Am I starting to plan too soon?

[Dawn]

My fiance and I are looking to do an end of summer wedding in 2007. I am already thinking about things. I think he feels overwhelmed with my thinking ahread. He seems to think I am starting to plan too soon. I disagree with him. I just want to make sure everything turns out well. He cant seem to understand why i am thinking of these things already. Who's right? Am I starting to think about these things too soon. I dont want to scare him away.

[StaceyMc]

It not to early to plan.

If you started six months ahead, your FH would still say that it's too early. They don't understand how much planning and thought goes into this type of event.

Get your ideas together so you know what you're looking for. And then you can keep your eye out for sales. Imagine the things that will go on sale at the end of this summer that will be perfect for your wedding next summer?

My FH got a little annoyed at my daily wedding chatter, so I just stopped talking about it everyday. But I never stop thinking about it.

[Kacie_bride]

You can always begin planning and not discuss it with him yet. My fh thinks I'm ahead of myself and my wedding is 9 months away. Sometimes I feel overwhelmed. Defiantely keep an eye out for the sales like said before. Now is a good time for you to start attending bridal shows. They are good for ideas. I went to a very large one and a very small one. I liked the small one better because you can get very personable with the people. The large one I went to was very overwhelming and had way too many people.

[Dawn]

It not to early to plan.

If you started six months ahead, your FH would still say that it's too early. They don't understand how much planning and thought goes into this type of event.

Get your ideas together so you know what you're looking for. And then you can keep your eye out for sales. Imagine the things that will go on sale at the end of this summer that will be perfect for your wedding next summer?

My FH got a little annoyed at my daily wedding chatter, so I just stopped talking about it everyday. But I never stop thinking about it.

OMG, you sound just like me. lol. Even down to annoying your FH with wedding chatter. My best friend is being really weird about everything, so I really had no one to talk to for a while, until I came here. (thanks guys). Every time I saw a dress I liked, I would want to show Dave, but he told me that he doesnt want to see them. He said he didnt want to see it cause he wants to be surprised, but I think the real reason is that he just doesnt care, and doesnt want to tell me the truth cause he doesnt wanna hurt my feelings.

[bnd94]

I agree the guys don't understand how much planning is involved. I think the earlier you start the better. You have more opportunities to save money too. :D

[Kacie_bride]

OMG, you sound just like me. lol. Even down to annoying your FH with wedding chatter. My best friend is being really weird about everything, so I really had no one to talk to for a while, until I came here. (thanks guys). Every time I saw a dress I liked, I would want to show Dave, but he told me that he doesnt want to see them. He said he didnt want to see it cause he wants to be surprised, but I think the real reason is that he just doesnt care, and doesnt want to tell me the truth cause he doesnt wanna hurt my feelings.


Maybe with some guys not wanting to see the dresses may be because they really don't care. My FH really does not want to see the dress because he's taking the traditional route thinking it is bad luck to see the dress. The night before we are not going to stay together and the whole day of the wedding we are not going to see each other. The first time he'll see after the rehearsal dinner is when I walk down the aisle.

[Jenn060306]

I started planning my wedding in November 2004. I think booking a reception site as soon as you can is a good idea. Especaily if you have your heart set on a specific day and place. You'd rather be able to get the things you want then be disapointed because you can't have it.

I waitied until 6 months before the weddding to try and book my guest accomidations and i was really disapointed when my first choice of hotels was completely booked. I couldn't belive it. Then this past weekend i tried to make a booking for my hair dresser to do my hair on my wedding day and he already had a wedding booked. I couldn't belive that i needed to do that more then 3 months in advance. Now i'm stuck trying to find a hair dresser who will do 6 peoples hair.

Check out the wedding time line on this website. It's pretty good, help you figure out what you need to do when. Talk to your FH about the time line and tell him you'd like to book some things far in advance so you don't have to worry about them. Plus yu will have more time to spread the expenses out.
Good Luck!

[CindySue]

I have just over 2 months left and Brian STILL says "what the hurry?" I just want to :chair: sometimes, but I resist that urge.

[WhiskeyGirl]

Planning in advance is a really good idea! This way you will almost be certain to get what you want!! Most places you need to book your reception venue a year in advance espicially if it is a summer wedding! Photographers are usually 6 months to a year ahead booking, and you want to be sure you can book your hair dresser, cake baker, and order your dress with enough time for it arrive. (they can sometimes take up to five months to come in!!) So, yeah, I don't think you are rushing things and you tell that FH of yours that if you want the perfect wedding, you need to start now!! Yes, you can plan a wedding in a short time, but you can also take your time and have more oppurtunities to get exactly what you want!!

[andysgirl07]

We were engaged on March 30, 2005 (almost a year ago) and our date is set for May 12, 2007. I started looking through magazines and getting ideas soon after we got engaged. So it's definitely not too soon! At first I thought the day when I could REALLY begin planning would never get here, but it's fast approaching. I've been talking to photographers (earlier the better with them) the past couple of days. Trust me - it sneaks up on you fast!

[CarlosHoney]

A year is about right to start planning, you're not really ahead. The longer you plan, and the farther in advance you start, the better deals you will get. Shop around, plan ahead, and you'll be left with nothing to do a few weeks ahead of time. You'll end up driving yourself crazy with nothing to do! ;)

[ikkin510]

I don't think it's too soon. Expecially since you are trying to save money. You will be able to get a lot of great deals by doing end of the season clearance shopping. That helps with decorations and dresses, etc.

[StaceyMc]

Dawn,
My FH hasn't seen my dress and he won't. It's a surprise. I haven't even showed him any pictures, although I have a horrible time not telling him about it.

I'll bet that he does want to be surprised! Imagine the look on his face when he sees the woman he loves in a beautiful gown!!

I'm sure he's not being mean...just wants the surprise!

[LaceyinPgh]

I started to plan at the 15 month mark and I was fighting for vendors at taht point. Plus now at 2 months to go I still have a TON of stuff that needs done. You aren't too early. But, most places won't book your event more than a year in advance.

[Pemberleigh]

My wedding won't be until May 2007 and I've had the same problem. I've learned to stop talking about it. There's just so much to think about! I never wanted that BIG wedding, but I've found that there's a lot to do for a small wedding too!

[Kacie_bride]

Welcome Pemberleigh! Even if you can't talk about to other people we are all ears here. Just start posting away!

[Twigler]

My wedding date is June 9 of 2007 and I have already started to plan a lot of my stuff. I had to book the reception site early because they fill up so fast ahead of time! I even have a scrapbook filled with stuff I am collecting for ideas and tips. About a month ago I went to a Braidal Expo and signed up for a ton of free stuff and even won a pearl necklace and bracelet! So I am planning on attending as many of the Bridal expos as I can before my wedding. I say start planning now to lessen the stress as the date gets closer.

[dee177]

hi dawn,
no I dont think your planning too early at all if you work full time then then your spare time is limited so the earlier you start the better plus, any you come up with will turn into even better ideas the more time you have to think about them. good luck with everything hun and summer 2007 wii be here bfore you know it, it seems like last week when my wedding was 18 months away and now its only six months away. xx

[fotogrllt]

You are not planning too soon. I already have brides book for the summer of 2007 to do wedding photography. His feeling overwhelmed is natural for the men. Believe or not they still believe that is the womans job. That is why moms and sisters are the saviors. Go ahead plan and do the arrangements. Then about once a month give him a quick update. Just make sure you have his favorite beer and food at the reception.

[happy2babride]

my fiance' thought that i was jumping the gun when we were engaged 8 months ago and we're getting married in september. sometimes guys don't understand how much is out there and how hard it is to plan a wedding! sometimes i get so stressed about the details. i think it's better for you to have it all done so that you don't have to worry about anything down the road. if you don't already have a photographer or videographer you should really check out the guys i just booked. they were super helpful, too. they travel everywhere it seems like.
take care

http://www.alwaysautumnstudios.com

-stacey

[CindySue]

my fiance' thought that i was jumping the gun when we were engaged 8 months ago and we're getting married in september. sometimes guys don't understand how much is out there and how hard it is to plan a wedding! sometimes i get so stressed about the details. i think it's better for you to have it all done so that you don't have to worry about anything down the road. if you don't already have a photographer or videographer you should really check out the guys i just booked. they were super helpful, too. they travel everywhere it seems like.
take care

http://www.alwaysautumnstudios.com

-stacey
Brian was the same way. When we became engaged, we had 9 months to plan and he wanted to know what the rush was. Now we have a month and a half to go and he wants to know if everything is ready!!!
And i definitely get stressed too. When Im having a meltdown, he will ask me if its life stress, wedding stress, or Brian stress.