Why do people get jealous of brides

[9801crystal]

I would like to start a topic. My topic is about jealous family members and friends. When we brides have out of this world weddings. And spend a little extra on things that people will look down on. They have to insult us or say I wouldn't spend four hundred or more on a wedding dress. Or they will say why are you hiring a dj you don't need all that just bring a stereo that will be fine.:bbeek: Thuh! Hello we women want a nice wedding just once can we be a queen for a day. I would like to hear articles of all of you brides or married women. That have gone through this jealousy drama. Because I have read stories by people and their horrible friends being jealous. I think that it is horrible what some of you have gone through. So if anyone is interested in this post lets chat.

Crystal

[CindySue]

Ive noticed that too. While my wedding is very small and intimate, I have a "friend" that refuses to discuss anything concerning my wedding. And this is the same friend that was going to this and this and this, and then just disappeared. I tried calling and could never get her, so I just went ahead and took care of everything myself. I think she got mad. Well Im sorry if I didnt want to wait up until the last minute and take the chance that she wasnt going to come through.

[countrygirl]

I haven't had the prob of any one getting jealous, yet, but my sister isn't talking about it much. I told her two weeks ago that I am gettng married, she has only called me twice since. She is in the wedding, and doesn't seem interested. I don't know if it could jealousy, she rushed into her marriage, and when it was planned, she ended up eloping, and her marriage hasn't been great. It's revolved around his family, and there has been alot of turmoil w our family. It's just wierd.

I have had prob w my sis since J and I met, and have heard from alot of people that she is jealous of the happiness that we have together. I hate to think that, but, I wonder too.

Does any of this make sense??

[CindySue]

I haven't had the prob of any one getting jealous, yet, but my sister isn't talking about it much. I told her two weeks ago that I am gettng married, she has only called me twice since. She is in the wedding, and doesn't seem interested. I don't know if it could jealousy, she rushed into her marriage, and when it was planned, she ended up eloping, and her marriage hasn't been great. It's revolved around his family, and there has been alot of turmoil w our family. It's just wierd.

I have had prob w my sis since J and I met, and have heard from alot of people that she is jealous of the happiness that we have together. I hate to think that, but, I wonder too.

Does any of this make sense??

Actually it does.......my friend i was referring to in the earlier post is one of those that just HAS to have a man in her life. She cant stand to be single. And when she has one, she drops everything and every one for him. Ok thats fine and dandy, but when he drops her, she expects all her friends to waiting on the sidelines for her to cry on their shoulders.
She said something about ME dropping everyone for Brian (ok shes met him and loved him to death!) but Ive pulled up my phone bills.....I talk to her more now than I did before I met him. She wants to go to the bar, and doesnt understand why I have no desire to go with her.
I just cant stand people that think they are the only ones in this world that deserve to be happy.

[9801crystal]

Well I know I went through with it. I will tell you ladies about what I went through before my wedding. This will be long so don't get bored. First of all I had a best friend for four years, Who I did everything for she knew me before my husband came along. She never had a wedding she got married at the justice of the peace. When she got married she married right out of highschool at 18 yrs old. Her parents did not approve either. He was her first and he did her wrong. They are still married last I know but besides the point. She was always wanting to stay at my house to get away from him. Because he would go crazy on her. She never really acted thankful to me. She always lied and I would catch her in her lies. Then she would confess and tell the truth later I would always forgive her. She was so dang stingy about money even over a dollar. When I got married at the justice of peace. I didn't tell her right away because she acted so darn jealous of the whole thing. You know how I told her in front of my grandmother and some company. She acted very rude in front of everyone. She asked questions like oh well when did this happen blah blah blah. She never said congratulation either. She asked after company left why didn't you tell me right away. I said because you have turned into a judgemental hippocrit. And I don't know how to talk to you anymore. She woke up and smelled the coffee then. But she would always make snide remarks about my upcoming wedding ceremony. Because we had one a few months after we got married. She never did anything nice for herself. She wore clothes that looked really cheap never wore make-up. And she married a bum who lived in a trailor with a hole in the porch a big hole. On the outside of her trailor the sheilds were coming off. And on top of that nice cars stacked on one another. The guy encouraged her to go strip for a living. I have nothing against that though. Unless a girl is doing that to go through school and pay bills. But she did it because he wouldn't work he sat around and smoked dope. He wouldn't pay child support she was doing it for him. The last straw to our friendship was my wedding coming up. I saw how she really is. She had called me one day and said her husband beat her and threw her out of the house naked. She had said she has bruises all over her body. So I went over there unnannounced her husband answerd the door. I went in the bedroom and woke her up asked her to come with me she does't need this life. She said I will be fine I pulled the blankets off of her. She had no bruises at all. That was a lie and her other lies and jealousy I couldn't deal with. So I e-mailed her told her to leave me alone with your lies and hippocrism. Then I got my number changed that is how I took care of that. She never was invited to my wedding and she missed out. This is a short version of the jealous ex best friend just to let you ladies know.
Crystal

[Kacie_bride]

I've not yet had to deal with a lot of jealousy drama. But I still have 9 months and three weeks to go. I know plenty can brew between now and then. I have to admit though I am probably guilty of being jealous. I don't think I let it on though. Last summer one of my fh friends was getting married. I was really getting down about us not yet being engaged. It was really bothering me, especially since I thought he was going to ask me on my birthday and didn't. We went to the wedding and I really felt bad the whole time. Justin knew, and a couple of my friends knew. But I didn't let anyone know that was involved in the wedding nor did I do anything to rain on anyone else's parade. I was still polite and congratualted the couple. Now that I am engaged and am planning my wedding I feel bad about it.

[CindySue]

Crystal....Im sorry you had to lose a friend like that, but I feel even more sorry that she has chosen to live that life.
I have came across several people like that in my 32 years and the way i see it, if they dont want to be my friend, thats their loss, because I know how good of a friend I am!
Good luck!!!

[9801crystal]

Thank you cindy sue for your concern that was very sweet.
Take care
Crystal

[9801crystal]

Ok ladies I am going to make some pizza and talk at you later.
Crystal

[Kacie_bride]

Save some for me! I'm terribly hungry.

[9801crystal]

Kacie you shouldn't feel guilty because you were a little jealous at the recent wedding you went too. Because at the time you didn't act mean to anyone like a lot of these people can do when they found out their friends get married. My mom always says that women get jealous of their friends getting married for several reasons. Because either they cannot be with that friend as much. Or because they just can't stand to be the center of attention. When my mom got married the second time she had a best friend for years. And all of a sudden this friend just dissapeared. She didn't return my moms calls or anything.But at least you haven't run into the jealousy issue yet be thankful.
Crystal

[CarlosHoney]

I know that I went through a period of being obsessed with getting married. Carlo and I weren't engaged yet, and I didn't bring it up with him, but I would spend hours on wedding planning sites, just immagining the wedding of my dreams. I would get jealous when other people got married. It's because women who are getting married are getting lots of attention.. They're getting to spend a whole day focused on them, their man, and their love. Many men are afraid of commitment, and afraid of marriage, and women have been dreaming of that day since the first time we watched Cinderella.

[Kacie_bride]

I know that I went through a period of being obsessed with getting married. Carlo and I weren't engaged yet, and I didn't bring it up with him, but I would spend hours on wedding planning sites, just immagining the wedding of my dreams. I would get jealous when other people got married. It's because women who are getting married are getting lots of attention.. They're getting to spend a whole day focused on them, their man, and their love. Many men are afraid of commitment, and afraid of marriage, and women have been dreaming of that day since the first time we watched Cinderella.


Lol! I would buy bride's magazines and stare at them. Then I would hide them from Justin. He caught me with one after we had been together for a little over a year and I think it freaked him out at the time. Good thing it doesn't freak him out anymore (but if it did we wouldn't be getting married would we). Now I have about a million bride magazines everywhere.

[CarlosHoney]

Lol! I would buy bride's magazines and stare at them. Then I would hide them from Justin. He caught me with one after we had been together for a little over a year and I think it freaked him out at the time. Good thing it doesn't freak him out anymore (but if it did we wouldn't be getting married would we). Now I have about a million bride magazines everywhere.I bought one for my trip to Arkansas, so I'd have something to look at on the plane.. Well, I've gotten so much more-and better-help here, and I didn't have to pay $6 for it. :bbconfused:

The mag was full of ads, and the few good ideas it had were WAY out of my budget. Everything it said I already knew, or could find for free here on onewed.com...

[9801crystal]

Yeah I am not innocent either. I would buy those bridal magazines also before my husband came along in my life. I used to think I will do this and that. What a idiot I was. But I still love those bridal magazines and love to look at dresses. I get jealous of the pretty girls in the bridal magazines. Because I say to myself wow I wish they had this design when I got married. And if you are my age I remember looking at bridal magazines in the 80s as a kid. I loved the sweetheart gowns. With the heart on the back and the heart would be in real pearls. Do you ladies remember the designers and styles of the dresses back then?
Crystal

[CindySue]

And if you are my age I remember looking at bridal magazines in the 80s as a kid. I loved the sweetheart gowns. With the heart on the back and the heart would be in real pearls. Do you ladies remember the designers and styles of the dresses back then?
Crystal

Yeah, I remember.....how old are you Crystal, if you dont mind me asking, Im 32.

[Kacie_bride]

I was very young in the 80's, but I remember the heart shaped backs to the gowns and the big hair and all that! I remember leggings and two different colored socks. Do you remember tying your shirts on the side and side pony tails!

[officiant-fica]

I was very young in the 80's, but I remember the heart shaped backs to the gowns and the big hair and all that! I remember leggings and two different colored socks. Do you remember tying your shirts on the side and side pony tails!
Not just leggings, but stirrup pants, and parachute pants! Michael Jackson totally rocked and wearing your "shaker stitch" sweater backwards so there was a V in the back...................showing my age LOL

[officiant-fica]

Yeah, I remember.....how old are you Crystal, if you dont mind me asking, Im 32. Me too Cindy!

[Kacie_bride]

Not just leggings, but stirrup pants, and parachute pants! Michael Jackson totally rocked and wearing your "shaker stitch" sweater backwards so there was a V in the back...................showing my age LOL

Oh yes, I remember stirrup pants. I don't know if this was the 80's or early 90's, but do you remember the body suits and those shirts that turned colors when you got hot. People who sweated bad it turned colors under their arms!

[officiant-fica]

Hypercolor! I saw a VH1 show with those a while back! Talk about a blast from the past!! I think it was the late 80's/early 90's!

[Kacie_bride]

I thought they were pretty cool back then, but I didn't ever have one. I'm glad I didn't now because the dark marks under the arms is gross.

[9801crystal]

Cindy to answer your question I am thirty years old. No offense taken with you asking my age. Well I guess now this post will be about 80's gowns hahaha anything is fun to me. I will come back on this post later maybe in a few days. I would like to tell you guys here on this post. That I am glad I met some of you. Because I live on a military base and it's hard at times. My husband is in kuwait and their is nowhere to work. Because they all speak german. German is very hard to learn. The only places to work in at fast food restaurants or at the military grocery store. Everyone looks the same the military wives are not attractive. They give you dirty looks just because you are not fat like they are. Not all though I did join a frg group. Which is a military spouse club where we do fundraisers and we do events and help one another out in crisis. And we also do support our troops. So that is great but this chat board is my reality from reality. When I talk to you guys it makes me feel like I am a regular person. Some people do not care for me though on this board because I am a little blunt. But sometimes I come across that way to get my point across or to help people get back into reality. But I am just wanting to have a few chat friends. I don't want any ladies taking things by me personal. I am just sarcastic and have a different sense of humor. But when you guys read my other postings you will see that.
Take care everyone
Crystal

[rainbowtreat]

Glad we are able to help you out. Not that I was ever in your place but I was a single mom for some time when my kids were very young. I know what it is like to have a few chat frinds to make you feel like your doing some thing when you can't go any where or do any thing. ( If that made any sense at all lol ). I hope my coments didn't make you thin I don't like you. I am not a person to dislike some one very easily. I can make freinds with just about any one. Again , gald your here and that we can help you out in some way.

[9801crystal]

Well Rainbow,

You know if you cannot get past things because I am so direct. Did you ever think that I was never insulting you on your reply in a seperate post. I never said you were a princess you jumped to conclusions. It is some people do act like the world revals around them and you did come across that way complaining about silly stuff. But I never told you that either. Stop telling me how you feel and tell the admin complain to him about me ok. You jump me because I have a opinion the first day I was here. Just because your nerves are rattled doesn't mean you have to harrass people of their opinions. I like everyone here even you. I always try to see the good in people. But it is very hard when you and weblady did that.
9801Crystal

[9801crystal]

I am sorry about this ladies
Crystal

[rainbowtreat]

Enough already drop it. I said nothing bad about you. I aplogized if my post made you feel bad. Dont start this up. I am done with this.

[9801crystal]

Well then don't sit their and come on a post and say in a sentence. I don't like you. You never said sorry because you contradicted yourself. You tried to make your self seem important by saying I don't like you.
9801Crystal

[WhiskeyGirl]

Well then don't sit their and come on a post and say in a sentence. I don't like you. You never said sorry because you contradicted yourself. You tried to make your self seem important by saying I don't like you.
9801Crystal

Why must you carry on?? Gwen was being polite and saying that she was glad that you are here, don't jump all over her...she was trying, which is more then I can say for you!! If you don't like what others say about you, then ignore it and really, why are you here?? You are already married anyhow! Its not like you came here to get advice and its not like the advice you have been giving is well recieved!! Are you here for the pay out??

[StaceyMc]

I can't figure out why Crystal is unloading on Gwen. I've read Gwen's post at least three times and I can't find where she's saying anything bad about Crystal.

Crystal, you keep posting about how you're so blunt. Everyone is "blunt", there are some that know when and how to use their "bluntness" and there are others who just act ignorantly and claim to be "blunt." You figure out which one you are acting like.

If you came here to make friends, that's great...if you came here to be "blunt", take it somewhere else.

I, for one, don't need your "bluntness" to bring me back to reality, I've got enough of my own reality and you can get your point across without being rude...errr...excuse me...."blunt".

[Shawna Bride]

I must totally be wrapped up in my wedding plans, because I totally missed that any type of drama was going on.

I'm sure that nothing was said to be hurtful or rude intentionally. I feel like I"ve really gotten to know most of you, and you've always been so kind and generous, and extremely helpful.

Well, that's my 2 cents.

[Kacie_bride]

Yeah um, I don't get it either. But I see Crystal has been banned so I guess it's over because she's gone. Oh well, back to the forum.