139 confirmed to attend..but have a question...

[LILBOBO1980]

Ok... So right now the count is up to 139 people that have RSVP'd to attend. I have only had about 7 people!!!! RSVP stating they will not be attending.

My question is this... in general if someone does not RSVP does that usually mean they are not attending or the exact opposite? Any ladies with experience on this?

[Dani]

I would go ahead and call them just to make sure.

I have been to weddings where people have RSVP'd and not shown up, and where people didn't RSVP and did show up.

I have a few straglers out there as well, but I am thinking they are not attending just because its a DW and I would have heard by now.

[LILBOBO1980]

I thought about calling but decided against it. I called some of the people I invited but decided not to call his side. Most of then are extremely old fashion and I don't want to come off as being pushy. I know it should not matter but it does to me.

[Dani]

I would have him call then. It's his wedding to! Besides you are only a few days out, you need to know!

[Deanna2112001]

I am going to a wedding May 3rd. I was supposed to rsvp by April 1st. I totally forgot and yep.. lol My cousin called me and asked. If I was going.. I felt horrible for forgetting. But was ok with it. Now I really have to make it up when I get there! lol

[wedbyjean]

My question is this... in general if someone does not RSVP does that usually mean they are not attending or the exact opposite? It only means that they haven't returned the RSVP card. It is not unusual to have several people not send them back, although many are planning on attending.

Call those who haven't responded. It's the only way to know for sure.

[lize566]

We had a few that didn't RSVP, but we didn't call them. Turned out that a few that didn't RSVP did show up, but quite a few that did RSVP DIDNT show up, so my advice would be to kinda of estimate a fair number and go with that. It's a tough call, though really.

[ladymelissa]

I thought about calling but decided against it. I called some of the people I invited but decided not to call his side. Most of then are extremely old fashion and I don't want to come off as being pushy. I know it should not matter but it does to me.

You aren't being pushy by calling, they are the ones being rude. As if they can't figure out or worse, can't be bothered to check a box and use your self-addressed, stamped envelope.

[brendalin]

I don't think that it is rude to call and check with people. If you are uncomfortable calling his side I would have him or your FMIL call. When it comes down to the wire for us I will probably call the people that I am close with if I do not hear from them.

[dawsmi]

I don't think it is rude to call at all! Some people completely forget and so I called a few people! There wasn't too many that didn't RSVP but I called anyway!! I would suggest though if you are planning on opening up the dance to other people like I did that you have a couple extra seats at the supper! We had a couple extra people show up for the supper that were only invited to the dance! It worked well for us because a few people that said they were coming didn't come and a few got sick and couldn't make it because of the weather! Just have a couple extra seats in the back for the ones who come unexpectedly!! JMO!! I don't want you to have to turn people away! Good luck and all the best to you!!!

[sjk1431]

I will be calling the ones that didn't rsvp the day after the final rsvp date. I don't think it's pushy at all.

[exoduslaughin]

We called the people who did not RSVP. Some were coming, some weren't. They just hadn't sent in the replies. You need to know a final count, so you can tell your caterer. Also, if you are doing seating cards/chart, you need to know who is coming. It's not rude to call them.

[val24]

i had to call people to get my final count, still waiting to hear back from people
at least my family is finally accounted for. his family hopefully this weekend...
friends - i am having the hardest time getting a hold of some of them

I would call them or make the parents do it. I had my dad call 4 people and had his grandma call 2 people. It is working out so far!