the shower invitations.

[Nikita706]

I'm one of the idiots who had NO IDEA it was bad etiquette to send the registry cards with the invitations. Honestly, I didn't even think twice about it. And I know I've mentioned it in a different thread on here, but I still find a lot of the wedding etiquette frustrating. I think that most people would find it more convenient to know where the couple was registered, rather than having to go out of their way to get a hold of people who may or may not know. It's the elephant in the living room scenario. Everyone knows that it's customary to bring a gift to a wedding, but nobody's allowed to talk about it.

Anyway, I know I've received invitations with registry information on it, and I didn't bat an eye. Hopefully nobody else will either, lol.

[FFC]

Every one I've recieved has had the registry cards in them... don't sweat it :) I am HOPING that people make use of my website LOL.

[Nikita706]

Every one I've recieved has had the registry cards in them... don't sweat it :)

Thanks, lol. At least now I know so I can warn others before they send theirs out. I ran it by, like, 5 people before I mailed them out and not one person mentioned it! lol.

[southern*belle*]

I included the message of where we were registered in my shower invitations. The ladies who are invited to my shower are also invited to the wedding, so those who don't come to the shower will bring gifts to the actual wedding.

[10Nov2008]

It's bad form to include registry information on the invitation. It makes it seem like you're JUST wanting gifts. I've heard a lot of complaints from people invited to weddings where this etiquette no-no was done.

It IS acceptable to put registry information on shower invites because, traditionally, the shower is a gift giving event....it was done to "shower the bride" with things she would need to set up house.

It's ok to put registry information on your website, but I've read in a few etiquette sites/books that you should put the info a few pages down...kind of hide it. Links to the the registry on the first page are akin to puting it on the invitation.

[Nekochanpurr]

We are just putting them on the shower invites..